relationshipss?

Question

so i have a boyfriend [lets call him charlie]. its our second time going out. the last time it ended because i was having trouble figuring out if i was bisexual or straight. hes a really strong christian and it was against his beleifes to go out with people like that. but a few weeks after we broke up in december, my feelings for girls ended. he was my first real boyfriend, and i couldnt get him out of my head since the breakup. i then found out that charlie liked me again, and he asked me out on friday. well the thing is that ive been best friends with my other ex [lets call him tod] for almost two years, and were really close. the only person im not shy around is tod, and charlie gets really jealous because im constantly with tod. i cant help but notice that charlie gets really nervous and weird whenever tod is brought up. how can i explain to charlie that i love him? [if love possibly could exist in 8th grade]

Answer 1

Lol smart comment at the end, but yes love exist, the problem is the concept. Understand that love is nothing more then the sum whole of all feelings you hold for an entity. In a lot of ways, from what you said, I can almost conclude that you actual love tod more. Are I can say, you feel more, accept more feeling, and care more to give more feelings to tod. Something you'll learn as you get older is that a friendship exsist at the core of every deep and meaningful relationship, weather its girls or guys. You can seperate the two are you'll find your relationship based around a stranger who just offers you more promises, but at the same time, gives you less. I'm not sure of your history with charlie, but it doesn't seem as near as intense as your relationship with tod. And yes sex is intense, but doesn't compare to the feelings exchanged outside of sex. So you might be having a hard time explain to charlie that you love him more because quite frankly it would be a lie. If you really felt for that guy the whole; not sure if I'm bi-sexual or straite, wouldn't of end'd the relationship. But that proves that your relationship with him is based soly on your sexuality. But no matter your sexuality you've still manage to keep tod around? Now whose more important? Also keep in mind that its societies ignorance to believe that sexual intimacy ruins friendship, we ruin friendships. It isn't the intimacy but how we handle it that usually leds to the end. And unfronatunely when it runs that deep, we are forced to have to grow up faster.... its really some pretty complicated, deep stuff, but all I'm saying is that maybe your confusing yourself.... I know I did when I was younger.... it took me awhile and a lot of heartache to learn these lessons in myself.... sometimes, its those bestfriends we keep around that would of made the better choice, and because of that we feel so much more insecure then we would with someone who just wants..... that, thing;)....... but live and learn baby girl, if you still want to go this route, then just be "honest" and let him know that tod doesn't mean anything to you, hehe

Answer 2

sure, this is haram. and you detect your destiny husband/spouse the form you detect your friends. via in simple terms being there and letting issues artwork themselves out. you do no longer ought thus far somebody to appreciate you elect to marry them. you do no longer ought thus far somebody to get to appreciate them. in simple terms like with acquaintances. while you're in a hurry to get married, then have your loved ones get entangled and seek for a tournament for you. it is not likely confusing. what's confusing is that in case you have been with certainly one of those super style of people, you do no longer understand once you're actual in love or what you're searching for anymore. reliable success. **Pakistani Chap's answer is great. Wholeheartedly agree.