Me and my girlfriend often get into these long discussions about our relationship. When no clear solution is found she often goes to others to she what advice they can give. The only thing with that is she only tell her side of the story and being that these are closed friends of her they always give advice that only suits her, and her friends end up have ill feels towards me. What should I do?
2007-04-17 12:26:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I don't know if you two are looking to be married, but when I counsel people in relationships. I have them come together and not by themselves so I can hear both sides of the argument. Take your situation to a pastor or minister who is nuetral and can help you with your situation from a bible stand point. I can't remember where the scripture is, but it is in Proverbs. But is says, "Everyman's story seems right, until the other man tells his side of the story".
2007-04-17 12:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by super saiyan 3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is betraying you,this hurts,its happened to me.This is not something that a healthy relationship does.Tell her she is gossiping about you,as that is exactly what it is.If she continues you decide if this is the kind of person you want to be with.She seems to need more people in your relationship because she has no problem solving skills toward resolving your difficulties together.Nip it before you say i do,good luck.
2007-04-17 12:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People only do that because they KNOW their friends will agree with them. People like to be right, especially in a relationship. Makes them think they are the more dominant/smart one. I'd just ignore it. Also note, you'll never win a fight with a girl. So get use to it.
2007-04-17 12:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by shadowsonic2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Private conversations about private issues between you two should remain confidential.
I call this the "No Third Party" rule.
This should be the rule you both agree to that governs your behavior when separated.
Otherwise it breeds mistrust. If there is no trust, there is no relationship - which is inevitable.
If you can't trust her, keep your secrets to yourself and don't reveal anything you want her "Third Party" friends to know.
Re-evaluate this relationship, and determine if you should walk away.
2007-04-17 12:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by Q 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough man..I hate it when that happens, though I probably do it too without realizing it. Talk to your girlfriend and tell her you feel invaded and teamed up against, and that it's not fair for her to go to her friends, come back and say "Hah, they all say I'm right, I told you so." If you need to sit down with her friends as well and try to have as mature a conversation as you can about it, without getting too heated... I dunno..good luck.
2007-04-17 12:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that when she asks her for her friend's advice, you should be with her and give them your side of the story, too.
2007-04-17 12:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no through fact her view will by risk go away out a chunk of lacking concepts. try looking one purpose guy or woman you the two comprehend and ask them . once you the two have spoken to this guy or woman,then you definately the two come jointly to work out what suggestion they might desire to provide you 2.
2016-10-03 03:42:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u could always tell her that if she dont keep ur relationship private ur going to break it off and u dont want the whole world involved ...
2007-04-17 12:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, im not going to a debate. lol , i love you,but what GODLY question or advice did she get,.
2007-04-17 12:39:47 · answer #9 · answered by vintagemale1951 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋