what is the best way to convince your parents for an inter religion love marriage?

Question

When you are the first in your generation for marriage

Answer 1

I have the same.. I have never been happier. Its a wonderful thing, you are constantly learning new things from the other person and sharing. Its quite possible to do. though difficult at some times. But, what marriage doesn't have its up and downs? I can gaurantee you, if you allow your parents to choose someone for you..the first time things go rocky, you will be thinking of the love you let go, because at the time you couldnt stand up for yourself. Dont let that torture you lifelong. .
My advice to you, would be to talk as rationally as you can with your parents. After that, there is nothing you can do. They may never accept your relationshp..BUT 95% of time they will eventually come around. Especially when they realize they are missing out on something so important, and how happy you are despite their approval. Or maybe not until later...There is hardly a person around no matter how stubborn that can resist a grandchild.
Stand your ground. Its not being disrespectful. Dont let them use emotional blackmail either. Afterall, isnt that person you are planning to marry, going to be with you the rest of your life? Long after children are grown, and parents are gone.

If parents are being pushy, its thier own selfishness, if they dont come to terms with your relationship. Some of their concern will be general, such as, what faith will you raise the children, etc.. (which should anyways be discussed before marriage between you and your fiance) Or they may be simply afraid of what others are thinking. Thats foolishness. And I hope you dont give those types of concerns a second thought. Imagine parents more concerned with what other people/society will think of them, then whether or not their child is happy in their marriage.
I hope things work out for you.. I can say, its the most personally satisfying thing I've ever done.

Answer 2

the best way is not to do anything, if you love the person then you give the relationship your all, eventually if your parents want the best for you and see you are happy they will change there minds. As far as i am concerned if both persons respect the religion of the other the marriage will work out. Also a marriage involves the two ppl involved not anyone else. Tell your parents how you feel about your parent, tell them y religion doesnt matter and that you love the person your with and maybe they will look pass everything else.

Answer 3

Isn't there a tradition in a part of India where Hindu boys are given to Sikh families for marriage? I don't remember what they're called. I think marriage between Hindus and Sikhs have the least problem. Ask your parents whether they would accept him if he became a Sikh, which means he completely adheres to the Sikh religion. Religious problems are funny to me because you can convert any second and no one would know or in this day and age, even care. I think the bigger problem is the fact that your boyfriend is disabled. He's gotta convince them that his disability doesn't affect his working life.

Answer 4

Firstly you don't have to convince them but convince yourself will you be able to pass rest of your life with a life partner whose way of life is different from you. After all what is religion it is the way of life we follow, in form of culture, traditions, social obligations, manners, etc. Different religions follow all these in a set manner according to the place of evolution of the religion. If you can manage with a person who is not following your culture, tradition, manners etc then its fine, how the parents have to say anything. After all the parents are there with you for some years but your life partner is with you till your old age & death. What every parent wants is the welfare of his/her child. If the child is happy so are parents. Now you need not have to beg or request your parents for this entire episode , all you have to do tell them, your decision, tell them you have studied all aspects of such matrimonial union between you & the person who belongs to different religion & you are very much convinced that such a union will be successful for both of you. You will be very happy with such a union & if you are not allowed to marry such a person you will never remain happy in your life so such a marriage should be given due consent for happy ending. Also tell them that you will continue to follow your religion & the other person will be allowed to follow his/her religions for which both of you have mutually agreed. There will not be any change of religion by any of us & we will marry legally under the Special Marriage Act, 1954 before the Marriage officer/registrar which allows any inter religious marriage in India. You must tell this to them so in case of any doubt that you may not change your religion to carry on such marriage is absolutely removed from their mind. Definitely the parents after listening to all your argument will allow you & you can go ahead with this Holy & legal matrimonial union. Best of luck. For more guidance on the marriage under the special marriage act check my profile answers or contact me directly.

Answer 5

there can be no best way. for simple reason that humans are all different & what works well in one situation goes dud in another. the best chance would be sit with your parents & put your points. at the same time listen to their objections/ concerns. if possible involve your brother/sis /relative you both are comfortable with so that he can lead you both through. it is important that you listen & resolve all their concerns. if possible & acceptable arrange for meeting between your parents & the girl.

Answer 6

Do some research on it to provide statistics proving a high percentage of successes is the best way I know of. (except in the case of muslim/other religion...but that's the only exception I know of)

Answer 7

Are you in love? Are you scared to tell it to your parents? Then read this successful love story and guidelines on how to convince your parents about your love
http://living.oneindia.in/relationship/parents-and-children/restrictedlove.html

Answer 8

I assume you're over 18 and capable of making your own decisions. Then you should just kindly inform them. If they care about you, they will gradually get used to the idea, especially if your spouse is worth their respect.

Answer 9

Proof them that u cant leave without her. Parents always want their children to b happy .M sure they will accept it.Make them understand that its not a big deal nowadays.

Answer 10

Every parents have some dreams about their children.First you have to make the dreams true.Once they are happy about your achievements,then it is easy for you to convince them.