She was 62, married her husband young, had one son, left work at 45-ish. Then ended up in a home 15 years later with alzheimers. What on earth do we say about her apart from the obvious about being a devoted mother and wife????? Help, we're stuck.
2007-04-17 12:24:07 · 11 answers · asked by Kylie 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
think of something funny or memorable. something she said or loved.
2007-04-17 12:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could expand on the devoted mother and wife part, by recalling some lighter events, occurences , things maybe not everyone at the funeral knew she did to show how good a mother and wife she was. Sometimes it helps the immediate family if you tell of some amusing things she said, or the kind of story like, 'Do you remember the time----"
In other words, things that show the ones there that day just how special this family friend was to you and others that knew her. I wouldn't even mention what took her away, just focus on the things before that, so people will remember her that way. I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope this helps. God Bless.
2007-04-17 12:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by The Count 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless you in this task. I encourage you to think more about qualities than about events in her life. Describe the fun you had together, or the bright laugh she had. Describe her as a dedicated worker, devoted wife who loved her family. Find any stories you can. People love to hear and the grieving family love to remember the stories. She helped out ____, she loved to read to her grandkids....Peaceful, or stubborn, picky about house cleaning, or whatever. Look beyond the details of what she did, to the qualities and attitudes she displayed.
It doesn't have to be long, but make what you say really reflect a love for her. Alzheimers robs its victims and their families. Give them back a bit of the love they once knew.
2007-04-17 12:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by CHos3n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what she would have been proud of during her life, and about why you're proud of her ... of the life lessons she taught you, of the qualities she had that you hope she's passed on to you. In other words, she was other things besides being a devoted mother and wife (and Alzheimer's patient) ... can you think of some of those?
I hope it goes well for you.
2007-04-17 12:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by mrsgavanrossem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I recited at my grandmother's funeral. I did not write this (I don't think anyone knows who did) but it's a beautiful piece. I remember it being dedicated to the crew members of the space shuttle Challenger. It goes like this:
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on the snow
I am the sun on ripened grain
I am the gentle autumn rain
When you awake in the morning's hush
I am the sweet. uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight
I am soft stars shining at night
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there, I did not die.
****I DID find the name of the author...Mary Elizabeth Frye and the poem is entitled "I Am".****
2007-04-18 05:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by emt_me911 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on adding in memories -- surely she did volunteer work, raised kids, went to church? or maybe she had a favorite hobby, loved to sew? Did everyone joke about her cooking or the time she went sailing and fell overboard (you know a funny story?). People can remember the good time, the family get togethers, not the sad times. My Great Aunt is in similar, and yet, this woman always wore purple even her hair! We loved her, and her cooking and the love she made us all feel everytime she hugged us.
Sorry for your loss.
2007-04-17 12:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Funerals are always best when looked at optomistically. Depending on any religious beliefs, I think it's always nice to reassure everyone that she is now in a better place, and that you all will be able to be with her again. I know it's nothing original, but it's that knowledge, that always gets me through losing someone.
2007-04-17 12:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by Orbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You share a memory you have of her that is precious to you and possibly to the family. You speak in consoling words to the family and mention their dedication to her after she became helpless. The funeral is for the living, not the dead. Think of what might comfort them to remember about her that you witnessed yourself and go with that.
2007-04-17 12:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk about the things she used to do when you first knew her, talk about the nice things she did for people, her hobbies, the funny jokes she told, anything like that that brings back memories to others.
2007-04-17 12:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Funny. If I ever go to the hospital for a stay like Fred's please get a different pastor to come visit me.
2016-05-17 21:09:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋