My parents have recently punished me for "disappointing" grades". Grade 6-8 no marks were under a B (in fact my report card contained ~90% A- to A+). Grade 9 my final average was 89% (with courses that I was forced to take bringing that down). In grade 10 my average went down to 87%. Now I'm sitting on an 83% average in my second term in grade 11, with 50% of my marks still to be gained (reporting is cumulative). I am in the 94th percentile on the PSAT's without studying and I am sure that my only problem is my inconsistency and lack of interest (I am getting 90%+ in the classes that interest me) in the subjects I am learning, and my parents and teachers all confirmed this. Do you think that their punishment (consisting of: no computer, no TV, no going out; pretty much not having fun of any sort; all to be replaced with intensive studying) is fair? Please give me some advice! Oh, and I didn't mention they were Eastern European (Romanian).
Thank you for taking the time to read my story
2007-04-17 14:59:04 · 14 answers · asked by Vlad B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you very much for your responses. I agree with the "future being the most important thing" argument, but my question is - what future? I haven't found something that I'd truly like to do as a career yet (other than professional soccer). My parents' argument is "if you didn't get perfect you didn't study hard enough". With someone like me who does not have a set path to go down, I find it impossible to do what they ask of me, especially knowing that much of the stuff I am learning right now will be useless later on.
Thanks again.
2007-04-17 15:43:30 · update #1
It's very fair. They want the best for you and are aware of how intelligent you really are. They are also probably aware of how you are doing better in the classes you like while you are slacking off in the ones you don't. You need to learn that life is not always going to be about doing what you want and that to be successful there are going to be times when you have to do the best at what you don't like.
You may not like it, but it is in YOUR control to change this situation. Do your best in ALL your classes. Don't waste your potential.
2007-04-17 15:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me .. it is VERY FAIR .. your parents definitely care deeply about you, enough so that they EMPHASIZE the FACT that EDUCATION is the KEY to your future.
Now I see that you don't see a future other than Soccer ... hey, you are in High School. I would suggest that you go to your High School Counselor at this time, and request to take some of the FREE (yes, FREE) Career Surveys that they have.
With a short amount of time commitment, you can gain a real insight into your own talents and interests, and possible CAREERS for you in the future!
And ... believe me, what you learn in High School is very important to the rest of your life -- learning how to manage your budget (Math Skills), learning how to be a part of a married family unit (negotiations, compromise, how to deal with conflict in the marriage), science (have you noticed that cooking is basically CHEMISTRY!), History/Political Science/Government (to be an EDUCATED Voter in the future), and ... most importantly (but not in the least bit the end) -- staying HEALTHY and ACTIVE (Physical Education) so that you can ENJOY the Long Life that is a birthright for Human Beings!
Given all this .. and the fact that the more education you have the better your income and career prospects .. don't you think that providing your BEST EFFORTS to your schooling at this time is not that much to ask?
YOUR parents care -- and they show it. RESPECT their decision and apply yourself to your studies at this time and do your best.
2007-04-17 17:06:04 · answer #2 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation is the old school against the new. I agree your grades do not indicate the end of a bright future for you. Lack of interest in some subjects is reality. Problem is your parents are viewing grades overall. Guess what, as long as they put food on the table you are going to have to put forth the effort they require. Honestly I think you will be fine, but they view grades as some sort of guarantee. You may want to opt for some easier classes next time to keep your average up and avoid this.
2007-04-17 16:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents are preparing you for the world. You are sure that your only problem is inconsistency and lack of interest in the subjects. Going into high school, all those subjects are just helping you to get on your way.
When you later find work, inconsistency and lack of interest will get you into far greater trouble with bosses than they ever did with your parents. Those are just unacceptable qualities in any person in the real world. Hey, if you were in the 99.99th percentile in the whole U.S., you'd still need the drive; you'd just be one of 30,000.
2007-04-17 16:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by No No 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you do not know what you want to do in the future or for a career, you still need to keep your grades up. Even some employers look at them and will and can rate your pay on your performance in school. And if you do chose to go to college, those good grades will help you. And it is your parent's prerogative to discipline those in their house.
2007-04-25 04:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by hey_there_heathe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them to help you and sit with you as you get your homework. Be sure to turn in your homework as expected.
Maybe they don't realize how difficult the work is and sitting with you and truly (not in a smart-alec way or angry way) asking for their help and encouragement may make them see how hard you are trying. To get them involved is probably the best way to get them into what is truly your side.
IF they are the kind of parents who didn't go far in school, they are wanting it for you so you can do better, or they went far in school and afraid you are jepordizing your future. Either way, be cooperative with them, be geniune about your difficulties and don't pull any adolescent temper tantrums and defensive pouting or you will continue to have a battle.
I will pray they listen and you handle it correctly! K?
2007-04-24 10:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like you are a pretty responsible teen at least you aren't 14 and prego, and awesome grades maybe talk to your parents and tell them how you feel, i am sure they just want what is best for you but in my household all that was required was a c.
2007-04-17 15:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To a point I do think this is fair! If you are capable of making better grades and your parents know that then yes its fair! They want to see you do the best that you can for your future.
2007-04-17 15:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by Mellycat123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what's with this and Americane thinking that human beings are cheating on exams each and every of the time. the academics might desire to be extremely stupid in the event that they did no longer see anybody cheat. besides no they might't punish you. tell them in the event that they might arise with a logical way which you cheated and notice what they are asserting. in the event that they arise with a stupid answer and are nonetheless obdurate then tell them to touch the college and notice what they are asserting for themselves. you will in all risk have them on the logical reason.
2016-12-29 05:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by nimmo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you study and get good grades and then you will be able to go out and have fun again.
2007-04-17 16:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by debk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋