How can I show her I love her so so much ? please help?

Question

My 3 years partner feels that I cant be what she needs, we have had an up and down relationship with things that have hurt us both in the past, i have gone to the ends of the earth for her and we have been together for three years now, I love her deeply and this split we have had has shown me that although I have made many changes to be what she needs I still needed to change more, she is my life, my heart is completely hers, I know under the upset she miss's me, she has told me so, she seems so scared that being with me would make her unhappy again, but I know how she needs to be treated and what she needs, how can I show the woman who I desperately love how life could be with me from here ?, she has become very enclosed in herself and I find it difficult to speak her, i know she is protecting herself from upset but all I want to do is make her so very happy ?, how can I get her to see I really mean what i say and feel and how different it would be now, I love her so much, please help

Answer 1

Why don't you just ask her. Men are not brilliant at reading signs. My husband is like you. If he asked me what I wanted my reply would be more than double the size of your question.

Answer 2

you already have changed and showed her how much you love her. How much has she changed for you? Remember a relationship should go both ways not onesided where only you make all the adjustments . That's wrong . this makes her sound one heck of a spoild woman. Sometimes even though you love somebody with all that you have is sometimes not enough for the other person , then you do need to let her go . Once again you will fimd somebody that will LOVE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE , without having to make all these major changes for somebody that does not accept who you are .

best of luck

Answer 3

a tough question, i feel for you mate.
All I can suggest is either put your feelings down in a carefully written letter from the heart, so she can read it a few times in her own time, or consider some "outside of the relationship" help such as Relate. You can see them on your own if she won't come with you, and they'll give you support.
Token gifts and stuff will just be a waste of money in my opinion, and an offer of marriage or similar committment probably won't solve the situation long term.
Good luck, I hope you find the answer to your question from someone here even if it isn't me.

Answer 4

Keep up the good work, because you obviously do love her, but if she's being selfish and she's not sure if she loves you, then you have to back-off.

Let her learn by herself if she loves you. She will learn that if she cannot live without you, she does love you, but you can only be together when she finds that out.

Tell her you have tried to show her how much you love her and you will always be there right by her side, if she decides that she loves you too. Lots of Luck

Answer 5

You sound like a very sincere person. You need to look at your life and figure out where your going. No person on this earth should make you change. We all have our faults and whom ever we are with needs to live with these and not try and change you into something your not. I understand you love her, but I think you need to look else where and find some one who will appreciate you for who you actually are.

Answer 6

She has you by the little finger, you have changed allot for her, but i don't see where she has changed anything for you. It doesn't sound like she is willing to work on this relationship. I don't doubt your love for her but if i may say so it sounds a bit one sided. Why don't you try not talking to her for awhile, maybe she is feeding her ego (by you calling and doing all the changing) I would cut all communication from her and see if she starts calling you or trying to work things out. I hope i helped some, and good luck

Answer 7

the fact that you even asking for help in such an open way says that you must be a special guy. write to her. put everything you feel on paper so she can read it over and over, send her flowers and chocolates, maybe even a nice bracelet or something and in a card invite her to go to counselling with you. let her see that you need her and that you want her back and dont give up. good luck, well done for being the kind of man i would treasure.

Answer 8

You say you have changed so much for her, if she loves you she would love you for you and there would be no need for you to change into someone else? Maybe it should be her that needs time to think and do some changing herself.

Maybe you could just remain friends and build yourselves up from there, but you shouldn't have to change that much to be with someone I slight tweek here and there maybe but nothing much

I wish you well

Answer 9

you're in a rough spot here. the best thing for you to do is start over. date her again, treat her like you did when you first met. be aware though that she'll still be confused and hurt but you have to keep trying and letting her know that you DO LOVE HER and you care.......GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

i think you must talk to her and let her know about your true love.Tell her that whats all happen between both of you was just and nothing else.And being if you both marry to eah other then this realationship will not curse her any more....
Do you know.... she also loves you by heart that why she have * * * with you.But she felt upset bcose might be she thinks that she had did this wrongly with her true freinds.
Her her know truth of love&life.
And beleive me.....best freinds will always be best partners too.Bcose we can spent all moments of joy & curse with our freind only....