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Question

Me and my mother are having major issues.. She doesnt try at all to come see her grandbaby, she always has excuses (im tired, i work, i dont feel like it) My daughter is 6 months old and my mom has been here 2 times to see her since she was born. She always tells me why dont you come out here. But i work 5-1 come home, and spouse goes to work and i have brooky all night. its hard on me to run run run.. she tells me im the one at fault, the one being immature. how is this???? She just seems not to care about anyone but herself? what can i do??

i take brooky out there at least 2 times a week bc i want her to know her family.
and i work 5am-1pm not 5pm-1am lol
sry should have been more specific

Answer 1

you can't force mom if she isn't interested in making the effort. if you want a relationship betw baby and grandma, it will be up to you. that doesn't mean however that she has a right to make you feel guilty when you actually HOLD UP your end of the bargain. tell her to can it or you're going home.

here's what i would do. i would continue to go out there as often as it works for me...once or twice a week or whatever. i wouldn't take any crap from granny though. end that now. she's got some nerve.

i think it's very commendable what you're trying to do but from what i can see, grandma is no prize. if they only get together once a month, instead of more often, i don't see the harm.

decide what works for you and baby, bec granny isn't going to win a granny-of-the-year award. good luck

Answer 2

It's not a happy time when Mom isn't around for the new baby. It's hard enough being a Mom but not having your mom around to see the baby laugh and play is very difficult.

You stated that your Mom had been out twice to see the baby. How many times have you gone out to see your Mom with the baby?

The two of you both have hectic schedules that's preventing you from seeing each other but what about, cooking your husband a good dinner before you go to work, and after getting off from work, you go immediately to your mom's house so she can watch the baby while you sleep?

If the you and your mom haven't had any major issues before the baby was born, there shouldn't be a problem with the system

Answer 3

We can't change how other people think or act. We can only change how we react. Your mother is doing whatever it is she thinks is best. You don't have to agree. In fact, she's obviously not asking for your approval. It looks as though you have decided how she is supposed to react to her granddaughter. Why is your way better than her way? Why should she react the way you want her to react? She is your mother so she certainly would have some feelings for her granddaughter. Let her express those feelings her way, not your way.

Answer 4

is there any way your mother feels like she isn't needed or neglected now that you have this new child in your life. it is definately her responsibility to make an effort to see you and her granddaughter. this child is your top priority in life and your mom needs ot realize this.

maybe you can lean on your mom to babysit a bit more. then she can feel more involved/needed while also building a relationship with your daughter. maybe once they bond she'll be more motivated to come out to visit.

Answer 5

i wouldnt want to get my 6 month old out late but since you get off at 1 go see her when shes off
not what you wanted to here sorry i have to carry my baby to see my grandparents because there in wheelchairs

Answer 6

you can't change her, plan once in while to bring the baby to see her, you are much younger and have more energy, just do it twice a month, otherwise forget about her.