I think my husband is tough on our children, ages 5, 2, and 4 1/2 months. He nitpicks at almost everything that the older two do wrong. If our oldest does something that we have told her not to do he won't let it down and then always goes into lecture mode. She is a really good kid and I think that every kid slips up and that the same lecture gets old after the 4th or 5th time in one week at least it does for me. Everytime they throw fits instantly he reacts and puts them in time out or takes something away from them without finding out the problem that is making them throw a fit . Our oldest is in preschool, and when she comes home talking about what she learned or did that day, he never seems interested. He makes the money and I take care of the kids all day. He feels that I do all the decision making when it comes to the children, but I find myself always protecting their feeling. He isn't really mean, just a little tough.
2007-04-17 18:41:57 · 7 answers · asked by elizabeth 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe you should point out they're still only babies. A five-year-old is not going to listen to reason, much less some droning lecture. I can guarantee they tune out the first time he hits a three-syllable word.
Try talking to him in private, once the kids are asleep, and explain how you think he should handle the situations. I agree when they throw a tantrum you should first try to unearth the problem, unless they're a repeat offender on the same topic.
2007-04-17 18:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by no name 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to your husband and let him know you don't agree with his menthods of discipline. All kids will misbehave at times. It's ecpected.If this keeps on, those kids will grow up thinking they can never do anything right. This can be a serious issue later in life. It could cause lack of interest in work, social and many other aspects in life. A little bit of toughness is ok (never physical), as long as it's not constant and critisising to the children (or you). good luck, and be strong. :)
2007-04-18 01:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell since he relies on you to take care of the kids, since he brings in the money. Have the him to agree for you to do the discipline for now on, but when the situation gets worst or something needs to be brought to his attention that is the only time he'll discipline the kids.
God Bless
2007-04-18 01:48:41 · answer #3 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Make him understand what he is doing.
Actually the lecture gets old after the 2 time. My dad used to do the same thing. I told him about it. and he now dosen't do it at all.
2007-04-18 02:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by tasha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should sit down and talk to him about it and suggest he try to lighten up a little bit. You can do this at the same time you talk to him about the swimming pool you asked about a little while ago.
2007-04-18 01:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is just being tough. Believe me, when they become teenagers, you will appreciate how well disciplined they will be. Just remind him that he also needs to praise them when they do something good, and everthing will work out just fine.
2007-04-18 01:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's an abuser and if you think that telling your kids they are wrong or 'nitpicking' at them isn't mean..then you're WRONG.
He needs help...and he needs it now...get him into therapy before he does something worse... If you have to keep protecting your kids from him, isn't that ringing a bell in you ??? (inside your gut...otherwise you wouldn't be asking here on Yahoo...) get him out of the house and get help.
2007-04-18 01:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋