Ok, Im 17, this girl I like is 15. I had a class with her for half of the school year in this school year. I like her, BUT I have been to scared to talk to her and have been giving her stares, some with frowns( Im so frightened about what she thinks of me ). Now theres only 5 weeks of school left. She has only looked back at me not that long ago and given me a kind of frightened look. In Journal class today we had to write about someone we need to spend more time with and write a letter to them. I actually wrote 2 pages of how I've been a jerk by not talking to her, staring at her(not because of her chest, because she is pretty), and how she should talk to me, and force me to talk to her when I dont. What is going on in this girl's mind? What should I do?
2007-04-17 12:42:20 · 19 answers · asked by jj4general 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has probably thought you're weird if you stare at her all the time. Take it from a girl to not do that. Every girl likes - no LOVES - it when a man can be a man and make the first move. That's just how dating and relationships go. Strike up a convo about anything. If she gave you a frightened look, it because she doesn't know how to handle you staring at her all the time. She has probably guessed you kinda like her, but she probably just doesn't know what to think about you staring at her, and not talking to her.
My advice is say something to her! Smile at her, say "hey, what's the answer to this...", or "i don't get this...", etc. Something very casual. Talk to her like she's your best friend. Odds are she could become one! Or more!
2007-04-17 12:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by Audrey V 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How sad. You have spent so much precious time in class wondering and staring and looking and not trusting your own instincts to forge ahead. Be brave and write her a note - let her know you have observed her throughout the school year and you think she is happening - and you'd like to ask her to a movie. Give her a big smile and then go and make conversation with her. Time out for being shy - you could have a great summer dating her if you'll just be brave and make that move! Come on - what have you got to loose??? smile
2007-04-17 12:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're sweet and that is what we need in the world today. We need more of you guys. Back to business: I think you should win her over. It seems like she likes you, but is kinda weary of you looking at her and not speaking to her. Maybe she's not frightened of you, maybe you are just reading her wrong. Don't give her the letter yet, it's too deep. Don't mention that you've been staring at her, not because of her brest, because she will know that you were looking at her breast as well as her face. Erase that part. Talk to her. When you look at her, just wave. Don't frown, that'll look like the sight of her hurts you, just give her one of that one million dollar half smiles that I know you guys have locked under there to get us girls to you. When you see her, just tell her hi, ask her if she's okay and then as it gradually goes on, you find things to talk about. Spice thing up a bit by just giving her a sweet and tell her that when you looked at it, it had her name written on it. I'm not saying to shower her with gifts, just a sweet or chocolate. Charm her discretely, but do it before school is up so that you can contact her over the holiday. You're a nice guy so far, keep continue being yourself exept for the not smiling part and you'll get her. Good luck.
2007-04-17 13:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Girl-In-Blue 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This girl probably thinks you're a little strange, or that you don't like her. (You should have smiled instead of frowned.) She has no way on knowing how you feel, and would probably be a little relieved to know that you like her, instead of hate her or diapprove of her.
However, you need to realize that it is NOT her responsibility to talk to you, or to force you to talk to her, or to return your feelings. YOU are the one with feelings, therefore the responsibility for action is on YOU. Whether or not she feels the same is irrelevant right now - the point is that you are in control of how you communicate with others, and you need to take appropriate action if you want to change things.
So edit the letter, and apologize for staring at her, and give it to her.
2007-04-17 12:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what you should do is ask her out! she might like you as much as you like her and she probably cant wait till u finally mak a move!!!.. if she will say no, then you will forget about her and go chasing other girls, but she most likely is gonna say yes... and u will feel much much better after that! u have to make a move.. otherwise she will slip away and you will never know what would happen if u were just a little bit more confident!
2007-04-17 12:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by Stacy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just approach her is all that you can do. She might think you are weird if you are always starring at her and it might make her uncomfortable. Try and strike up a conversation with her or even ask her a question about an assignment you had in class. make her feel comfortable around you and send little signs that you are interested in her. good luck!
2007-04-17 12:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by stretchskeleton10 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she might think youre a little creepy for staring at her, but i bet if you give her the letter, she will think it's sweet and dont be so afraid! girls always want the guy to make the first move, and she probly already knows you like her. =) good luck!
2007-04-17 12:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by Courtney 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What's going on in your mind?
"Why does that freak keep staring at me?"
Sorry. I just call them as I see them.
2007-04-17 12:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by Vegan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats a trick question . Nobody knows how a womans mind works !
2007-04-17 12:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by cry baby gator 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her know you like her or she is going to assume your staring at her chest and then she won't pay any attention to you......just tell her what you have told us.....good luck
2007-04-17 12:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by Sam Fisher 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋