I've known him 4 10 months, & he's not ready to committ yet, but I am. I know he has a lot on his plate, but we do everything together. We go to movies, he spends the night at my place, I spend the night at his, we're together 4 or 5 days out of the week and often spend the whole weekend together. I've met his whole family. I keep saying it's a relationship but he just doesn't want to wear the labels.
Should I be satisfied with the companionship? I'm really not interested in seeing any other guys and I hate having to start over & try something new with someone else. I love him and don't want to seem impatient, but sometimes I feel like he's stalling. I know he has school, work & money issues, but we're basically a couple, this is some kind of relationship so why doesn't he want to call it that?
2007-04-17 11:47:09 · 5 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he is trying to get his affairs in order, before actually calling it what it is. I for one wanted to finish college, and be making a good living to support my family before I wanted a "relationship". Just talk with him, and make him tell you his plans about the future, and if they include you. I really don't think you have anything to worry about here. Just consider yourself his girlfriend wether he likes it or not. I would start to worry only when he starts to distance himself from you. If he starts making excuses about why the two of you can't do the things you are doing now anymore, or if he starts finding reasons to not see you on the weekends. But for now, I would not worry. Just communicate with him. It is the key to all great relationships. Good Luck!
2007-04-17 11:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU sill have to wait quite awhile before things are the way he wants them, and your wants mostly likely will not be considered. If you wait, there are no promises. It depends on how old you are. ...early 20s means you have more opportunities should you need them elsewhere.
You'll know in a year if he's more serious. Why not ask him now important things, such as whether he wants marriage and kids in the next few years? If he refuses to answer, move on immediately, and do not talk to him for at least a month, Then, if he wants to talk to you, say only in a couples counselor's office for couples counseling. If he balks, he was using you. If he's serious, he'll cooperate.
2007-04-17 19:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't jump to conclusions on something big like this, especially if he means a lot to you, but it does sound like he is a little controlling. if he wanted a relationship it seems like he would've committed. you say you do everything together, so its obviously not an issue of time. it could be that he was hurt before, or he still has feelings for someone else, but it could also be that he is using you. be careful and do not be dependent on him, but this doesn't mean you have to withdraw from the friendship. maybe tactfully tell him how you feel. he may not understand what a big deal it is to you.
2007-04-17 18:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by dieter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be rushing it a little bit, especially because you just admitted he wasn't ready to commit. All good things are worth waiting for. He might just be afraid of being hurt. I've found my relationships never workout with someone who I've been friends with.
2007-04-17 18:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by NJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know how marrage starts out, then goes bad.
I would be happy, that sex and companion ship are happening in your life. Forget about marrage, unless you want another one to go bust
2007-04-17 18:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by duster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋