My 4 year old is really changed lately, she is takiing other kids stuff ( shirts /toys) from school and is being mean to others the last couple of months..Today she was arguing with another preschooler at lunch and when the kid did not stop she poked him with her spork in the eye. OMG I am humiliated...What to do... can I get sued the kid had broker blood vessel in eye. How do I get through to her. Help I need suggestions please.
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2007-04-17 18:32:36 · 8 answers · asked by bkh70 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
time out or some other immediate punishment for the behavior. and then afterwards talk to her about it and why it was wrong. but dont talk "at" her, make her respond to questions like -"do you know why your in trouble right now?" - "you know not to do that right?"- "what are you going to tell (whoever she was mean to) when you see them?" --(the answer to that one should be sorry obviosly). but don't let her just nodd her head at you for answers tho. make her respond verbally. its harder for her to do and may take a little prodding to get her to say anything, but it works better. after words always reassure her you still love her and your not still angry, you just dont like that kind of behavior and dont want her to act that way.
2007-04-17 18:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have a 6yr old 5 yr old and 3yr old i have learned that they become very difficult at that age and testing the limits, also you may not think about it but they may have seen something/someone else react the same way when they were upset i had to stop letting my kids watch certain cartoons cause they didnt realize that cartoons are just that, cartoons. i dont think you can get sued kids do stuff all the time, maybe you could sit down with your child and the parents of the other child and have the kids talk /apologize...
hope it works out
2007-04-17 19:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I would be humiliated as well. I don't want to insult you, but are there problems in your home? Maybe some that you are not even aware of. I've never heard of a child that age being so angry. I would sit her down and really try to get to the bottom of it. Don't yell at her, just ask her why she is so angry. Take her to a therapist or a counselor if needed. Also, when you discipline her, make sure you are consistent! Good luck!
2007-04-17 18:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids do things that we do not expect. But I think you keyed in on something big, she has really changed lately, some anger displays, could be her way of telling you there is a problem at school, in the home, etc....or she may just be experimenting with choices. Ask her, do not yell or scream, because she may also be seeking negative attention...oh that made her mad....what power! Do not feel embarrased. Something that no one ever tells us is that our kids will do the darndest things...and as my mom always said "If its not your kids one day it may be mine the next." ALL PARENTS....go through these things.....remember we are all humans in lesson. How much more diffucult it is when we are half the size, with more energy...and a developing conscience. God help you keep up:) This too shall pass......
2007-04-17 18:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by lynnearai 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I remember one day I had to pick up my friends son from kindergarden. Well it was a bad day for his classmates that day. He took away a girls cookie, he squirt his juice box all over a kid who was taking a nap, he would not pick up anything, he hit someone, scratched someone, and the grand finale... he peed inside this girls backpack.... He did not get in trouble for ANY of those things, he was in trouble for not apologizing. That kid is not afraid of anything, he is my hero. I do not know how you should handle that, besides telling your daughter that it is wrong and hurtful, have her apologize and take away her toys for awhile. But I wouldnt start worrying about any lawsuits, parents realize kids will be kids. Goodluck
2007-04-17 18:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has been going on in this child's life the past couple of months. Any major changes?
2007-04-17 19:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to your child and said that hurts good luck
2007-04-17 18:38:22 · answer #7 · answered by juanita2_2000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you will beat her until her attitude changes!
2007-04-17 18:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋