ahh what should i do????(christians plz)?

Question

i need help.ok so the thing is that had 2 boyfriends about a year ago.i REGRET it totally!i never told my parents when i had my boyfriends.i was only in 6th grd.i know i know i was terrible and sinned badly!i asked God for forgivness but i still havent told my parents that ive had 2 boyfriends b4.im way 2 scared!i dont want 2 lose thier trust!i mean im allowd 2 have boyfriends in all but they would be mad b/c i didnt tell them b4!i know they are going 2 find out some how!it scares me i really dont want them 2 b/c find out ,i dont want 2 lose their trust!!!ahhh!my guilt is eating me alive but i just cant find the inner strength 2 tell them.i feel like i ruined my whole life.i know it stupid its just a lil thing but it bothers me.should i tell them or just keep it a secret!?!?!?im so confused & i know God is mad @ me.

Answer 1

I've been in the boyfriend situation before, but first I wanna tell you that God isn't mad @ you, hun. The moment you ask for forgivness He totally forgets the sin. The Bible says that it's like the sins are under the ocean floor and that He removed them from us as far as the east is from the west and that He remembers them no more. That horrible feeling you have (and probably have been having for 2 years) is from the devil. It's normal to feel guilt until you pray and talk to God about it, but afterwards it's not right.
Okay, now onto the boyfriend thing. I had two boyfriends in 8th and 9th grade (I'm in college now) when I WASN'T allowed to have boyfriends. A couple years later, my parents found out, but didn't even seem to care. If you really feel compelled to tell your parents, tell them. If not, I don't think it's a sin not to tell them now. But just try to tell them next time you have a bf, 'kay?

Answer 2

Obviously the guilt is eating you up. Usually we cause ourselves more suffering through fear and guilt than the minor suffering we would have for a short time if we just confessed and asked for forgiveness. When we confess and ask for forgiveness, we may suffer for a short while, but then it is over, the devil has no more hold on us with it. If you remain silent, you suffer guilt, you suffer in fear that they will find out (and you are right, they probably will find out sooner or later), and you suffer a strained relationship with God. God is not mad at you. He loves you more than you can even comprehend.

You have been suffering over this for a year. Talk to your parents, admit your error, and ask forgiveness. Don't go on suffering for another year.

Lord Jesus, bring peace, bring freedom from guilt and fear, bring a new understanding of Your love and forgiveness. Use this for Your glory Lord, that lessons will be learned, and a better future be made possible through learning obedience and trust. Bless Lord, bless and give a big hug!

Answer 3

Okay, calm down first. As you probably have heard before, you need to put this in Gods hands. I learned this after way too much worry over things in my life. When there is something that I cannot handle, I pray about it, and ask God for guidance, and help. I then put the issue in Gods hands. It always works out. My advice to you is, and I am giving this as a mother of a girl your age, tell your parents. They love you. They will not hate you, or be disappointed in you, neither will God. Not telling them, will make your worry, and matters much worse. Telling them, will ease your mind, and no matter what, or how bad, you can always talk to your parents. Keep the communication open, between you, your parents and God. Pray about it first. And, as always, put God first, it all that you do.
Give your parents some credit, they will not hate you.
Be Blessed.

Answer 4

First, sister, stop, relax and breathe. Read this. Confess it to the Lord. Then read it again.

Romans 8:1
There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.

Now, go and tell your parents. The longer you wait, the worse they are going to feel at you going behind their back. Ask the Lord to soften their hearts toward you. It may take time to earn their trust again. But it is FAR better than they finding out some other way. By coming forward you are showing that you respect their authority, and God will honor it.

"i know God is mad at me"
Based on what scripture? You repent, God forgives, God forgets. THAT is the Lord! What God is doing is teaching you how to honor your parents and how to be honest and trustworthy. These are not easy lessons, but we ALL go through it. Jesus loves you. He loves you so much, He died for you. Why would He be mad?

Answer 5

It sounds like you just want to avoid the consequences of your actions. You want everyone to "understand" and "forgive" you without having to take any responsibility yourself. Unfortuately, you seem to have two choices: either come clean and take your lumps, or slowly drive yourself crazy.

Now, it's possible you are overstating the case. If by "boyfriend" you mean they were boys and you hung out with them, you may be getting worked up over nothing. If you mean something more serious, there may be some legal issues for them, even if you're all underage.

And if your parents are unreasonably strict (by which I mean they will literally disown you if they learn you talked to a boy), you may want to talk to a school counsellor or a pastor first. But if they are normal, you need to understand that they will disapprove of your dangerous behavior, not you as a person. You may have to suffer the effects of their lack of trust and of your obligation to restore your integrity for a while. But that's what growing up is about, facing consequences.

If you simply can't face them, talk to a trustworthy adult, preferably some kind of professional counsellor, and get some perspective.

Answer 6

God is not mad at you. God loves you. You have asked for forgiveness which is what he asks you to do. If you asked, he he has already forgiven you. There is no need to tell anyone that you had boyfriends. In the future just be open with your parents and build a solid trust between you.

God bless you

Answer 7

There is nothing in the bible that says you have to confess things to your parents. If you have asked God to forgive and you believe that God has done that then there is no need to feel guilty and shameful. God does NOT hate you. Mistakes happen and this will not ruin your life. Remeber God is unlimited in Grace, love and mercy. Ask God to help you remove the false guilt from your heart. In Jesus you have no guilt

Answer 8

Good grief. First, you're too young to be feeling this much angst. God is not mad at you. You're young, and are just trying to figure things out. Relax. If you had two boyfriends, and don't like the way that feels, then don't do it again. And I sincerely hope you have the kind of parents who will reassure you that everything's okay.

Answer 9

You are much too young to be experimenting like this. Relationships are complex even for adults; for young persons things are even more complicated.

I recommend you stop entertaining the idea of having a boyfriend until you are at least sixteen years old. And get your parents involved, too.

Pray to God for guidance and the strength to resist your temptations.

Answer 10

Yuo said oyu 've asked God for forgiveness. That's good. I say ask God to lighten your parents hard and then ask them. Don't worry God isn't mad at you.