I have a toddler and I am trying to find he clinical name or some information on this type of behavior. I know it's normal but just trying to find a good way to deal with it. I think it has something to do with them feeling safe and comfortable at home and being able to "let go".
2007-04-17 12:02:00 · 9 answers · asked by Magnus01 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
"cuz you have no authority over your child doofus" Great answer. You should have went to an Ivy league school.
2007-04-17 12:30:34 · update #1
you are so right. most children do this. all that I know but I wont say all. they are comfortable at home, they can let go. its also a trust thing. they will try more with you b/c they know and trust that if they do something wrong or dangerous that you will stop them.
if they are good at school then you are doing a good job, even if they are wild at home!
2007-04-17 13:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Emily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if there is a name for this behavior but I've seen it often and it doesn't stop at toddlers. Count your blessings that they behave with others. That is a very good thing. As far as behavior at home is concerned you have to set up guidelines and hold to them no matter what. Run your house similar to a school setting. Children's need and desire boundaries and parenting is a game of testing and trying out what works and what doesn't work. Good Luck
2007-04-18 00:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally true... children act one way at home and another at school. I see it daily. I have worked in preschools for 14 years, and I hear it all the time from the parents... How come he doesn't act like this at home?! There isn't a clinical name for it- it's just typical behavior. I know it can be frustrating when the teacher is able to get certain results out of your child when you aren't able to at home. You can ask the teacher what techniques she uses in the classroom to gain compliance with the children. Perhaps there is a certain song that signals time to clean up, or there are certain phrases she uses to get the children to stop hitting, etc. You can ask her if there are phrases she commonly uses in the class so that you can continue to use them at home. There is no magic wand of behavior, however, and your child will most likely continue to act differently at home and at school. But, by sustaining the continuity between home and school using techniques and phrases that the teacher uses, you will create an environment of expectation. If your child knows the expectations are the same of his behavior in both places, this can really help behavior issues at home. Of course children will always show their true colors to the ones closest to them... you are the one he trusts the most in the world, and so you are the safest person to be around when they lose all control. It's different at school, where they not only have the different environment, different adult responses and children around them. You can also ask the teacher if you can observe in her classroom during the day, so you can see how she interacts with the kids, how she gets compliance from them. Good preschool teachers have to be patient, calm, and good at eliciting small children's listening skills. They have to be... there's 12 of them and one teacher! : ) Just know that the reason he does let loose when he is with you, is because he feels safe with you. I know that's not much consolation when he is on the ground kicking and screaming, but you really are the most important person in his life.
2007-04-17 19:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all know where we have to be good and where we can get away with things. Toddlers know it too, by now they know the person who will tolerate their behavior and who wont. My niece knows that when she does something wrong she just has to go to my mom to not get in trouble and then continous to do this over and over ( like trows her water on the floor and gets more and does it again) i think we all do this not just toddlers.
2007-04-17 19:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by FishyFace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know anything about a "clinical name" but it is really common behavior. Mine gets great reports from her teacher, and at home she can be a terror (as ALL kids can). You known, I think it is called "being a kid." Much luck!
2007-04-17 19:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by gogirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they learn about following direction at school, then they try to demonstrate it at home by doing the "directing."
2007-04-17 20:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally! Your baby knows he/she can get away with more at home! They have to listen at school, and know they can't get away with as much.
2007-04-17 19:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most have more structure and discipline at school than at home.
2007-04-17 19:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by DOT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz you have no authority over your child doofus
You should have gone to parenting class idiot.
2007-04-17 19:25:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋