If your girl is starting to waiver in your relationship what is the right thing for me to do? Girls say talk to her and see where you stand and guys say just ignore her and play hard to get. Which is right? To me it seems like talking about things to death can kill it while being illusive can increase attraction but NO-one seems to agree....thoughts?
2007-04-17 10:20:46 · 13 answers · asked by fedup 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
:You need to do both, talk to her and come straight out with your concerns. You can say to her, "honey I am having concerns regarding how distant we have been lately, do I have good reason to be concerned"?....next step will depend on her answer. If she tells you she indeed is feeling as if she is losing interest in you then what you do is grant her wish and set her free. And then ignore her. By doing this she will be left to think over seriously about whether she really does want to lose you.
2007-04-17 10:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between talking to death and talking.
Seriously, if you're asking about relationship advice about a woman, go with what the women say is the right move.
If a guy plays hard to get, it just means he's not interested and it's time for me to move on. I would rather the guy was honest and upfront about how he's feeling and I will return the favour.
2007-04-17 17:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. Not how she makes you feel, not how you think something is wrong. Just that you have a feeling that you don't like and you want to know if she has any insight as to why.
If she blows you off then she's given you a pretty good indication of what she thinks about your feelings... if she doesn't then you're going to make some progress, regardless.
Now, if you go about it the wrong way and you do say things like "you make me feel" or complain about there being real problems you could set her on the defensive and then you *would* get a rather negative reaction to your accusations.
Point is, don't make them accusations, your asking her for help to resolve how you feel...for all you know it could be your insecurities that have been bothering her.
2007-04-17 17:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by arjo_reich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ignore her u seem like and asshole who doesnt care about her feelings. Just ask her whats up and let her talk, dont interupt, dont tell her she is wrong. If she starts to cry just hold her let her bluber and tell her you love ehr (if you do) and that everything will be okay (that alone usually makes me feel better) then if you have anything to add do so but still do not tell her she is wrong. And remember girls almost always think or fear the worst its just in our genes i guess so try to see it from her view. if you got a good girl she will do the same. oh by the way is your friend who said ignore her single? if he isnt he will be soon.
2007-04-17 17:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're in a relationship, communication and talking is important. If there is a problem in a relationship, communicating in an understanding way is very important. For guys ignoring her works if he is trying to get with her, but this ignoring game has to be played with skill; skill I don't have.
2007-04-17 17:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, trust me. I'm a chick. Always was; always will be. If you are questioning your relationship/significant other and you really don't think that the whole thing is worth all the angst and drama, THEN JUST F*CKING BAIL. Don't mess around with needless conversation or playing headgames. Get over it, move on, and go find someone else.
2007-04-17 17:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are telling you what they would want you to do if they were in this girls position. Guys are telling you what to do to get the results you want. It will be like this for the rest of your life. Never ever, ever take advice from a woman. Ask your dad, he'll tell you the truth, just not infront of your mom.
2007-04-17 17:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to talk to her, if you ignore her then that's only going to anger her more and push her away. girls hate being ignored, that's a fact right there. if you honestly care about her then sit her down and talk to her and tell her how you feel and find out how she feels, there's no need to talk her to death. buy her some flowers or small gift to show your appreciation before talking to her.
2007-04-17 17:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Gorgeous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it is, yes, communication is a must. But if that doesn't work and you're still analyzing the relationship "what's wrong him/her, does he/she still want to be with me" etc...then it may be time to move on. You can always tell someone something and not really mean it hence, creating mixed messages, and who wants that?
2007-04-17 17:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore her. The guys are right. The women just want to see you humiliated and toyed with.
2007-04-17 17:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋