I think i am a target for ridiculous people. heres the situation and then you tell me what you think please.
all my sis life she seems to make everything about her! her friend recently tried to commit suicide in a hotel room and not only did she mock her friend but she had to make it her appointed duty to let everyone know she was qualified to handle situations like that! she totally made the situation about her. not only this she tries to argue with me all the time?? and to make matters worse, she will sit and make a ppl listen to her problems but if you takl about yours she will cut you off or act like she dosent hear you!? she will also see a person who is having abad day and ask if she did something or try and pick a fight with them
okay what is the deal??? totally confused
2007-04-17 13:39:09 · 17 answers · asked by gotchafool05 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
oo did i fail to mention that she has 5 kids and is a police officer!
2007-04-17 13:54:56 · update #1
Some people are like that. You could talk with you parents and ask them to sit down with her. Otherwise you will just have to deal with it until you move out.
Your sister will figure it out eventually. Likely when she is old, alone and miserable.
2007-04-17 13:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by forestpirate 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well your sister is nervous and has issues. She actually reminds me of me. I try not to be like that, and when someone says I am being like that, I just feel like such a disappointment in the inside...it can leave a lot of sad baggage on the inside.. then you get paranoid and you worry all the time that your still being like that so it makes someone like your sister and myself even more self centered we say things like "are you mad at me? did I do something wrong?"
Its so embarrassing to be aware that the people around you, feel this way about you... You sister seems to be outwardly dealing with this and saying "I'll embrace this and just be abnoxious"on the other hand, I hold it in and cry when by myself.
You can be a part of her healing though! I became very close to Jesus, I read alot of the new testament often (of the bible) and it taught me how to help to heal myself...and I think I treat people alot better now or at least alot has been redirected....
This world is not perfect...and we are all growing up at different paces.
2007-04-17 13:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her, compliment her annoyingly, whatever you do make sure she doesnt get the attention she craves. Or blattently call her out in a bunch of ppl, tell her loud and clear that the world does not revolve around her, and no one cares about her and her problems. The harsher the better. and if she tries to start a fight with you, act amused by the whole thing, and/or agree with her, it will definately piss her off
2007-04-17 13:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by britt b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if she's very self centered, if not Narcissistic. My suggestion is to start treating her the same way she treats others... for example: If she starts talking about her problems, let your demeanor show detachment or disinterest.
Your sister: "Sister, I've have a horrible day!! blah blah blah"
You: (pointing) "Oh wow!! Look at the dust on my computer screen!!! Oh, you were saying?" (cleaning the computer screen)
Your sister: I was SAYING I had a horrible day, worse than anyone ever...blah blah blah.
You: OH OH OH!!! Did you hear about the sale at macy's?????? I'm going to go this weekend and get me a, b, c and d!! I've always wanted those!
Keep diverting the attention away from her. I dont care if you have to talk about the color/texture differences of dirt. Don't let the focus land on her.
2007-04-17 13:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Secrets of the Night 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well thats just a stuck up conceited person, sometimes they will learn to think about other ppl like 47% of the time if you just talk/knock some sense in them. but others will just not give a damn about you and still act that way, but in the future it will come back to em, oh it will hit em hard. i know how that is, i blindly dated a girl like that and ended that relationship 3 days later ahaha. so just try to have a good talk, make em listen. if not, hey at least you tried.
2007-04-17 13:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK...no need to be confused. Your sister CRAVES attention. She has NO self-esteem. If someone is getting attention (whether it's good or bad) she thinks that means that no one likes her or cares for her. So she has to insert herself into every situation so she is the main focus. She doesn't even care that is BAD attention and that people REALLY don't like her when she does that--people are still paying attention to her. Ignore her. When she comes to you--walk away. And if you want to tell someone what's going on with you....talk to your mom, dad or best friend....not your sister.
2007-04-17 13:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your sister's a mental case. No not really, I've known plenty of people like that in my days, and in my experience you can't really change them, they're just terribly self centered and maybe someday they'll figure it out on their own.
2007-04-17 13:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dang can you say Consced *****..lol jk, but she really sound horrible why dont you just tell her what you think and if she doesnt belive you show her all the' answers.
2007-04-17 13:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying. It's none of your business how your sister acts. If she starts crap with you, assert yourself and tell her that's enough and you'll talk to her later or ask her what she means by that.
2007-04-17 13:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are living with these problems, but there isn't anything you can do to change her. You could talk with your parents about it and get their opinion. Maybe together you and your family can show her how she behaves.
2007-04-17 13:48:16 · answer #10 · answered by Jan C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋