so, I have been friends with this guy forever! More then 10 years. The past 4 or 5 years I have like him off and on. At the beginning of this year he also liked me, but then this other girl came a long. Lets just say she is not to my taste. On the bus she would walk up and just sit on his lap and practically pull of her shirt. She would flirt with him all the time and really annoyingly making him give her his jacket and all this stuff. Ever sense then he hasnt been hanging out with me as much or talking to me as much. I know he isnt mad. Its just like I replaced her. Today I heard that he and the girl are now going out. It really hurt. And now she and her friends dont like for me or other friends of his who are girls even talk to him. It hurts really bad, especially because I have liked him even through a rat tail haircut (eww) and that was when she didnt even know him. She met him this year!!! Please help!
2007-04-17 12:18:19 · 13 answers · asked by Chat Noir 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait until it's over between them (that's all you can do), and then go make your move.
2007-04-17 12:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by Big Super 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing, and it does hurt, u've cared and known him for 10 or 4-5 years, and she only just met him this year. in my case same thing but she claims she loves him, after she breaks up with him every other day, then dates him again, its not right. U have to get him alone, and ex-plane how Ur feeling, tell him u feel pushed aside and u really dint think he should push anybody away because of i simple girl he just met this year.
2007-04-17 12:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by Brooke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try talking to him, sympathetically, about his unhealthy relationship. If he doesn't care, that's his choice. If he does, help him realize there are better girls out there who aren't as cheap and possessive.
Don't tell him about your feelings, thats not fair to him. UNLESS you think he really is unhappy in the relationship and really is interested in you, it is totally inapprorpiate to tell your feelings. If he doesn't reciprocate, your friendhip is basically over and his girlfriend will have even more claim over him. Plus, you don't know how serious you're feelings are for him.
If you're only worried as a friend, then just keeping pointing out her faults and tell him you want him to be happy and not stuck in a crappy relationship. Just be careful about respecting his feelings, whatever they are.
Good luck, hope I helped!
2007-04-17 12:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by butteryflyorion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am no guy but you know what...you should just tell him. Pull him aside and tell him. It might not be the most respectful thing to do because he has a girlfriend but she wont even let you tal kto your friend. You should tell her before she doesnt let you talk to your friend anymore...if your guy friend likes her more he will tell you something but at least you wont have to wonder....she sounds controlling and she doesnt seem to respect herself much...I am telling you from experience with how my ex was...controlling people dont end up together...Hemight find alot better in you....
BTW...if you dont mind. Can you answer my last question please. Thanks a bunch :D.
2007-04-17 12:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by Tina x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to move on, not because of the girl or her friends, but because of him. Maybe he likes this attention he gets from this new girl. If he wants a girl like her, is he really the one for you?
2007-04-17 12:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help you with what?
You waited too long to make a "real" move on him and some other girl swooped him up. You snooze you loose.
Live and learn.
2007-04-17 12:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 03:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by matzen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id just try to make some new friends if I were you
2007-04-17 12:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask to talk to him and tell him the truth. that the best advice i can give i'm sorry if it's of little ti no help.
2007-04-17 12:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by siddragoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but it looks like you had you're chance and lost it. You can't break them up, but you can wait until they break up, and then jump on the chance...
2007-04-17 12:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by ihaveaquestiontoask 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋