My girlfriend is moving away to Australia and she asked me if I was was going to allow her to go to the dances as shes going to a school there, as we will be in a long distance relationship should I let her dance with other guys? I dont want her to, but am I being to protective?
2007-04-17 16:06:44 · 38 answers · asked by alkacue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let her do it because if you don't she will grow to resent you and break it off (but do seem a little jealous, that way it seems like it does kinda bother you)
Just do your best to keep tabs on her,
i personally have never had a long distance thing work
but for your sake i hope it does, just make sure your not to controlling while seeming like you really do care, but you have no choice
Good Luck
2007-04-17 16:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by Camshaft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have no control over her. I don't understand how people who are just dating feel that they other person "owns" them. You can't allow her or not allow her to go to school dances, or have guy friends or anything else. Especially if you are in a long distance relationship. I don't know where you are currently (my guess is the US, but I don't know), but by her moving to Australia (lucky her) I hate to say this, but I don't see the relationship going for much longer. You'll both want someone close by that you can hang with. I say let loose the reigns now so you can both move on with your lives.
2007-04-17 16:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by DH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in Melbourne Australia and I have a girlfriend, it doesn't matter where in the world she goes I don't trust any other bloke around her...so you're just going to have to trust her on this one. It sounds like she has made up her mind and she's going anyway so if you hold on for a while you can overcome the jealousy. Don't let this hold you down, go out and party (without cheating obviously) but if you go out or hang out with friends it will help a lot. Also i know it might be hard but try not to contact her too much, when a girl knows she has that power it will make her feel less guilty when she goes out...if she doesn't talk talk to you that much she will miss you even more and feel really homesick when she party's. It's a subtle but effected style of "Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" Even though it sucks it will work...goodluck
2007-04-17 16:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Lloyd S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her dance all she wants, just make sure she knows that you want to be there with her. What can dancing hurt? If things are meant to work out, they will. I am in a long distance relationship and it is hard but we are making it work. You don't want to hold her back from having fun, and she wouldn't want you to hold back from having fun. If you tell her that you don't want her to go, it would be flattering for the moment, but it might end up getting between you in the end. It is nice to have freedom in a relationship. No one wants to be smothered in a relationship, as that breeds contempt. Be sure to tell her how much you will miss her and keep in close contact but not too close. Try not to seem too overprotective, but do what you can for her. Good luck!
2007-04-17 16:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously doubt that if she is that far away, she will oppose the opportunity to dance with another guy. As long as it's just harmless dancing, I see nothing wrong with it. Lets be realistic here. Dancing isn't cheating..In fact, it would be quite silly for her not to dance with other people. She is not your 4 year old daughter to overbear your protection upon. Give her the freedom to do as she wishes. If the relationship remains strong, then things will be ok.
2007-04-17 16:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will be over protective. Long distance relationship are usually hard to keep. It's better that you just let go of the relationship and keep it as a good friend/always be here to listen kind of relationship.
2007-04-17 16:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by MissRoyalT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly. I am a jealous person. If you don't want her to, then you should tell her not to. But, it's really her decision. If she doesn't respect what you want, and still does dance with other guys... then it just shows how "great" your relationship is with her.
Now, letting her dance with other guys isn't that big of a deal. A dance is a dance. It's only one night. If you can trust her enough to handle it, then you should just let her have a good time. It's really up to you.
2007-04-17 16:10:10 · answer #7 · answered by asdf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anytime a woman is not with her man she could be lured away very easily you should know this being a guy but you cant be over protective it doesn't work like that you either trust her and roll the dice or just move on to something else no matter you cant be 100% sure she wont cheat on you so it the same with her she cant be sure either let her go and you will have anwser soon enough
2007-04-17 16:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by bigbuck45216 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest long distance relationships dont last to great.. and i mean u can tell her not to dance with other guys.. but how do u kno forsure shes gunna listen.. and i mean if i was in her position and i was with my man for like a couple years i wouldnt even go to a dance ..whats the point almost every girl dances with a guy at a dance...
2007-04-17 16:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really that naive?
It doesn't matter what you'll let her to do and what you won't. She WILL do whatever she wants!
You don't understand. You don't have absolutely NO controll over her behavior especially in long distance relationship in which I btw don't believe.
You know what they say... "Out of sight, out of heart"
You should go ahead and start collecting home phone numbers. The day she'll move to Australia, you're done.
2007-04-17 16:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋