ok so this guy who was kinda my friend totaly liked me and i knew it. my other friends say that i was leading him on and i kinda had to agree. so i told him straight up...in a nice way... that i didnt think of him in that way! he was crushed...i felt so bad...but see he wants to be friends with me but i really dont
what should i do...!!!!???
2007-04-17 15:18:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You did the right thing by being straight with him and not leading him on anymore. Not that it was your fault before, but misunderstandings can happen, especially if everyone is hinting, instead of being straight-forward.
Anyway, I know it's tough, because he's not going to like being turned down. No one does. Trust me, though, he's not scarred for life, so you don't have to feel guilty over it at all. Don't feel pressured to be with somebody, just to spare their feelings, if you don't want to. Your feelings are important too!
On the same token, if you want to have a more casual friendship, you don't have to feel like it's committing you to anything with him, because you've already made it clear to him that's not what you want to do.
2007-04-17 15:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Kestra SpiritNova 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now I see how yours situation are alike. I was friends with the girls that I like first. That's why I starting liking her, but I also like been friends with her too. All I wanted to do with this girls it tell her what I feed for her, and if something happen OK and if it didn't it was till OK. But not at the cost of are friendship. If I knew then wha I know now I wound never toll her what i thing about her, because it has only cost me and her problems in are friendship. If this guy really cares for you he would understand and be your friend first. Hope this help.
2007-04-18 02:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by lopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be honest with him. The longer you wait the worse it will get. As long as you keep on having any type of relationship with him he will always think he has a chance, and no matter how someone else feels you have to live for yourself. If others can't handle it that's not your problem. If you are nice in how you say things and handle things in the propper manner then you have nothing to worry about.
2007-04-17 15:27:20 · answer #3 · answered by fulldwn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey the same thing is going on with me right now; we could be great friends but it is too wierd because i don't know your situation but he was planning on marriage; i didn't mean to lead him on and told him upfront i wanted a friends only thing but i guess he didn't believe me. so when i finally had to tell him straight up he was crushed; part because he is rejected a lot because he isn't the least bit good looking but he is a sweetheart; now i feel guilty and don't want to answer the phone when he still calls and i don't REALLY want to be friends with him; BUT i figure i will give our friendship a chance anyways; who knows you may actually end up liking him in the furture; oh i am sorry i am not much help; can't wait to read the responses so it can help me out with my own delima!
2007-04-17 15:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well... i think you should go up to him another day and tell him that you don't want him to feel bad about it. Tell him, even if it's not true that he never knows when he could have a chance with u. Then if you just want to be friends with him tell him that for now you think it will much better to just be friends. He'll probably understand. Tell him that even if u guys don't go out .... u still ♥ him. (AS A FRIEND)
GOOD LUCK =:)
2007-04-17 15:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to break his heart playa :P as if guys dont have enough trouble with girls. The fact he wants to be friends with you suggests he is over you. or he going for round 2. I think you dont want to be friends with him because you feel guilty of breakin him.
If you can be ok as friends thats usually the best option, just tell your girlfriends to ease up on the leading on :P
2007-04-17 15:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i just recently got my heart ripped in half, and I'm male.
Now I'm not going to mention any names about who (above me) Said" I know how stupid guys can be". But I will try to use my "stupidity" to help.
Now Like I said, A girl told me she wasn't interested. we are still friends, but I moped for a couple of days... Now I suggest you be friends with this boy. Alot of us act stupid when we like somebody, and who knows? He could actually be really nice. You might grow to enjoy his company.
I wish you luck. =)
2007-04-17 15:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by A (hopefully) helpful person 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please, the ladies that were speaking about this sound like genuine B@#ches and favor to be slapped with a guy who can tear those females aside. they in basic terms favor a sugar daddy, they're fairly a lot prostitutes.
2016-12-04 05:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by smallwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just play it out. still be friends with him but not quite as good of friends...
talk to him some, but don't over-do it. he knows you don't like him so he shouldn't be overeager to talk to you anymore...
good luck with him, i know how stupid guys can be!
if you really don't like him just avoid him as much as possible. tell him you are really busy and don't really have time to talk or something like that, bs your way out of that friendship!
2007-04-17 15:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow , its fine just be casual and make sure he really understands that your friends ,not that you r discusted by him but you r friends
2007-04-17 15:23:16 · answer #10 · answered by cutiedownlow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋