Afraid of death... HELP!! please..?

Question

have had this since i was 6 yrs old and i am 16yrs old. When i was little i would cry almost everyday because i was afaid of death.(only in my room by myself/sometimes with my mom)but when i am out of my room i am a completely a different person not caring about death/or dying but now as i am getting older..i start thinking about death.&even at school i just thought of it and then started to cry with tears rolling down my eyes for no reason except the fact that i was thinking about death.so i had to run to the bathroom and had to stay there for 5mins to get it over with. Like are u afraid of death at all?I'm a christian and in the bible it says that God made Adam and Eve and he did this and that..but when u go to school there's science.. saying humans used to be apes&used to be dinosouars&Animal change through evolution&and is cause of climate&there's the universe&planets then. where is God?Where is heaven and hell?What happens after death?Will it be painful? I just can't stop thinking

Answer 1

You should read the articles on this website: http://www.near-death.com/
It totally took away my fear of death forever! Scientists have a hard time believing in God and the creation so that's why they teach something different to us in school. You have to know that God did create everything. This website explains a lot about death, heaven, and hell. You should compare it to the bible though to see what is true and what is not.

Answer 2

It seems that something in your past has you feeling like your life has no meaning . You are starting to turning back on God . Why not talk to Him instead of running from Him . I have seen things in this world that science can never explain and the so called religious people wont even talk about . The best I can give you is I have seen death many times take friends and Family . Several times it almost came for me but never reach out to take my hand .
The only thing you have to fear is not knowing that is always there for you and will always be no matter what . There is nothing you can't give to Him that won't be taken care of . If you need proof think about this . I was about to shut down when I saw your question . If you want to talk give me a yell [e-mail] . I am not God but I have been there and came back .You can beat this it you try and get help .

Answer 3

I know what ur going through I di the same thing. When i went away to college it was even worse cause I had a roommate. But I had an epiphany one day that I wasnt so afriad of death and I was insecure with myself; this being so I was afraid I would die without any meaningful purpose or accomplishments. I began to do more of what I wanted to fulfill my personal needs instead of pleasing everyone else all the time. I was also able to rationalize how I was afraid of dying slowly and painfully by some unknown disease and because of that I worried about it at night. Figure out why you are so fearful and work it out. Journals and a good friend are great.

Answer 4

Death is the greatest unknown in our lives. The unkown is also our greatest fear.

Watch the cycles of the seasons and the flowers in your garden. Each year things grow, mature, wither, and die. But the next Spring it all returns, glorious as before. Death isn't permanent, and change is essential to balance.

Something else you will see in your Science class: Energy and Matter cannot be destroyed, only changed. So be sure that death is not the end, simply a change... and Spring ALWAYS returns, even when the winter feels like it will never end.

Stop worrying about your death, and start planning how to make the most of the time you have.

Answer 5

I know how you feel. My younger brother was killed in a car accident in December. He was 18, just graduated from high school, and has a 6 month old. He had so much to live for and then just like he was gone. It was horrible and for weeks after everyone in the family had nightmares and crazy thoughts. I couldn't stop thinking about my death, what would happen to me, when, will I be able to say good bye to others. Then I thought about what if one of my other brothers or sisters died. And I realized that I can think about it all I want and it won't change the fact that some day they will die and so will I and I can't change any of it. If you believe in Jesus and God then believe in them, if you don't then don't. But at 16 you have this great opportunity to figure out what you want to believe in. No one can tell you what to believe in. Talking about it with someone will help too. But when it comes down to it, you won't be able to stop it, you won't know what it's going to happen. Live everyday like tomorrow won't happen and you'll get out of life what most people never do.

Answer 6

My advice ? Ease up on yourself.

We are here to enjoy this amazing, wonderful thing called life. I have been around this time form over half a century and it just keeps getting better.

Don't be afraid of death, it isn't what 'they' tell you it is at all, which is why I am sure that you didn't come into this life with this fear. Something happened that impacted your young and impressionable mind and the fear is then result. It comes from outside of you, and as such you don't need to accept it.

A great writer once said that if he could give one gift to all mankind it would be to make them friends to their own death. He meant, I think, that release from the human body, what we call death, is inevitable to all of us, and that this transition will come, at some point, then we should try to be more comfortable with it, and not fear it.

Once we have got that straight we are free to live our lives to the full, experience as much as possible, and not worry about what may come, and when. Live each day, if you can see this in the intended positive light, as if it were your last.

Don't think too much about what happens after death, you will deal with that admirably when the time comes, and no, I don't believe that pain is a necessary part of the process.

Answer 7

First of all, maybe you had a traumatic experience as a child like you saw someone die on TV or someone you knew died and so you have an inordinate fear of death.

Second of all, if you are a Christian you should look forward to the end of your days on this planet because then you will go to be with Jesus and never suffer or die again.

2 Corinthians 5:8 Yes, we are of good courage, and we would rather be away from the body and at home with the Lord.

Philippians 1:21 For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain. 22 If I am to live in the flesh, that means fruitful labor for me. Yet which I shall choose I cannot tell. 23 I am hard pressed between the two. My desire is to depart and be with Christ, for that is far better.

If you are confused about what scientists theorize about evolution then check out The Evolution Cruncher and take heart. http://godrules.net/evolutioncruncher/CruncherTOC.htm

You really ought to get hooked up with a good church and hang out with more mature believers who can pray with you and encourage you. A Christian is the one type of person on this planet who should have no fear of death. Sure, a person might be afraid of the pain associated with dying, but they should have the faith to know that death for a Christian is a promotion.

Take a listen to the sermon my Pastor aired on the radio recently if you want to be encouraged in your life.

http://www.oneplace.com/ministries/Enduring_Truth/archives.asp

A Preview Of Coming Attractions
4/9/2007 - Monday: Inspiring details about the glorified bodies we will receive when Christ raises us from the dead (based on 1 Cor. 15:35-58)

Answer 8

I have the same problem. It got worse right before I got married. I was terrified sometimes just to leave the house. I still get scared every day, but you can't let it take over your life.My husband tells me whenever I think of death, I should think of life. and that is what I have started doing. I think of babies or cute kittens or whatever I need to do to get my mind on the right track. You are only here for so long so make the most of it. You will drive yourself crazy. so find something else to train your mind to think about when those thoughts occur. You dont want to be 80 years old and look back at your life and think hey why didnt I do anything? becuz I was so scared?? that's silly. I know it's easier said than done, but I hope knowing that other people have the same thoughts helps.

Answer 9

I can speak about death personally... i had a cardiac arrest and I was pronounced dead for 13 minutes... by the grace of god the Dr who delivered me when I was born was there, and she insisted they keeping working on me.... I was 11 at the time... the process of death is very mythical and people have different perceptions of it... to me it felt like a long deep sleep... i was in a coma after that for 3 days..... very peaceful... stop worrying about Death... when you worry about death you give it power to come closer to you... I suggest you talk to your Pastor, Priest, or Father... which ever you see.
But if you wanna take my advice because I'm sure I have a valid opinion on this issue. But you need to get over the fear, and its almost like a fixation or fascination, so live your life youngster....you are not alone... I think about it also, but I know that its not painful... death is a very long process for some.... love a good life, and safe life so you don't put your self in those situations... the best example i can use if a person is hit by the car and dies... the painful part is the trauma... when you transition it is not bad... you feel nothing... if you wanna talk more feel free to email me. I feel you 100% youngster... take it easy and God Bless.

Answer 10

Life can be very scary. We live in a frightening world. I believe there is a God. I think everything, one day, will be wonderful for everyone. I don't think heaven is a place, I think it's a feeling. The most beautiful, blissful feeling in the world and you will have it inside of you always. Wherever you are will be heaven. I'm sorry you are so scared of the inevitable. We will all die. We all have to face this one day. What happens when we die, we don't know. I told you what I think. If there is a God everything will be ok. Nothing to worry about. If there is no God, we will just die and cease to exist. Nothing to worry about. There are books you can read to help you not be so scared. You don't want your fear to take over your life. Be a good person, care for and love others, make your life happy and full of love. Everything will be ok. Take care.

Answer 11

I feel for you, and I will pray for you. I am glad to hear you are a Christian, I don't know if you read the Bible regularly, but I encourage you too. GOD doesn't want us to fear death. He loves you and would never want you to be afraid. You say you are a Christian, so I assume that you are born-again and have accepted Jesus into your heart. Listen, one of the most wonderful peaces we have with faith in Christ is the peace of not fearing death. When you put your faith in Christ, then you can know for sure that when you die, you are going to heaven. You do not have to worry about death--- if it will hurt, when it will come, what will happen---because GOD is in control, and when GOD decides to take you to be with Him, all will be well. Also, I urge you not to believe the false wisdom of this world. Please do not be taken up in the lies of evolution which says there is no GOD and no purpose. Here's a Bible verse that might help: "I will destroy the wisdom of the wise; the intelligence of the intelligent I will frustrate. Where is the wise man? where is the scholar? Where is the philosopher of this age? Has not GOD made foolish the wisdom of this world?" 1 Corinthians You see, the wisdoms of men will come and go, but GOD's Truth lasts forever. Pray to GOD and ask Him to reveal Himself to you, and do not be afraid.

"Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in GOD, trust also in me (Jesus). In my Father's house are many rooms; if it were not so I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you may also be where I am. You know the way to the place where I am going." John 14:1-4