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I am a little old fashion but not too much. I go on a date, or even with certain female friends, and I expect to pick her up, pay for dinner, and open doors for her; just because that's what I've been taught and what I've always done. There are some things I won't do because it's not natural for me, like sliding her chair, standing up when she stands up, walking on the street side of the sidewalk (or at least consciously). I have to admit though, some girls do take advantage, but it doesn't take too many times to realize she's taking advantage...but I do like it when she appreciates it; sometimes a smile is worth the dinner tab.

So ladies...what are your expectations?

2007-04-17 17:59:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

11 answers

Aww cute, why arent there more guys around like u!! I think though offering to pay is nice enough but splitting is better. I think u should just keep doing the same, and like u said u know when someones taking advangtage.I think the girls that smile and say thanks,offer to pay and show true appreciation are the ones that truly appreciate it.

2007-04-17 18:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

If you are in a serious relationship and once you become comfortable enough with the other person, each of you should take turns paying the bill and also sometimes go dutch..it's always nice of the guy offers..but if you are both broke college students (like my b/f and I..lol) then we usually know we are both going dutch..except if its a special occasion..It's nice when the guy pays then..but hey, it's 2007..so i don't think it will hurt if both the guy and girl pitch in. As for picking up, it's nice again to be offered..but i dont expect it all the time (us girls like to drive too, ya know! hehe)..and the open doors thing, thats just a plus..sadly, not too many guys do this anymore..but kudos to you since you seem to be very polite! ;o) If it's a casual date and you don't know the person very well, it's always polite that the guy offers to do all of the above..but some girls do not expect/are not used to this..so it just depends on the girl.

2007-04-17 18:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by Pondering Pisces 1 · 0 0

I always go out expecting to do for myself. A lot of men either weren't raise with manners, or just don't care about it. BUT, if I do go out with a guy that automatically expects to pay for dinner, pick me up, and holds doors, THOSE are the guys I go out with on a second date, regardless of whether or not the first date went well, on the chance that nerves or shyness played a part. All women like to be treated like a lady by a man, and those courtesies help me to decide whether or not a man has been raised well, and respects women.

2007-04-17 18:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by susan w 3 · 0 0

Yes I do but I bring money just in case. I really appreciate nice dates like this. Like the other lady mentioned I like to make dinner for my guy or for my guy friends. I just think that there are certain ways a man gives and other ways a woman gives. I am a little old fashioned too. :)

2007-04-17 18:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by Renee 4 · 0 0

Well it's never been a big deal for me, when me and my boyfriend go out we usually take turns picking up the tab or whatever. Umm he's never been one to open car doors for me but most guys dont anyway, but when he does, that makes me feel just as good as if he's always done it; but he does always open doors for me when we're entering a building of some sort. And as far as driving it's not a big deal there eather because i could always drive or meet. I think it's great that you were taught to be a gentalman and you know how to treat a woman. Keep it up.

2007-04-17 18:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 2 · 0 0

If a guy takes a girl out, he should pay. He should open doors, and be polite. The girl should always express appreication. If the guy makes a lot more money than I do, I usually offer to cook a meal occasionally, because they usually appreciate a home cooked meal. If the guy doesn't make very much money, every now and then, I offer to treat for a nice dinner out, because he usually eats at home. Not all women feel this way, however.

2007-04-17 18:08:25 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1 2

i do no longer *anticipate* something. Why be disenchanted :) i even tend to think of countless issues are appropriate in distinctive circumstances. It incredibly relies upon on who i'm with and what we are doing. If i'm basically putting out with a chum, there is not any way i might enable him purchase me dinner, till we've an contract going that i purchase one time, and he buys the subsequent. yet while the guy is calling me on a date, then yeah, he truthfully will pay. (till I asked, then I pay, or if we are a pair then there is supply and take) If i'm going out with a guy i do no longer understand that nicely, i'm plenty extra gentle assembly him than having him %. me up. and in spite of my friends, or bfs, there are situations that for time or convenience or in spite of its extra convenient to fulfill him. i do no longer think of that its that super of deal. As for doorways....I even tend to persist along with his lead because of the fact its no longer that super of a deal to me. there are situations that i actually like having my door opened and situations it type of feels a discomfort. yet i understand there are basically particular of my friends which will continually open my doorways no matter what, so maximum the time, I enable them to. There are others i understand won't so I open my own and attempt to chew my tongue in the time of those situations while it incredibly may be astounding (in a depressing automobile parking zone as an occasion) I do precisely like the entire 'previous shaped gentleman' bit, yet in ordinary terms while its actual. in any different case the act gets sickening. So particularly than seem at issues like procuring dinner, or establishing my door to define a 'gentleman', I even tend to look for many of the lesser accepted etiquette rules, and am plenty extra touched via a guy who follows those. (yet would not make a teach of it the two). issues like walking next to the line particularly than the homes while walking on the sidewalk jointly. Or letting a woman lead going up the stairs, yet persist with going on. Or different considerate and considerate gestures that a guy does that are actually not coated in the 'rules'

2016-10-22 11:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Picking me up yes, paying for dinner- i will almost persist on going halfway on the cost.

well other things like opening up a door for me, i appreciate that shows good class &manners.

&when we walking, ur hand on the small of my back..i dont know, it hints at protectiveness.

then the rest....my date should pay attention to me- very very important

2007-04-17 18:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 1 0

aww, that's really sweet of you! i wish there were more guys like u around. i don't expect the guy to do all that on a date, it's just really sweet if he does, and i make sure he realizes that i appreciate it. i don't like taking advantage, so if that happens, i make him promise to let me pay the next time. also, what i do is i let him pay for my movie ticket if he insists on it, but i buy the snacks for both of us, and i don't let him spend a dime once we're the theater.

2007-04-17 18:21:44 · answer #9 · answered by mrs.potter 3 · 0 0

i just read the headline - it was too long BUT i will say this:

when i go out with a guy i like to go dutch - i pay for my expenses, every once in a while (if we go out often) i'll let him pick up the tab and others i'll pick it up. its nice when the guy at least offers to pay ... anyhow, as for picking me up ... i'd rather drive there. open door...umm... i can't open it myself but it's always lovely when he does it for me, it's the polite thing to do.

2007-04-17 18:05:09 · answer #10 · answered by dvl_n_dskyz 3 · 2 0

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