my fiance and i are still virgins. hard to believe?? so i've been told before but it's very true. what am i gonna do?? i don't know how to have sex. my fiance and i are waiting until after we're married, which is gonna be next year but i'm worried when we're actually in bed together, what the heck am i going to do??? please help thanks.
2007-04-17 15:07:19 · 23 answers · asked by World peAce 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Get yourself a couple of how to books just so you know what to expect. They will tell you the mechanics. Don't watch porn by any means. That will probably give the wrong idea. But for the most part stop worrying. Sex is about being close with some one you love not just the physical.
Since you and your fiance are both virgins, maybe you should agree not to try to have sex for the first time on your wedding night. The wedding will be very tiring and stress full, so if your first sexual experience follows a day like that, it could be negative. It might be best to agree to wait a couple of days until you're relaxing on your honeymoon (and DO choose a relaxing place). Instead agree to kiss and cuddle and share the same bed those first couple of nights. No one but the two of you will have to know about this agreement.
When you do start having sex, take it slow at first. Figure out what you and he both enjoy and what you both dislike. That process takes awhile. Some people take years. Most importantly stop feeling bad about staying a virgin. Being a virgin isn't a bad thing. Even though it seems as though our society thinks it is.
2007-04-17 15:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by SunnyMoon 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on all of it, being engaged, staying virgins, it's not something that you hear of anymore. Anyways, don't listen to what anyone says here or elsewhere. It'll make you crazy.
I just have to say that I find it courageous that you've waited until your wedding to have sex, it shows a great care for yourself and your significant other, and that you love him very much.
Don't stress about your first time, like someone else, you're going to be so exhausted from the wedding that you might not be able to do that the first night, and that's fine. Make sure you've talked things over with your man before you do it though, make sure you've discussed having kids when, etc. You wouldn't believe how many people accidentally conceive on their wedding night/first night, it's crazy. Just be conscious of your health and you'll be fine.
2007-04-17 16:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, dont take advice from online. Get yourself a few books, The Joy of Sex is a good book. Take it slow and you will both learn how to do it- together, as one. No need for pointers because you will learn how to do it with time. Since you are both virgins though- there really is no "right" way. If it feels good- then it is good.
2007-04-17 15:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, congratz! Its not hard to believe at all! Plenty of people wait until the "I-do's" good 4 u! besides, its not ROCKET SCIENCE~ the first time wont feel that great, might even hurt... but once you 2 get going, you'll teach yourself what feels good and what doesn't. I've been married for 3 years now, and just 6 months ago i learned how to move and position myself to have an orgasm. Its a bit harder for women, but everyones different. teach your body (& his) what to do if something doesn't feel right.
ENJOY UR 1ST TIME!!!
2007-04-17 16:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you . Not a lot of people can enjoy what you will after your are married in the knowledge that you waited. My advice is to not listen to any advice. you will figure things out together the way you want. Please do not worry. Best wishes.
2007-04-17 15:33:50 · answer #5 · answered by barthebear 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you for experience, as i am only 14, but congratulations to you and your fiance for deciding to wait after marriage. That's great!
2007-04-17 15:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry! Here are some helpful tips:
1) on your wedding night wear a large flannel shirt and jogging pants to bed.
2) be sure to smear green facial cream all over your face
3) burp and fart as much as possible (and after each fart, stand up in bed and do ten seconds of the Electric Slide).
4) be sure and bring a giant, six foot pillow to bed and place it between you and your new husband.
5) begin snoring very loudly whenever he tries to say anything.
These tips will prepare him for the next twenty years of marriage
2007-04-17 16:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Good for you! Your marriage will last for ever. Dont worry, it will all be beautiful just take your time and let it happen. Love each other with all your hearts. Its rare to hear this these days, you should be proud.
2007-04-17 15:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by ~Aqua.. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down. you both don't know what to do, so it's hard for both of you. do you love him? then you'll be fine. talk to your mom. it's going to be a weird conversation, but she's probably happy that you've waited.
just take it slow. you might not get it "right" the first time, but just make sure you are using a condom (no "honeymoon" babies), and just laugh through it. you'll be fine.
2007-04-17 15:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU are ONE in a million!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hello! i did the same thing! me and my husband waited til *the night* and it was so awesome. Mind-blowing. Really.........my advise is to just take it slow: enjoy getting unclothed. it's a strange adjustment that first time. it's loaded with intimacy.....especially since you know he'll be yours forever. Congrats on having such a strong will. It will pay off. You'll realize your rewards once you start. ;)
Happy honeymooning!!
2007-04-17 15:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋