When my 3 yr old girl and I walk together, often times she will say "mum, I'm tired.", then she'll stand in my way and hug my legs and ask me to carry her go. But always the thing is she's not tired and just want me to carry her go.
One time, I said No to her, then she questioned "mum, do you love me or not?"
Huh, what do u think about this?
2007-04-17 17:37:46 · 17 answers · asked by zele 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I think that you should carry her until your arms get tired. One day she won't ask you to carry her anymore. You should cherrish the moments. These are the things that you will laugh with her about when she has a daughter of her own.
All kids ask if you love them or not when you don't do as they wish. They are just confused of what love really is. Don't take it to heart, just try to explain to her how much you love her as often as you can. Make it fun, like..... do you see all of the sand on the beach? I love you in more ways than there are grains of sand on the beach.
Kids grow fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you might miss it.
2007-04-17 17:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by GreekQT 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I carry my 2 year old 36 lb boy all the time and you should see the guns I've got now! I think my arms are more built than my husbands! I have also lost 20 lbs carrying that child around for the past 6 months. But if you don't want to then just tell her that as she gets bigger you just can't do it. THEN TELL HER YOU LOVE HER! I have 4 children and it comes down to telling them sooner or later .. . I would never be able to pick up my 14 year old!
2007-04-18 00:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my kids compromises always work... First I suggest her walk another 100 yards by herself and then carry her for some time. This way they learn at least 3 concepts of a life:
1. To get something you have to be flexible in life.
2. You have to be able to negotiate and keep your part of a deal.
3. In life, even if it is hard, you have to go on and get to the goal.
In short, I always try to draw multiple benefits and lessons for my kids from any situation.
Hope this helps.
2007-04-18 02:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by The Papa Of Two 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just carry her. She's still young yet. If you seriously don't want to then just be firm and tell her no and make her walk. As for the asking if you love her question. Just tell her yeah and that it really hurts your back to carry her or something like that.
2007-04-18 00:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are smarter than we think. If you continue to fold every time she wants to be carried shes going to take advantage of you explain to her that she is a big girl and she has to walk like everyone else. If she relay is tired maybe you need to take shorter walks.
2007-04-18 04:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by Natalie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still carry my son, sometimes. He does basically the same thing. But sometimes I can't and I tell him, Mommies back is hurting and I can't pick you up. I'm not saying lie. Just explain and if she still does it. I would put her in a stroller and if she like my three year old; she won't like it.
2007-04-18 00:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by cartrell s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she loves you, shes just being spoiled. she knows asking you if you love her or not will make you feel guilty and probably make you carry her. shes just testing you and pushing you. she knows you love her, but if she does ask that again just say "of course i love you,but you a big girl and you can walk by yourself now." if she still protests say something like "if your going to behave like a baby, then maybe we should put you back in diapers and feed you icky formula and baby food too. and we'll have to take away all of you big girl toys because little babies arent allowed to have those kinds of things" that should work. but dont always tell her you wont carry her. shes still little and you should carry her some of the time.
2007-04-18 00:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
She is old enough to walk and I know it probably breaks your back to carry her but, do it anyway! She will grow up faster than you think (trust me...my son is almost 16 now) and you will miss "carrying" her.
2007-04-18 00:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Got 7 Grand-kids and have never missed an opportunity to pick up and hold any of them when they want held. That's one of the ways to say "I love you so much and just want your attention." When they become independent, you"ll yearn for those days again.
2007-04-18 00:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by kriend 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I carry my 3 year old girl for a little bit.Then kiss her and tell her mommy got tired.She understands,no problem.
2007-04-18 01:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋