mental illness?

Question

My husband has "anger/upset/depressive tendency's, his mom has mental illness and she gets to points to where she wants to kill herself could mental illness run in his family and could he have it to, if so what can I do to help him? Also what can I do to help calm situations when they arise, I usually just ignore him or try and reason with him any other ideas, he is a really good husband i just wanna know how i can help him

Answer 1

See a counselor and doctor they can help him and help you cope with it and teach you how to help him.

Yes mental illness is hereditary, but that doesn't mean he has inherited the illness.

Answer 2

There is always the possible of mental illness running in the family, there is genetic links in almost all illnesses, but anger management skills can really pay off. I teach the chronically mentally ill population anger management, and through the right methods, the skills can help with relationships, quell symptomatic outbursts, and aid in finding positive solutions that will decrease the depressive reaction formation.

The bottom line though is that if you suspect mental illness, you should seek counseling from a mental health professional. Please understand that if he is diagnosed, you will simply have a label, something to call it, or even blame, but you wont have a solution.

The best thing for you to do, without needing anything from him is to make sure you are being proactive, by not over analyzing and sticking to the facts. Never let your emotions get to you because if he is indeed unstable, you must keep cool and be a solid foundation.

Answer 3

First, let's not assume he has a mental illness, sounds like he does need counseling -even perhaps group therapy, visit your local hosp. for any info. [they led me to a free goup for diabetics, met some nice people]. Some doctors like to pump people full of pills. I believe doctors use people as guinea pigs. I have known people who's meds. made them worse. You also have to help yourself in this matter. See a good pastor, pray, read the bible, [Psalms] you will learn God's patience and how to love. Let him seeing you reading the bible, sit in a quiet place, when he rages--do not answer in a negative way-it sounds like you don't.
Always reply kindly and learn to trust on the Lord for your strength. Psalm, 22:19, 'But You O Lord, do not be far from me; O my strength, hasten to help me!'
You know; a dog or any pet works wonders, and be sure you both get plenty of fresh air and sunshine. See if a professional message helps him to relax. Does music help him to relax or gardening? I lived in Europe for awhile, I admire the way they use different methods instead of just handing out meds. By the way does he have a hobby? besides watching t.v. how about working with clay or photography? I din't know I had sleep apnea until I was tested. I was grouchy during the day, then I got a cpap machine, now I sleep soundly and it's much healthier, also sleeping in his own bed might do wonders.

Answer 4

Yes, mental illness can and does run in families. Has his mom ever been diagnosed with major depressive disorder or bipolar disorder and placed on medication?

Have your husband get a psychological evaluation completed - medication could solve the mood swings - it isn't his fault if chemical imbalances run in the family. Must men that get angry easily are depressed. Please check into it.

Answer 5

Sometimes some forms of need are beyond our capability to help so then professional help is needed. Your husband is beyond your capability (nothing wrong with that, it just happens) and you need to seek professional medical help for him. Drs are trained for this and have the assistance of some rugs to get him to the point where he can handle his own problem. Youre too close to him to really offer the help he needs to overcome his challenge. Get him to your family doctor and let him tell you how to proceed here. This help will bring back your husband to you for a long time. Good luck

Answer 6

This illness may or may not be hereditary in this case. If i were you I would take my husband to a doctor and tell them about his history with his mom and family. Do you know what his moms illness is like what the name of her disorder is? He needs to get tested for this and have a mental health evaluation done on a regular basis with him. I also do not suggest you have children until you find out more about this if it is hereditary or not as it can pass down to kids. There may be help and medication for this mental illness as well. His mother needs medical help and attention for this as well or she will only get worse. You also need to check into his family history as well and see what you can find out about all of this to see if it can be genetic or not. He has a wonderful wife in you for wanting to help him and love him through all of this. He needs you now more then ever. Good luck to the both of you and I hope you can get help for and with all of this. I also recommend you go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help and advice in this matter as well.

Answer 7

You are kind of good to even put up this issue.Lady the best your husband need from you now is your love and care,prove now to the world how your love your husband beside he has not been a bad husband to you.If you really love this yopur husband and you took the marital vows for love then be his strenght now that he is weak.may God almighty be your provider amen.

Answer 8

Unless you're a licensed therapy, psychiatrist or psychologist, I really don't think you need to start "treating" people who have anger/upset/depressive tendencies. He needs professional help and possibly medication. You need to speak to his therapist, too.

Answer 9

hmm sounds to me like he might be bipolar ..he needs to see a doc and get some meds..before he does do something stupid