My step dad is a doctor, extremely rich. Our relationship, not so rich. Our communication is severley lacking. We are on good terms, but just there is no content in our relationship. We are polite and respectful, not much beyond that. I have overheard him talking to my mother about the will. He has already planned it out, giving his money to my 3 half brothers, his blood children. And, I am not hurt in a greedy sense, but hurt because I feel so rejected. I help out constantly around the house, always babysitting, being a good person. Am I totaly wrong to assume i should be in the will?I just dont know
2007-04-17 18:20:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is not unusual for someone to leave only there true children in a will and leave out their step-children. First, you shouldnt be evesdropping on your parents conversations and second, who cares if you are in his will, he is helping to provide you a good home, that is more then many kids have. Unless you plan on him dying soon, he can always change his will in the future, so before you get bitter or upset with him, keep in mind that your actions from now and into the future could determine whether he adds you to the will or not.
2007-04-17 18:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not cool. Maybe you overheard wrong. by the way, how old are you. Maybe its too early for you to be worrying about a will. Is your biological father living. Perhaps you step dad is thinking that you are already taken care of.
Dont feel rejected or let it harm your self-esteem. Like you said you are a good person
2007-04-17 18:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by cjl222 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well obviously your step dad is concerned about his "blood" children first. Like you said you two dont have a very good relationship. Maybe talk to your mother about it. It doesnt suond like your being greedy, it just sounds like you feel your step dad doesnt consider you family enough.
2007-04-17 18:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by andrea lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you’re only on polite terms I could understand him leaving you out, perhaps if you were extremely close he’d probably have you in it. Don’t feel to bad James Brown’s youngest son wasn’t in his will, and he was his genetic child. Or so they say.
How old are you? If your young maybe your relationship will eventually improve and he might add you, if he has not passed on before updating it.
2007-04-17 19:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never assume to be included in anyone's will...even your own mother's! It sounds like he wants to leave assets to his blood children. That is his perogative. Just continue to work on your relationship, if you think it is important, but don't rely on being included in the will.
2007-04-17 18:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably figures that it is up to your father to leave you whatever he has. It is a shame that your mother has not said anything to him about this. Ask her why she feels that this is fair. Tell her that you are hurt by his decision. I would understand if he was leaving them more than you, but you are a member of that household. (Unless you were not raised in that household, in which case it is proper for him to leave everything to his children)
2007-04-17 18:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 02:55:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't even have a healthy familial relationship, he has no obligation to add you to his will. He may be polite and respectful with his mailman, but that guy's not getting in there either.
2007-04-17 18:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by no name 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can imagine what your feeling. Just remember you are doing things around the house but if he wasn't married to your mom, would you still do them.
Really his children shouldn't get anything, your mom should get it all until she passes.
But be the bigger man in this, if he can live with it, your better off living without it.
2007-04-17 19:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by witcheywoman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are wrong and I have a feeling that you are being a little greedy. I am sorry your feelings are hurt but it is his choice and i can see why he did not include you if you and he do not have a good relationship.
2007-04-17 18:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by lovnlife 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋