How do you handle sister-in-law that like to create crisis in the family?

Question

I've a sister-in-law that likes to gossip/report to the eldest sis-in-law (who is not staying together with her) on how other family members doing/saying something to hurt/push her around. In fact, she's the one always shouting at her husband, kids and maid loudly at home, sometimes around 2 to 4am. Her maid can only take her dinner at 11pm to 12 midnight. I was staying in the same house for many years before she was married to my brother-in-law, but ever since with her presence, she started her motive to create crisis to get everyone out from my in-law's house. Currently juz left them alone in that house. Not sure what's her next action and also do not know how to inform the eldest sis-in-law to be careful of her? She is having high jealousy, really do not know how to deal with her?

Answer 1

Don't be afraid to tell someone who is acting like an a** that they are acting like an a**! It's all in the way you present it. If she tries to gossip about someone else, make a point of telling her that she should tell the person she is speaking about directly, and not involve you in a problem she has with someone else. Sounds like she is a bully and NOBODY wants to deal with her head on. You don't have to be rude or insulting, but you can say things in a matter of fact way, that lets her know exactly what you think of her bad behavior. Sometimes people need to be held accountable for their selfish behavior, otherwise you can just ignore it and overlook it, until she really crosses the line, and then it becomes a big blow-up of all your past resentments.

Answer 2

Just Talk to your Husband First Let him know what's being said Every Family Is Different. It's not fair to compare one family to another Cause they have different circumstances altogether You Could Tell Her something like i'm Glad that you are able to do all that but we are not able to at this time. Please stop comparing our families But talk to your husband first However i can see her point in that Your'e obviously in that much debt can you guys really afford another car or daycare I Would get your Own Place Do what you need to do with your son and then get a job while he's in school and when he's not in school you be with him instead of letting a daycare raise your child Nothing replaces a parents love in a child's life and you'll never be able to get these years back If your in that much debt you really can't afford Daycare and another car. That's Just Adding more to An ALready hard Situation Talk things over with your husband and see if you can do that. Sounds like your starting to compare her son to yours at least in the last line of your question anyway Her son is 2 years older than your son and you can't do that hun all that's going to do is create animosity and that's not something that you can do Why Not Try Something where you are Working But Working from Home. She's Got some Good Points Maybe instead of Picking it apart see what you can do Here. Doesn't Mean you Have to Do all Of it but Look at the Motives. It doesn't Sound Like she was being Malicious. It Sounds Like She was Genuinely Trying to help you Take that into account and talk to your husband See what he says about it all

Answer 3

Sounds like a bit#h sister of mine. It sounds as though she thrives on power. I walked away from my sister. I dont talk to her anymore cos all she wanted to do was find out gossip & spread it. I believe that, one day, she'll need me & i just wont be there for her. She has done alot of damage & i'll never forgive her.

Answer 4

she seems to have a toxic personality.

you can probably do a search for coping with toxic personalities and find more information.

dont let her dramatic ways influence your emotions. she just wants attention, even if it's negative.

deal with her by ignoring her completely.

Answer 5

Psychopath. Research their minds and you can create a strategy to deal with them.

Answer 6

the best action is no action.
if she starts talking about others tell her you don't want to get involved and walk out of the room.
as for the rest of it. stay out of it. if you involve yourself you are as bad as she is

Answer 7

man sounds like a ***** sorry for you try praying that always helps

Answer 8

get even with a whoopy cushion or put mustard in her dessert.

Answer 9

I'd just b itch slap her!