PLEASE HELP!!!!! Why is my EX contacting me........?

Question

My ex-bf & I dated for a short while then HE ended it, and it has been over for one year. He's 26, I'm 21. He has lots of experience with dating, while he was my first kiss & first bf. Our relationship was so innocent, cuddling in his room, holding hands, kissing. We never had sex cuz he knew I wanna save sex for marriage. He says says hi to me on msn even though HE ended it. 2 months ago, he called me, after one yr. & wanted to make plans together so we could see a movie sometime. We set a date, he picked me up & after the movie he took me home. I was so shocked cuz last night he said hi to me on msn, also cuz I thought he would be sad/mad since I never said happy b-day to him which was few weeks ago. Do u think he cared that I didn’t wish him a happy b-day? On msn last nite, he asked me casual questions & he wanted to know what I was gonna do after I graduate university. We both go to the same uni, while he’s a grad student & I’m an undergrad.

I told him I wanna get a good job & move out. He said moving out is a nice thing, but he said he that “if he had a girlfriend now, he would for sure move out of his parents, but otherwise its just a waste of money”. Why did he say this? Was it a way to tell me that he’s single? Or just a casual comment? Also he had told me before that after he graduated he wanted to move in with his best guy friend. Last night, he said he won’t move in with his friend, but just stay home. Then I made a joke & said, “didn’t u know a bachelor pad is great, I mean how are u gonna get laid living with ur parents?” then I said “Just kidding, its just a joke”. I waited for his reply , he didn’t say anything so I said “I guess ur mad” then he said “haha, just a tad”, & put a winking smiley face. Is he mad, I mean he’s knows I’m joking rite? & what the hell did he mean by “just a tad”??? Why did he contact me last night??

Answer 1

Maybe he still likes you.

Answer 2

Like most of us on this forum, I have contacts from around the globe. I will star a question that I feel my contacts may be interested in answering. Several times during the course of the day, I will remove the star and replace it after a few moments so that my contacts that have just come on line have the choice if answering the question. But I always leave the star there at the end. :))

Answer 3

Maybe he is still interested in you and wants to spend time with you.He probably is not upset about remembering his birthday but he sounds like he did not like the comment from
you about getting laid. From what you said your relationship was sweet and innocent. Just take it slow and relax with him
let him makes the moves. Guys like a challenge, they really
don't appreciate you if it is to easy to get you. My guess is
he has respect for you and liked the fact that you did not
jump into bed with him . Be friends and see what happens.

Answer 4

Why do people make this so difficult? If you like him, talk to him... If you don't like him, don't talk to him. If you feel attracted to him, maybe you should do something about it... and not worry about why he's doing what he's doing. If a man contacts a woman, it's usually because he's interested and vice versa. Or, he's going through a rough time and he's looking for a friend... Either way, you're behaving pretty badly towards his efforts and need to let him know if you're interested or not...

Answer 5

if u r serious for him then let me tell u that every relationship needs time. i think u should fix a meeting with him and on that day u should ask him what does he want. Be strong enough to ask him straight questions because he left u, u did not.
But if he left u in that situation, when u needed him most then
think about it becoz the person who leaves u in difficult circumstances cannot come back to u.

Answer 6

Be direct. Say do you want to date me, or be friends? Decide yourself if you want to be with him or someone else. Stop dragging the process out. If you have someone in your life, tell him that you a in a prior commitment, if your not seeing anyone that starting dating him.

Answer 7

I THINK HE PROBABLY REGRETS ENDING THE
RELATIONSHIP AND DOES NOT KNOW HOW TO
BRING UP THE ISSUE. I THINK U SHOULD FINISH
YOUR EDUCATION FIRST AND FOREMOST. AND
THEN MAYBE IF POSSIBLY REKINDLING THE
FLAME LATER IN THE FUTURE WOULD BE OKAY
WITH U AND THE BOTH OF U DISCUSS THE ISSUE
THAN WHY NOT TRY AGAIN. AND MAYBE ALL THESE
LITTLE HINTS ARE TRYING TO TELL U SOMETHING.
BUT MOST OF ALL FINISH WHAT U NEED TO AND
THEN THINK THROUGHLY ABOUT A REALATIONSHIP.
AND REMEMBER U ARE STILL YOUNG AND HAVE
UR WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF U. TAKE CARE OF
YOURSELF FIRST............ GOOD LUCK IN THE
FAR AND NEAR FUTURE.....................

Answer 8

He definatly likes you again, no doubt about it. he has realised what he has lost and he wants you back and if you still have feelings- go 4 it. lets just say this happened to a mate of mine and her ex- still loved her, thats why he got in contact. now she is happy as they are very close and getting closer........

Answer 9

Again? give it a rest already? u dont think you are just a little bit psycho at all ??? u cant see the problme with your obsessive questoin asking about the same guy over aand over under several aliuses????????? i hope the guy has a restraining order and a loaded gun under his pillow.

Answer 10

He is being nice so as you keep you on the hook (like a fish). In the mean time, he is looking for another girl. If that falls through, he will be reeling you in.

Answer 11

Many people like to keep in touch with ex's because theres always that slight chance of 'hooking up' again. He is most likely desperate.