Mothers Relationship!!?

Question

i'm 14 yrs old, since I can remember, my mother has always been verbally,physiccly abusice to me. Now though, I live with my dad, who is awesome. Recently my mom has taken the initiative to communicate with em through email. I still get those fee3lings of hate toward on a daily basis. Is this right, though she is trying to still keep contact with me? its been 5yrs since i've seen her......and i'm not looking forward to the day i do. What is ur opinions?

Answer 1

I have a very negative relationship with my mom as well---when i was your age my dad told me a very wise thing--and i hope it helps you as well----he said no matter what her actions are--no matter how bad she is shes still your mom--it's possible to love her even though i dont like her very much..
when i got a lot older, i gave my children and friends with all the love i never felt from her growing up.............just because you have to live with bad situations--you learn from them--release them and move on--dont ever let it hold you back--or down----

Answer 2

Let your father know how you feel about ur mom. sending him email (threatens to come into ur life). Honey,I am 50 yrs old and was abused by my dads wife for 6 yrs. After I turned 18 & left I had bad night dreams as I got older it lessened, once in a great while I still have a bad dream involving that *****.

Answer 3

You and your mom need a one on one conversation. You have to dig into the reason of her verbal and physical abuse. A mother must give love to her child and not abuse her. Ask her what is it that you've done to deserve such a treatment from her. Since you told your dad is awesome you may take it up with him so he can help you iron out your differences with you mom.

Answer 4

I agree this is an adult problem, at least you are with your dad i was stuck in that situation for 15 yrs and it has done a real number on me. It was a step parent that was like that with me though and mom was working two jobs, had to write a note to get mom to talk to me. You need to have ure dad talk to her.

Answer 5

It's perfectly normal to still feel hate towards your mother. If she's been abusing for quite some time, you have every right to feel how you feel. You just can't get the memories of these bad situations out of your head. It's going to take a lot of time to be able to talk to your mother, but you should talk to her eventually. You might not be able to forgive her, but she's still your mother. If you're not ready to see her, tell her that. You don't have to see her if you still feel animosity toward her. Like I said, it's going to take some time to be able to talk to your mother after what has happened to you. If you are ready, you should talk to her.

Answer 6

im still rally mad at muh mom but if yew juzt talk 2 er a ittle bit nd get use 2 it den try seein hur wen mine got divorced i didnt see muh mom 4 a long time juzt giver a chancew if it dont work 4 get it

Answer 7

thing happen i know and now my mom and i r best friend she still feel guilty i can feel it but i try not to let her feel bad try see waht happens maybe she will be ur best friend if it doesnt work try counseiling that helps 2 good luck i know its hard but try to forget the past start over

Answer 8

if you don't want any contact with her you don't have to i suggest you have a chat with your father and explain to him exactly how you feel then maybe he could explain to your mother try not to worry about seeing your mum just try your best to get on with your life and if you do see her just walk the other way
sorry i can't help more

Answer 9

Sounds like you need professional counseling.
I'm really sorry your mom was such a piece. Thank goodness you have your dad!

Answer 10

you have to consider that your mother was angry at you dad for divorcing her, and every time she say you it reminded her of your father so she took her frustrations out on you. It isn't fair but that is what a lot of mothers do.