My best friend and I works on a same place. We always had a petty quarrels on little things about work and not on personal things. He thought that I always betray him, turn him down on his works, compete with me. He is angry and irritated with for no reasons. Sometimes I think he don't trust me no more. Is this usual for friends?
We are living on the same house after work and so sometimes I can still feel his bitterness.
I don't want to fight with him, I don't want to be his enemy on any other way or cause. It hurts me so much about this things that I'm afraid it may affects our friendship. What will I do?
2007-04-17 19:47:13 · 14 answers · asked by Kerk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2007-04-18 00:57:05 · update #1
Hey, I had a similar situation. I was a roommate with my best friend and we worked at the same place as co-managers. I always felt, he was considered the favorite by the owners and that he took whatever chance he could to be the first in line for any kind of rewards or benefits. I was right......however, I also knew that was the way he was and I wasn't going to change him. So through all our times together at work, going out, partying and in our own separate activties, we got along about as good as two guys can get. Yes, we did get into fights, really good ones....we would end up at work with both of us wearing sunglasses, nursing black eyes and busted lips. But, whether we wanted to or not, work forced us to have to act civil with each other. And, you know it has been almost 20 years since those times, and I'll bet he still has the same picture on his desk of us together, I know he did when I saw him about 7 years ago. So enjoy the times, don't get stuck on the small stuff, accept each other and try to balance each other out, 20 years from now you will both look back and cherish your friendship.
2007-04-25 18:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Leopard14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not bad idea but of course there is a negative in that idea as well. As long as your moral is way up high - and you respect each other as a person with different future in life, you're ok. The negative is, if you are so involve with each other and planning to get married someday, you might want to look at the companies situation for the reason that, if the company goes bankrupt - both of you will end jobless at the same time.
2016-05-17 23:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned the hard way that you NEVER mix friends or family with business.
It may also be that ya'll are just spending to much time together since ya'll work and live together.
Try sitting him down and talking to him. Do it on the weekend though or when he seems relaxed. That way ya'll can actually talk and not argue. Also, when you approach him about it, don't accuse him of anything because it will just make him defensive and that will lead to an arguement. Just ask him what the deal is and listen to him. Then ask him what he would like you to do to change it. If it is something reasonable that you can do, then do it. If it isn't explain to him why and maybe he will be able to understand.
Communication is very important!
I hope this helps!!!
2007-04-17 19:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie T 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is usual for friends to quarrel for petty things but they get back together after some time .thats what friendship is all about.in your situation the most likely reason would be that your friend is jealous of you.i suggest you should talk to him freely and find out what the problem is....
good luck
2007-04-17 20:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quiet frankly you don't want to be miserable, your peace of mind is something one have to defend and treasure, I'd rather eat a little and sleep a little and be happy.
Not only you guys live together but also work together? If I were you, I would suffocate and die, best advise is to get out of this mess before one of you loses and kills the other one.
2007-04-17 20:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Naaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..and there are disadvantages to being around each
other 24/7...that's true of husband and wife. Sounds to
me like you may want to change residences if you
want to preserve...or at least enjoy...your friendship.
2007-04-25 19:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by Northwest Womps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid that happens in a competitive job. If he feels insecure, he will always be like that, and there is nothing you can do but detach yourself from your friendship and living quarters as soon as possible..
2007-04-17 19:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always natural to have professional jealousy. It is up to the two of you on how to understand each other.You two should know how to "give-and-take". But if possible, one of you should look for other job if you want a good friendship to maintain.
2007-04-17 19:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it let him know that he's your best friend and that you would never do something like that to him. if he still dosen't belive you then you need to move out or get a new job.
2007-04-17 19:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by judith 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get another job.
You guys need some space.
2007-04-17 19:51:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋