is this stalking or harassment?

Question

when ever my bf has his kids his ex tell him she is having someone watch him.. weather it is at our house or his parents.. she has gotten so bad with the letters and phone calls i wont let the kids come over .. he has to take them to his mom house.. now in the begining in one of her letter she sugessted that she was thinking of doing this..making him go to his mom house with out me.. after so much of it i thought it a good idea.. now she is mad about it and call me a ***** on the anwswering maching.. said if he wasnt at her mom house with out his ***** old lady and that if he did not come alone he could never see the kids again.. they were never married so she has 100% control of the kids.. is this stalking or harrsament.. he did not go and a month and half later she called for him to get the kids.. he took them to his mom house after her asking and him telling her 6 times where they would be at... and her calling and her parents and grandparents calling the entire week end to make sur

they called 6 time to make sure he was there and callled my cell 2 times and hung up .. i did not see where they called the house phone though

robin..maybe in the real world.. but in ga.. yeah if you dont marry the mom she has 100% control until you take her to court a legitimize them.. we have talk to a lawyer on this so we know that much... i swear this is the land that time forgot

she started the whole looking over his shoulder when she left him and then wanted him back and he would not take her back because 2 wks after she left him she moved someone else in.. only thing was the man she move in could not speak english and she could not speak spanish.. they have since then gottne married.. 3yr down the road

she did not have to work when she was with my bf but with new hubby she has to work.. go to school .. etc

Answer 1

OK first thing to do and I'm talking from going through this......

Get a lawyer to modify the visitation section of the legal papers. Include in the new section, and outline on when the mother can contact the children and how. Say 1 phone call a day while the children are with the father. Also include that the mother of the children can not come around, or have someone else around unless it is an emergency with the child. I know it is a pain but my ex is totally crazy and was doing the type things. It has to be handled in the courts so if she continues with it she can go to jail.. Until you get the paperwork done and have everything outlined shes gonna keep doing what she is doing. It is a control issue, that she can not let go of and she has to be made to let go.......good luck!

Answer 2

First off you got a nut on your hands, second just because they were never married doesnt give her 100% control, maybe in her head, but legally no, its 50/50. Best thing I can say to do is start keeping a log book, w/ dates times, incidences,save all messages on your machine and if she keeps the stuff up , He should take her to court for harrassment because she is interfering in his time w/ his children, judges look kindly on people that have evidence and proof of what is going on. She is oviously disturbed but I'd have you BF go to Domestic Services and report the harrasment so its on file, everytime she trys to mess up his visitation I'd go back and report her again, she will either get sick of being reported and stop or sit and jail. Good Luck!!

Answer 3

I am sorry that you are in the middle of this mess. This is one reason that I believe men who have children with an ex should go straight to the court and allow the child support and visitation be placed on record - so that any new developments in the lives of the couple with new people, will not cut into their relationships. Mature adults would want to see this worked out so that their children do not have to suffer. You should talk with your boyfriend and see what he wants to do. It is obvious he needs to talk with the mother of his children and come to some conclusions that are going to benefit the children and cause as little disruption and destruction in your lives as possible. Good luck.

Answer 4

I think it's harassment because she just constantly calls or have someone looking over his back because she has a problem with you and him being in a relationship so she'll do what ever to make it cause confusion between u 2 so she'll just keep on harassing him and u until she grows up!!

Answer 5

Harassment.

Answer 6

depends does he have court ordered visitation if so she has no business nosing in on what he is doing during his visits

Answer 7

Harassment, pure and simple.

Answer 8

YES!!!!!!!