I think its normal, i'll just feel like crap because they're better then me...is that normal?
2007-04-17 13:39:07 · 20 answers · asked by Joe F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're the one she's coming home to at the end of the night.
2007-04-17 13:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by Hosebeast-ess to be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women have to ask this question all the time about their male counterparts wanting to visit strip clubs. The women at strip clubs LIVE in the gym. They eat nothing but salad. They're PAID to look perfect. They practice a LOT to keep from dropping themselves on their heads sliding up and down poles. Do you think that's who they actually are?
I expect male strippers are much the same. They're admired for their bodies and the way they perform. Off-stage, they're just people. They have their problems and neuroses just like everyone else. They have their annoying habits, too. They're selling the fantasy; they just happen to look the part. I've been to see a male exotic dance show. It was okay. I wouldn't fall all over myself to go back to one again. It was more or less just to say "been there, done that."
You know what I think? I get the impression that the whole idea of male strippers and Playgirl magazines and such all came about as some kind of in-your-face act of vengeance on behalf of all the "exploited" women everywhere. You want to turn women into sexual objects? Oh yeah? Well, TWO can play that game... It's just stupid. I don't really get much out of it, to be honest. They're pretty to look at, but that's about all.
Talk to your girlfriend and let her know what you're feeling. I know...ewww...talking...feelings...gross. ;) But it really does work. Plus she'll appreciate that you're reaching out to her and expressing that you care about her, that you're afraid of losing her, etc. We like to feel that we're needed on some level. It speaks to that nurturing instinct in us...you know...the one that makes you pancakes with "I heart u" in whipped cream on them?
Good luck.
2007-04-19 15:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course that's a normal feeling & I completely understand. Now, how does she feel about YOU going to strip clubs? What would she say if you replied with - gee, that sounds like an idea, think I'll go check one out myself. Then see how she reacts. If it's no problem with her, then I think she'd be telling you it's really no biggie & I don't think you should worry. If it is a problem, then why should she go & not you.
2007-04-17 20:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, if you went to strip clubs to look at women, would you expect HER to feel ok about that?
Or even if you went to strip clubs, would she herself be ok about that.
If you would expect her to feel ok about you going to strip clubs (if you do) then you must be fair and let her do the same.
And if she would not be ok about you going to strip clubs, and asked you not to, she needs to give you the same courtesy and not go to one herself.
Either way, you should talk to her, let her know how insecure it makes you feel so she can reassure you. and remember, looking is not the same as being unfaithful.
If she comes home a little enamoured, its you getting the benefits after all.
Lastly, if you did a poll on both faithful males or faithful females who visit strip clubs, men will often say its a sexual thing for them visually, even though they do not act upon this with any other but their wives/girlfriends, whilst most women would reply its a giggle, fun, but not sexual visually.
The two sexes, in general view it differently.
But don't let her use this as an excuse for hetr to go watch men, yet not let you go watch women.
2007-04-17 20:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by Minny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is normal for you to feel that way, but there are guys on the street that might be better too. I think you have to be confident with the fact that she is with you and if she wanted someone else i think she would be with someone else...besides confidence in a guy is completely sexy, just watch not to go over board. It is innocent fun! don't worry about it! maybe when she gets home you can show her a little dance yourself! lol
2007-04-17 20:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by vickie2391 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel that way...besides, they get paid to do it. Let her go and have a little fun. Most women don't take "strippers" as a plan to find another man. They just want to have a little fun. Don't feel like crap.
2007-04-17 20:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by KG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay now how are they better than you? Come on now. Okay so your cool with it right on. With me that is just not my style. If I'm with a man why go out and watch other guys dance around like they are all that when I have a man at home that can dance for me better than any of those mofo's.
Don't feel that they are better than you okay because they are not, any man that goes and dances around trying to do u turns with his beef has to be wasted.
Cheers!
2007-04-17 20:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course they are better than you are...they get paid for being that good...of course, you COULD go to a gym and start working out...then apply for a job as a stripper. hmmmm. Stranger things have happened.
2007-04-17 20:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal to want to compare yourself to professional male strippers. But know this, a lot of them are gay! As long as your girlfriend continues to come home to you, don't worry about it!
2007-04-17 20:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by sandramunroe11550 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok. sometimes women just need 2 hav som fun sometimes. it doesn't mean they don't luv u anymore. sometimes they need a break just 2 hav their own little time
2007-04-17 20:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by acw1500 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋