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Question

my g/f flirts with a guy friend a lot..that we both know..but i don't think she wants to admit that she likes him because everytime i confront her...she denies it...how do i approach it?

I know she wants me..it's been 7 good months...and the only time we argue is like..when i interrupt her when she's watching her shows lol ..which is just jokes..so we're doing pretty good...but yeh i kno she likes to joke around but..i dunno...i just have my suspicions...

Answer 1

Bamm she is the ex-girlfriend!

Answer 2

Show her this: She LOVES the attention she gets from this 'friend' and she's unwilling to give up that attention.

Seven Signs You Should Run From Your Partner
By Rinatta Paries

The relationship questions asked most frequently are all basically the same. First people will explain certain undesirable behaviors their partners are displaying. Then they'll ask whether they should tolerate these behaviors or whether they are making too big an issue of them.

There are, in fact, certain behaviors that should not be tolerated because they damage and will eventually destroy the relationship.

If you are in a brand-new relationship and your partner exhibits one or some of the behaviors below, you may want to consider walking away. If you stay, you may be getting much more trouble, headache and heartache then you bargained for.

If you are in a committed relationship and are invested in staying, or if you are planning to get engaged or married soon and some of these behaviors show up, try to work through them. Since you have already invested time, effort and your heart into the relationship, the relationship may be strong enough to withstand the necessary change. But hold off on making a deeper commitment to each other until the issues are resolved. Commitment and marriage tend to make issues worse rather than better.

Finally, if you are married, you probably want to do everything possible to save your marriage. If the two of you are dealing with any of the issues below, the most effective way of overcoming them is with outside expert help.

1. Excessive Flirtation
People in committed relationships, even in early committed relationships, should not be flirting with others in a way that makes their partner uncomfortable.

Here is the measuring stick: If your partner tells you about the flirting or you witness your partner flirting and neither of you flinches, the flirtation is OK. Otherwise it is not and you should be rightly bothered. This is, of course, assuming that you are not overly insecure and that you do not view any interaction your partner has with others as flirting.

2. Man/Woman Watching
Some discreet man/woman watching may occasionally be OK. But when it is blatant and intrusive, it becomes a relationship problem. You are not too sensitive if this bothers you. You should not have to learn to get over this and you should not have to learn to tolerate this behavior.

3. Infidelity
Unless you have a workable open-marriage agreement with your partner, you absolutely should not tolerate infidelity. There is simply no excuse for it. Alcohol, loneliness, anger, etc., are not good reasons to get involved with other people when you are in a relationship.

4. Another Relationship
OK, I know people get involved with those who are already in another relationship with the hope that they will "win" and the other relationship will end. But in reality this seldom happens. If you are involved in this kind of a relationship, perhaps it's time to give your partner an ultimatum. Set a drop-the-relationship-date by which your partner will willingly release the other relationship or you.

5. Romantic Contact From Other People
Why would someone in a relationship be getting phone calls, mail or e-mail of a romantic nature from other people? And why would the other person in the relationship tolerate this?
I think often it is because the partner somehow does not place responsibility for what's happening where it belongs -- squarely on the shoulders of the person who is receiving the communication.

If communication is ongoing, it is not accidental or victimization; it is invited and your partner is getting something out of it. To avoid a surge of feedback from those of you who may disagree with this point, let me say that there are now many easy ways to block unwanted communication, both on regular phones, cell phones and e-mail.

You are not too sensitive to feel threatened and to wonder if you are about to lose the relationship or be cheated on. Both may happen next.

6. Frequent Reactive or Angry Behaviors
Almost everyone has a frustrated moment, day or even a week. Life can get very hectic and stressful at times. But, if your partner is reactive or angry most of the time, for an extended period of time, this may just be the way he or she is.

If the two of you have repeatedly tried to problem-solve and yet nothing seems to cool the reactiveness and anger, you may want to ask yourself if you want this on ongoing basis.

7. 'It's All Your Fault'
Every relationship has issues or problems that need to be discussed. For some this happens sooner rather than later. But make no mistake -- this happens in every relationship. In fact, problems are an inherent part of being in a relationship.

However, if your partner categorically refuses to acknowledge and deal with his or her contribution to the problem and instead says in one way or another that it's all your fault, you have a serious problem on your hands. How will you move on and build a deeper relationship if your current problems cannot be resolved?

You are not pushy to ask your partner to deal with what needs to be dealt with. You have every right to ask for an active partner in a relationship.

Answer 3

When she denies it, does she act surprised, like it came out of nowhere, or does she act like that's just silly? When you confront her, do you ask why she flirts with the friend so much?
Remember, you can't make her admit to it. I won't insult you by saying maybe she is telling the truth and really doesn't like him. You would be able to tell if she did or not if she really does flirt. So make a choice. Does it bother you enough to do something about it before something bad happens?

Answer 4

Hey J-Rome:
I would try approaching the friend & if he denies it too, you might be able to honestly chalk it up to their personalities. Some of my VERY best friends were guys & we were terrible sometimes when it came to flirting with eachother, but it was all in play & teen hormones. I never left my guy for any of my buddies & it's quite possible it's just HOW they are! Ask her if you can trust her. Ask him the same. If she is honorable & loyal, you'll know it in your heart. Be close to her friend too. He'll appreciate you & she'll love you even more for taking interest in her friends.

Answer 5

Well she's probably not going to admitt to liking him since you all are dating. But maybe you can ask her if she thinks he is hott? If you act like you are "cool" with whatever answer she will give, there's a better chance she will be honest. If she thinks you'll freak out, she will never admitt to it. Kind of make a joke out of it, or act like you dont really care. That would be the best way to try and find out what you want to know.

Answer 6

is your gf usually flirty? because maybe you're just looking too much into her actions.

but if she really is flirting w/the guy, you should tell her that you can sense that she does..and even if she may deny that she's flirting, make her understand that it still *feels* like she's flirting and that it hurts your feelings..then she'll know not to overdo it around the guy just for your sake.

Answer 7

She might be telling you the truth.
I know a lot of girls who just love to flirt for the sake of getting a guys attention. That's all.

She may be the same way. She may just love getting the attention from guys she flirts with, without harboring any true or real feelings for them.

A LOT of girls do that.



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Answer 8

you don't. keep your guard up. be on the look out for any "action". maybe she's just very friendly...it happens. the first sight you have of anything call it quits. also confront the guy but not with and upfront attitude. approach him and talk things out. no need of violence. even if he does get cocky. be the better man.

Answer 9

May be she just likes to joke around and it really does not mean anything. I do that all the time and so does all my friends. No big deal

Answer 10

approach the guy and then punch him in the face twice