Okay guys just to clarify I am not a teenager, I am 32 years old and it would be very insightful to the background of this situation if you could take a quick second to review some of the other questions I have posted about this relationship.
Basically, I have been very confused about this man that I am crazy about. I am trying to figure out if he really has feelings for me or if he is just in this for the sex. He said last night that each day things are getting more and more serious, and it sounded like he was comfortable with that or maybe even happy about it. When you read my other recent questions you'll see I have known him for about 6 months as a friend when he was dating a girlfriend of mine. They have since broke up and we have began spending more time together with the blessing of my friend. Today he called me and invited me to the mall with him and his daughter to do some shopping. We had a great day but I just felt it was a little soon for him to do that. 4 weeks of dating
2007-04-17 16:19:59 · 13 answers · asked by kricket 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Four weeks is way too early, it has an feel of someone looking for a mom for their kid. He is moving way to fast and that is a sign of a needy guy. He move on from your girlfriend way too fast, another sign of a needy guy.
Be warned, these are not good signs. He is way to serious and that doesn't make for a good boyfriend. Run now or be sorry later.
2007-04-17 16:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and let him know that things are running a little bit too fast. Let him know that it is scaring you and you don't feel comfortable about it. Decide to take things a bit slower and let him know that it is best to cool things a bit and go out for coffee more often. Whatever you do, stop having sex with him because it will only fool him into thinking that there is something more in the relationship.
If the guy does not agree with this and gets violent with his behavior and starts stalking you, then it's your cue to call the authorities on him.
You have every right to stand true to your word because if you are not honest with your feelings about anyone, it's a recipe for disaster. Don't boggle yourself with "what ifs" and give anybody the benefit of the doubt if you feel uncomfortable.
2007-04-17 16:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was dating after my divorce i made it a rule not to let my dates meet my kids until i knew how i felt and if it was going to be a steady relationship. because i didn't want my kids to get attached to them and then either i call it off or he does. so if i was in your shoes i would say yes its way too soon to meet his daughter. or at least make it seem like you were just friends by that i mean no holding hands or kissing in front of her. but again it all depends on how you both feel about each other. if you think its going to last then maybe its not too soon but you need to know where you both stand before you meet the kids. sorry but that's just how i dealt with it, i didn't want my kids hurt a 2nd time. i hope this helps you. best of luck to the both of you. :)
2007-04-17 16:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by kameo_44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kricket, the guy is serious. If he's introducing you to his daughter, he's keen to test out whether you two actually get on, and whether you three could be a harmonious family. He's been bitten once, and is unlikely to be careless about who he lets near his child.
Stop having so many doubts about yourself, because that's where it starts.
This could be the experience of your life. Give it a chance. It may just be what you all need now.
2007-04-17 16:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anything of it and I believe he never thought anything either. You did say you two have been friends for the last six months. Actually; based on that length of time, I'm surprised you haven't met his daughter before now. No, I don't think it was too soon at all. And it doesn't sound like he's in for the sex at all. So, relax, and don't overthink things. It sounds like you're doing great!!
2007-04-17 16:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by karen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow....To be honest all the guys I know would never do that...unless...they are really into you and serious about having you in their life completly...that means family in all....to be it sounds like your a little scared because a new task to your relationship is rising....if you unsure talk to him about your feelings and if he is genuine everything will work out
2007-04-17 16:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by lilbattle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 weeks of dating and its too soon? Not to mention that you have known him for 6 months? I personally don't see where you think it is too soon.
2007-04-17 16:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by mcaz86 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For a 32 year old woman, you seem awfully insecure. He just wants to be sure from the beginning that you understand he has a child and the child probably means a lot to him.
2007-04-17 16:24:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Apparently, he was comfortable enough with you for you to go shopping with him and his daughter. You should be happy he's started to include her in outings with you.
2007-04-17 16:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by SweePie0My 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
everything goes at his own pace...if you think hes meant to be, then he will accept you feeling abit uncomfortable. talk to him, what are relationships for? [like you said, not only for the sex]
2007-04-17 16:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by KatKat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋