We're both 18, been together for over a year, both our families our friends. I just don't want the tension of overprotective parents. I was the 'bad' kid my entire life, hehe, I don't want to go back to that!
2007-04-17 14:01:43 · 13 answers · asked by cobragirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you want your parents to treat you as an adult, show them that you are.
Get together with your boyfriend, and write down how much you are going to pay rent, for food, and the bills (phone, Internet, gas, cable, electricity, etc) working out how much you need and how much you earn. Add how much you need to go out, and how often you can afford to do that. Then show that you can make that amount. That's first.
Then write out how you are going to divide the chores, who is expected to do what, how often. Include things like the trash, cleaning the bathroom and kitchen, mopping, sweeping, bed making, etc.
Then work out what you are going to do about contraception, or if you decide to go against that, how you would cope with a little one. Add the possible expenses to the first list.
Then you need to work out what you are going to do when you don't agree. This could have to do with money, or going out, or who comes over and when. Work out if, or how much alone time you each might need.
Then there is furniture. Basics start with fridge, washer, t.v., bed, lights, lounge suite, table and chairs etc.
Not ready to cope with all of this? Then your not ready to move out.
If you can, and can show your parents how you are going to do what you need to as an adult, then you will probably have less of a fight on your hands.
2007-04-17 14:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 18 your parents cant do any more than give you suggestions just tell them and if they call you a bad child then they arent being supportive like they are suposed to. tell them you think youshould start living your life now that your 18 and it can help to move out and get started but of course you may need support of your parents and keep good relationship with them, im moving out once i turn 18 which is less than a month and my mom and i have been going at it and she doesnt want anything to do with me after i move which is a hard thing to go through but my dad is supportive and wants the best of luck for me and is willing to help me if i need it. so just keep a good relationship and make sure youll have somewhere to turn if you two need help
2007-04-17 21:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if both of your parents are over protective and you were a bad kid you
will have to have a pretty serious talk like this mom and dad me and my
boy friend have been together for a whole year and i want to move in with
him and i am old enough and responseable (thats if you are responseable)
2007-04-17 21:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by clouds buster sword 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them . Don't fight about it....they may say they will disown you...but time will pass....they still will love you. Who knows they may go for it.....that is a touchy subject. But, I let my daughter move in with her boyfriend cuz she was always with him anyway....so I thought....okay. I miss her but I talk with her on the phone & I see her occassionally. It is hard sometimes as a parent to let go of their children, but there comes a time when it has to happen. I wish you luck.
2007-04-17 21:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by simplesimon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so dint be the bad kid, or the-stupid kid, be up-front and honest, but still use birth control and-your brain. they will only be angry if they think you dint know what your doing, or they think you cant act as an adult, who is responsible for her actions.so prove to them you are an adult and can handle your life responsibility.give them a bit of credit, they raised you, didn't they?
2007-04-17 21:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom, dad, I'm moving in with my boyfriend. If you really want to, set up an appropiate time and place, have your boyfriend there and goodluck.
2007-04-17 21:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by the_post2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem...
you need to just tell them that you and your boyfriend are going to move in together...tell them where and when
you are 18 and if you have been the 'bad' kid your whole life, well, i imagine they are expecting this
just tell them
2007-04-17 21:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 18 if you are supporting your self there is not much they can say,,, sit them down as ADULTS if you wanted to be treated as an adult
2007-04-17 21:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey mom if im 18 then i am an adult so i have my own rights and i choose to move in with my b-friend and u cant stop me cause im an adult.....etc.
2007-04-17 21:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by lily 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Hey Mom, Dad, I am moving in with my boyfriend. None of your business, so get over it." See how easy that was?
2007-04-17 21:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by Wascally Wadical 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋