should i stay with my partner?

Question

i love my partner dearly but we dont do anything together. we've been together nearly 3 years and hes only took me out twice and that includes our first date i want to leave him but im also scared of being on my own and unable to find somone else

Answer 1

First off..have you told your partner what you feel? Maybe if you two talked it out you'll either realize

1. its the end of the road...there are other fish in the sea you know..

or 2. Maybe they have some issues that need to be worked out too and your relationship will thrive...

Answer 2

this is a hard thing to decide all i can do is try to help by telling you that i have been there and this is my story. i dated a guy all through high school moved in with him when i was 18 we lived together for 7 years and we had nothing in common. on day i left i just gave him everything and i walked out he didn't even notice until 8 hours later that i had left him. now i saw so scared that no one would want me and i didn't think i would ever be able to make it on my own, but it is now 6 years later i have everything i have ever wanted. i have a home a guy that adores me a little girl and i have to say that it was the best thing i had ever done for my self. another tip : i loved being alone i found my self and i didn't have to answer to anyone or cook dinner for any one. i think everyone should experince that sometime. take care and good luck with that

Answer 3

well,do u remember a time ,that u were so sad &u thought that u will never get over this situation

or

do u remember a time that u thought that u are going to die for sure because of some thing ,well u got through them didn't u
"life is like that " sometimes it gives u the 1 thing u love most ,and take it back ,or it might give it for ever

best thing is to let go ur self "if it comes back it your "else it was never yours"
if u are a real honest person, let time pass by I'm sure u will find ur way out, if u were sad even 4a moment ,don't worry happiness will soon find u,talk to a him & tell how u fell inside,don't hold it inside ,the more u hold it inside it's getting worst

let the time be ur guid

Answer 4

Try talking to him about what you are feeling, and spell out exactly what you are looking for and what you feel (guys are not really good at "taking hints"). If that does not work, and he just does not want to do those things, then leave. Being on your own will be alright, and you will find someone if you are patient. Also, you should from time to time ask him to go out, relationships are two way streets.
Be sure that "going out" is what you are looking for, perhaps he shows his affection in different ways. Does he cook food for you at home? Does he buy you presents? Does he comfort you? These are all ways to show your affection, without having to go out in public (maybe he does not like crowds, or wants to be with you alone).

Answer 5

if you found him you can find someone else. You should never settle for anything OR anyone because only you are in charge of your happiness. First tell him how you feel and then show him and what I mean is start going out with your friends more often or hell go off by yourself for some alone time. Maybe he'll come to understand or maybe not either way if you want happiness then YOU have to make it happen.

Answer 6

If you love him then don't just leave him .I mean talk about it with him first. Maybe he's think's your content cause you haven't complained about it before. I wouldn't quit until I had a talk with him. If he says that he isn't into doing anything with you, well ya move on. Yes it is scary to leave a relationship but it's worse to stay in an unhealthy one. Never stay with someone just because you are scared. You will find someone else, trust me. I have been there! Look out for yourself and good luck!

Answer 7

Well - you take him out then.

Men are well known to be creatures of comfort - if he is getting everything that he needs at home without having to move out of his space - why should he?

You may love him(?) but does he feel the same way?

Why does he not want to show the world how proud he is of you?

How much more lonely would you be on your own than you are at this moment in time?

THIS IS YOUR LIFE - THE ONLY ONE THAT YOU ARE GOING GO HAVE - IT IS UP TO YOU TO MAKE THE MOST OF IT - STOP THINKING THAT SOMEONE ELSE IS GOING TO MAKE IT BETTER/RICHER/INTERESTING/WORTHWHILE - THEY ARE NOT.

Make plans. Get some money behind you. Find out about jobs/flats/study - surprise yourself - you will be amazed how much you can do on your own!

Good Luck!

Answer 8

You will not find anyone else while you are with this turnip..! I mean lets put things into perspective!
The sooner you get out, the sooner you can enjoy your life. Being single can be great too you know. There is the general enjoyment of going out to meet people, chatting up people etc etc and not having to feel guilty about it. So chill out and go for it.

Answer 9

i always say if you have ANY doubts at all about a relationship that you should end it
if you feel like you cant make it on your own
ask yourself how did you get your partner in the first place
you should be able to find someone else hun
if not a better someone else then who youre with now

Answer 10

because you re not used to being by yourself,the thought could be scary.but remember you came into this world alone,and you might go out that way too.
you re not happy? tell him everything.whens whys and hows.then you can take it from there.
tell him what you want to do,you owe that much.
watch for his reactions.you might learn something from them.hear him out too.
you will find out that being on your own is not such a bad idea.
good luck.