If you read my other questions ive been trying to split up with my boyfriend for a while now.
Well last night i actually did it! Even though im feeling really down about it today i know things will get better. Ive got to see him tonight to give his stuff back as well.
Anyone got any advice to make me feel better today?
Thanks xx
2007-04-17 21:01:15 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
jenniesrainbow's - how am i supposed to build bridges with someone that controls me! He dictates what i wear, who i see, when and where i go out!
I will not live that life, im 22 not 62! so its not like its impossible to build a new life!
2007-04-17 21:33:17 · update #1
Well done. Its never easy to break up with someone you love, yet you know things are not right between you. Credit to you girl! It must have been difficult, but well done. The worst is over with now, so do something with your friends which you havent done in a while - go out, see a film, go away for a weekend maybe?
Things will settle down, but remember to be strong, and to not let him control you.
You are not his. You are your own, and deserve to be happy. Good luck xxx
2007-04-17 23:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by angeljen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should feel proud for having the courage and self respect to walk away. You know for a while its going to be a little hard but you also know that you did the right thing and that soon enough you will feel good again and ready to move on. Just hold on to that thought and in the meantime look after yourself, why not treat yourself to some nice clothes
2007-04-17 22:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by mudfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the right thing! Keep strong, give him his stuff and don't listen to what he's got to say if he trys to get you back. If he does, tell him you've made your mind up, and that you aren't going to change it. If he still doesn't listen, just say that you don't have time because you are going out later then walk away! You shouldn't be worried (I do understand why you are though) - you have no ties with the bloke anymore!
Good luck!
2007-04-17 23:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't see him. You are being self-destructive. Send someone to get your stuff. From the post you just left (I've not read others) you had a hard time doing this. Which means that you can be drawn back in easily. If you are not playing games then send someone else to get your stuff and really be done with it. I know you have that little voice that keeps being real with you. But, you are putting yourself in a situation to be ambushed and drawn back in.
2007-04-17 21:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by Breath4Soul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, why should you feel better after destroying a life? You should do all you can to save a relationship. Married or not you made a commitment at some point. Love doenst get lost its just your eyes and thought that wander. Try sorting things out and eat humble pie if you're big enough. What you shouldn't do is boast to your friends how good it feels to dump someone or to tell them his bad points. By doing that you ruin your own chances of getting back together because you would feel a fool in the eyes of your friends.
ok den well i wasnt aware of the circs kate. but just dont go ott by walkin about naked den lol. enjoy your freedom if dats wat u want. i spose you av tried to talk and usually if he cared enough it would work and he would see sense. but if he still cant appreciate your needs then you were right to let him go.
2007-04-17 21:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by jenniesrainbow 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Good for you. You have made the step you have been wanting to take. Now you have done it, you can begin the rest of your life. Go out with your friends, let your hair down and have some fun. Dont let him or anyone else make you feel guilty for wanting to be happy.
Enjoy your future, good luck.
2007-04-17 22:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found that definitley retail therapy, a trip to the hairdressers and a night out will sort u right out....x
I split up with my ex last October, and although I was gald to get rid of him cos he was a cheater, it still hurt....it does take time. But with the support from ur friends and family u will get over him as it sounds like ur best rid of him anyway...x
2007-04-17 22:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bit of retail therapy should sort you out. Maybe a haircut or something to make you feel good. Whatever you do remember you can because you're your own person and nobody is dictating you. Now get a cup of tea down you
2007-04-17 21:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by funkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get soem of your girly friends round and have a take away and a girly movie with popcorn and drinks. Or you could go to the pub with your girl friends and have a good night out.
Things do get better and easier as the time goes by.
2007-04-17 21:24:41 · answer #9 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well done you, sounds like you got out of that one just in time...go and get ready put some make up on and your favourite outfit and go out for lunch and do some shopping, it works wonders, then when you give him his stuff back you can put a close to that relationship and start a new life good luck
2007-04-17 21:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋