Has she just lot interest?

Question

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 5 months, and for the first 3 months or so, everything seemed great. We got along really well. I'd known her for a year prior to this and were involved in extracurricular activities together, so we got to know each other very well.

But now it seems like she's lost all interest. We don't talk much anymore, and it sometimes seems like she just doesn't see me there. She's told me before that she's not the kind of person who likes to get "touchy-feely" and feels uncomfortable when people touch her, but this extends to me as well.

I'm starting to get the feeling that she just isn't interested in me anymore. I've tried talking things out with her on multiple occassions, but the situation just reverts back to the way it was.

I've been feeling very depressed lately, because she seems to be rejecting me all of the time.

Is this something I should expect or is she seriously losing interest in me?

We were friends for a little over a year before I asked her out.

I've also asked her if she still liked me, and she seems honestly surprised that I'd ask that question, and say she still does, but for me, actions speak louder than words, so I just don't know.

Answer 1

she may be cheating on you. i dont mean to sound mean but wake up

Answer 2

Have you come right out and ask her how she is feeling about you and your relationship? Tell her that you feel that she is losing interest. I am sorry to say that if she says she is not a person that likes to get touchy-feely and does not like when people touch her then you had better get used to it if you want to be with her. Some people are just that way. Because of the way she feels it would be hard to know if she is losing interest or not. Did she react uncomfortable with you in the beginning? The only way you are going to know for sure is to come right out and ask her what she is feeling about the two of you. Maybe for your own good you should just give up and move on if you are feeling rejected and depressed.
Good luck. Hope you find the answer soon.

Answer 3

If she cannot sit down with you and discuss with you your feelings like you have been trying, then there is a problem. There has to be honesty and communication in every relationship or you do not have a true relationship.

Tell her you really need to talk to her and you really need her to listen and have her input. If she cannot listen, then you probably should end the relationship. Start the conversation out with some positive parts of the relationship and then tell her what you expect in the relationship. Tell her what you feel about how your relationship is doing. Tell her you feel she in no longer interested and you would like to know if your feeling is true. If is it is, then you need to know so you can move on as it is not fair to lead you on.

It is still a new relationship, so you will have some differences and are still learning things about each other, but when you feel something is wrong, there probably is something going on.

I really recommend getting to know someone as friends first before starting to date as you have to be friends with someone first anyway. You get to know them and know if you want to date them later.

Best wishes to you. If she isn't the one, you will meet the girl that God has for you. Sometimes we have to go through people to finally meet the right person and really appreciate them for who they are.

Answer 4

I am one of those people who are not "touchy-feely". I had the same problem with my boyfriend that you are having. He didn't understand that I wasn't losing interest, I just wasn't very emotional. Job, work, and or kids can make it seem even worse. If she says she is still interested just take her word for it. My relationship was destroyed because he didn't believe me. Back off, give her some space and make her call and text you. She will get curious why you are not easily available and come find you!

Answer 5

Okay I am not an expert but...try to go to a couples concealer! Maybe she will really feel that you care about the relationship once she see you are willing to make changes to improve it! If she rejects this...maybe she is going through some depression or maybe she just wants some alone time to regroup her thoughts on your relationship with her. You know, to see if she IS still interested!

If all else fails...........Ask Mom, Grandma, Aunt, or another older-than-you person that is good with relationships!

Hope I Helped!
Salena

Answer 6

It sounds like she's not interested any more. This opinion is from a girl who has been there and done that! I personally think if someone is making you feel depressed, and that is the only reason you feel depresesed, you might want to seriously consider separating yourself from that person. You sound young... (because you talke about extracurriculars) move on and find someone who likes you as much as you like them.

Answer 7

It sounds like you've done the right thing in trying to communicate. Ask her if she'd like some space... maybe some time apart will get her thinking about things.

I hope things work out well for you.

Answer 8

She's the only one that can tell you what's going on in her head. I suggest leaving her alone for now. If she misses you and is wondering what's going on with you, you'll be the first to know.

Answer 9

she might not be ready to continue the physical relationship. You can't pressure her to tell you that perhaps she is just not that interested in you. Move on and find someone who rocks your world and back.

Answer 10

You deserve to be happy and she isn't doing it for you. If she won't even let you talk to her about it its time to dump her and find someone who will suit your emotional needs and learn to communicate.

Answer 11

it could be anything. it may just be that she is so comfortable with you that she doesnt feel the need to try anymore.