BACKGROUND:
I like this girl and I got the feeling she likes me too. It was a coeincident that I just moved exactly next to her apartment a week ago. I knew her for 8 weeks now. I only called her 3-4 times a week for 5-7 minutes. We only hang out together once (casually). I know my look is not a problem and I drive a benz SL.
PROBLEM:
She always find an excuse not to go out with me everytime I ask her out for a casual dinner (not a date). It's hard for me to show my real personality just on the phone.
MY THOUGHT:
-She fear that I am a player (which I already showed her Im not)
-She still wanna have fun
-ZILLION of other males are chasing her!
WHAT I SHOULD DO?
-Will I melt her heart eventually? should i tell her my feeling? or I should lay low and be friend for now (for how long)?
-Any catchy-fun phrase to ask her out?
million thanks to u guys!
2007-04-17 20:56:38 · 18 answers · asked by Daytona 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Addition info:
She never had a real boyfriend for 18 years. But she flirts well with boys.
I know her family and she's not a player.
2007-04-17 20:59:59 · update #1
Well.. It could be well it sounds like she is playing hard to get.
If she is blowing you off for "casual" dinners. I agree with a previous answer, go slow, and think about your next move you have the time.
I would talk to her find out little things that you can use later on (fav ban etc.) I would keep talking to her, and do what you are doing, maybe send her some flowers etc. (you could even try the secret admirer approach). Then when her fav bands comes to town, see if she wants to go (in general) and from there buy tickets and ask her.
She may be the type of girl that doesn't like to go places and eat on a first date. Maybe try other forms of entertainment.
Just my 2 cents
2007-04-17 23:11:41 · answer #1 · answered by Eagle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are saying yourself that you she flirts good so may be she is flirting with you. Anyways.. there are lot of girls with that attitude and their main problem is they are scared to committ.
So instead of asking her on date try to arrange a party and then invite her. Stop talking to her casually on the phone instead make out some excuse to meet her like as if you bought something new and interesting and want to show her. Just try to be honest with her and be good friends.
Time will make her trust in you this is not a thing which you can develop instantly but for fun try arranging some outing or some party or taking her to a place where she can really have fun but first try to gather some friends and have a get together. Cheers.
2007-04-17 21:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by slyshooter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your overthinking this way too much, you probally got some advice from a dating site. Now back to basics.
Do you enjoy spending time with her, do you think she enjoys spending time with you. If these 2 are yes then you may be coming on too strong.
Ease off give her space and time to think about things. You may be needy but that doesnt mean she is. I would suggest trying to not call her or ask her out for 2 weeks (possibly longer) just to see how she reacts.
If she ignores you it could mean she isnt interested or shy or just out of the game (remember 18 years is a long time to be out of the game it may be hard for her to even relate to males in that way)
2007-04-17 21:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she isn't accepting what you have to offer than maybe you are not what she wants.. You stated you talk a bit on the phone but it has yet to move further. This leads me to believe she has little or no interest. Cut your losses and move on. You say you are good looking so go get someone that is eager for your affection. Be happy about what you can get not what you wish you could have and life will be more content
for you. Just my humble opinion.
2007-04-17 21:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by sirdouglas527 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man to man:
this is what you do hang out with her,be real quiet,even if its outside her door.listen to her then out of the blue ask her out on a real date.she says yes than that's your chance, she says no then never see her again.
i guess you would have left your imprint on some part of her soul by now.go into hiding,stop having time for her and stuff.always seem in a hurry.
if she confronts you tell her you cant be without her and that's why you cant be with her and things would be easier if you didn't have to bear the pain of watching her smile laugh walk and talk and not be able to kiss her.
she will understand.in the meantime look for a back up girl.someone you know that she knows is hot!
2007-04-17 21:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by 9k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out for breakfast. It will seem more casual, as there would be no wine or decadent desserts to win her over with, and it is a meal that not enough people go out for so you will have a more peaceful atmosphere.
Or if you prefer, go to a really exquisite bakery and get her something extraordinary. Such as a black forest roulade.
2007-04-17 21:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you drive a Benz and you think you're really good looking, and you get women advice from strangers on Yahoo answers?
What's not to like about you? Man, you've made the big league!
She's obviously mental, move on, playa!
2007-04-17 21:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...you are shallow and only semiliterate...this can be told by your writing. Who cares if you drive a Benz? I drive a Toyota to work and on dates...and a Lamborghini on weekends...but I don't go boasting about it.
The best thing you can do for her? Grow up a little. Get some perspective on whats important. Until you do that...you are just wasting her time.
All the money in the world is useless if you can't respect and love her.
2007-04-17 21:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by markmaceoghain 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
G'day mate
look u just got to stand up from the crowd ur benz SL aint gona help u ( not even in drags man got a S15 not yet modified )
show her wat u are man,,, u kan get her,, but try to find out if she has some1 else in her life or she just broke up etc
2007-04-17 22:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by antish_r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say just relax and give it some time. Some girls just like to really know a guy before they wanna go out with them. Just keep being her friend! Good luck!
2007-04-17 21:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by irish_pixie23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋