How can i relieve my guilt?

Question

I am 13. My mom has a minor drinking problem. she has had it for a long time. she went to rehab about a year about, it didnt help very much. often i blow up in her face and say really rude things that she takes heavily. she will often cry and not want to talk to me. i am always so overcome in guilt and feel absolutly horrible! i feel so guilty that i often get a stomach ache. she is very good about forgiving me when i apologize but i am always left with some guilt. i think that this time when i try to apologize she will not be so forgiving. what should i do?????

Answer 1

Treat your mother with the respect that she deserves and remember that you only have one mother! When shes gone shes gone and you never know when her time here on earth will end!

Answer 2

First you are only 13. You mom does not have a minor drinking problem, rehab indicates it is serious. When you blow up you are reacting to a situation you should not be faced with in the first place. The guilt is only your mom's to own, do not own what is not yours. Enough with the guilt trip and on with the support of your mom toward rehab.

Answer 3

i suppose i have to be the one to tell you hon... but YOU have NOTHING to apologize for. it's not your fault your mother is abusing alcohol, and is miserable and is making you miserable.

it's not fun or pretty living with an alcoholic. i grew up in an alcoholic home, too.

your mother's problem is anything but minor. it's a serious disease.....

your mother is probably crying because she is disgusted with herself. i wish she never started drinking again after rehab (and you probably do too).

you need some help. your life has been affected by your mother's drinking. i have posted the link for Alateen for you below. there is quite a lot of helpful information here. you can also look up alanon, and even go to meetings in your community for help and support. the people who attend these meetings are going through the same things you are with your mom.

please don't feel guilty. you did nothing wrong.

sending hugs your way. xo

Answer 4

You should remember that YOU are the child, not the parent! Of course you're going to blow up at her, she's drinking and that's her main interest and you're worried about her and understandably mad. Of course I can say that she needs to once again get into rehab., but it has to be a really good one. Something is lacking if she goes right back to drinking. To be very honest she needs the Lord Jesus Christ in her life and if she really knew Him, she'd be able to fight the fight and win because He would give her the strength. Do you know anyone that could get their pastor to talk to her? You, my dear, need to forgive yourself and please find a good support group and it would be great if you could find a church you like. Ask around and please know, YOU are not responsible for your mom's happiness! God Bless:)

Answer 5

do something nice for her- clean, make dinner. u have to remember she is the only mother u will ever have and im sure she has been thru alot. girl trust me, i know how u feel. i treated my mother like crap and left when i was 15 and im telling u, that was the biggest mistake. im 27 married with 2 kids now and i have already sacraficed alot for my kids- so i hope they show me the love n respect that i deserve. my mother lives down south and i would anything just to hug her everyday. u should stop what u doin now and go tell ur mom u love her and shes the best. nobodys perfect sweety not even me. good luck

Answer 6

Alcohol problems can cause problems for the entire family, especially the kids. I think it might help you feel better, and maybe your mom too, if you sit down and write her a letter. Take your time, and tell her how you really feel deep down inside. That way, you can tell her what really bothers you, get it off your chest, and also let her know how much you really love and need her. Tell her how much it hurts to see her drink, and if you would like her to try to get help again, but tell her you love her no matter what.