I have a 7 year old daughter who is a tomboy. She has asked me if she can get a buzz cut. What should I do?

Answer 1

It's hair. It'll grow back.

Answer 2

Yeh,okay, she's exploring her masculine side. Punk rockers get buzz cuts and go for bright-colored hair. Is she like that? What kind of music does she listen to? What are her friend like? Is their a death or divorce in the family? I guess I'd look closer into why she wants it. Is she trying to impress someone? Is this a dare?

I know I was a tomboy but I wanted to be the cowgirl type and not feel so beat down by mean people who judged me. I didn't see the value of being girly until MUCH later.

I'd try to make her appreciate being a girl so she can be a whole person when she grows up. Show her how strong she is by what she does not how she looks. Give her some role models that were strong yet feminine.

She might really regret the buzzcut. Maybe you can come up with a compromise that still looks a little feminine, not trashy or butch. Is there another way she can feel more powerful without the haircut?

Answer 3

How big of a change would it be from how long her hair is now?

My almost 6 year old started cutting her own hair. When I asked her why, she said she wanted a shorter hair cut. But this kid of mine cried for a week when I cut MY hair shorter. So we have been cutting 2-3 inches off at each haircut, and she has finally reached "short" hair - a bob that just barely covers her ears. She still wants to go shorter, but she's got another 6-8 weeks to think about it before the next haircut.

If you are starting with long hair, the difference can be a traumatic one, and will take a long time ( months) to grow out. Suggest that you start cutting it shorter in stages over a period of time. Then each cut isn't so dramatic from the prior one, and when she decides it's "too short", it won't take too long to get back to a length that was still OK.

Also, no-one has pointed out yet that this kid might have gender identity issues. I'm not at all an expert on this, and being a tomboy and wanting a short haircut isn't a good enough reason to suspect. But if there are other signs (identifying more with boys, preferring boys activities, boys clothing and maybe even saying "I wish I had been born a boy"), it might be worth talking with both with your daughter and with a doctor.

Answer 4

A buzz cut is too severe for a 7 year old, by all means cut her hair short, perhaps a pixie cut or a cheek length bob clippered at the nape but DO NOT buzz it all off.

Answer 5

Is there any way you can get hold of a buzz-cut wig? Maybe she could wear that for a day, and see just what kind of reaction she gets. Be sure to warn her teachers, and do it on a slow day.

If she really, really wants one still, wait until summer vacation, and have her get the longest possible buzz-cut. It should grow back before school gets back in session.

It's a great chance to talk about looks, and how looks don't necessarily reflect what's in a person's heart.

Answer 6

I would say dont let her hav a buzz cut my daughter has quite short hair & while she loved it at 1st now she wants it longer again because someone said she looks lik a boy & girls shouldnt hav short hair (their words not mine)
i told her she had to hav it short enough to stop her chewing it but wen she came bak it was really short!
ask your self this ... can YOU live with the consequenses if she doesnt lik it or wen she gets teased or piked on! if the answer is yes then fine go ahead but wait for the summer hol if the answer is no then dont let her do it, compromise & let her hav a short hair cut instead & tell her to wait til shes older for a buzz

Answer 7

it is hair and it will grow back but the problem is if she starts getiing teased and is miserable it takes MONTHS to grow. My son wants long hair and I am fine with that because all it takes is a trip to the hairdresser to fix it but when it is a buzz cut for a girl it involves growing hair which takes time. I would probably say no but allow it to be cut short but girly. A good hairdresser should have pics for her to choose from

Answer 8

I think you should let her express her self but guide her to a cut that would not be so extreme on a little girl. Maybe a shorter cut that is short in the back but longer bangs (hope you know what I mean) I think that is still girly but it is short. But dont totally write off the idea of getting a new style she might just try and cut it herself.

Answer 9

i don't think any hairdresser would do it,my daughters hair was down to her bum ,she wanted it lopped off into a very short bob and shaved at the back,the hairdresser told her she wouldn't look right and talked her into having it cut below jaw length thankfully as she decided to grow it long enough to tie back for school,kids chop and change their minds so fast that she will probably love it to start with and then cry because she hates it as it isn't what she wants anymore,she is 8 in a few days and she wants her hair cut again and asked me to take her back to the same lady because it was nice last time

Answer 10

Hi there Elle S, Some styles and fashions can be too much for a young child. Maybe compromise and let her have a short style. But above all, try to allow your daughter to be able to express what she wants to be. Not all girls want to be smothered in pink and flowery things. Alot of girls grow out of being tomboys, but if your daughter doesn't, then just be there for her, and accept her for who she is....that is part of what being a good mother is. If we go against what our children want, then they tend to rebel and want to do it all the more. Indulge her a little and find a compromise, that is the key. I wish you all the best! :o)

Answer 11

well you have to look at this from both ends. Yes, i agree that she is a little young to be making major desicions about her hair especially when it comes to cutting, but also, it IS just hair. On the other hand if you tell her no, what's to stop her from trying to cut it herself. Talk to her, and ask her why she wants this particular hair cut. Just listen to what she has to say do yell at her, don't argue and don't try and force your opinion upon her (that'll make matters worst) After she is done explaining, tell her that you have to think about it, and , actually think. Make your desicion based on what she tells you. And then, if at all possible, maybe you could try and bring her to a compromise.