My boyfriend is 9 years older than me.we have been together almost a year, talking about marriage and having?

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kids everything was fine and seems fine except he is acting different. I have asked him whats wrong he says nothing. ( he usually talks to me when something is bothering him). He seems to be very distant off in lala land. Plus he is moody lately. Finally after a few weeks of this he told me he was stressed about money. My job only pays for my car so he has to pay for everything else. Before he told me he wanted me to focus on school and if my job payed my payment it would be enough. Well i guess now its not ok, we had a huge fight (which we have never raised our voices and we have had plenty of disagreements) and he thinks i should get a second job. I dont think thats fair to me. he also tells me he is affraid i will change my mind about what i want when i get older (Im 20) and that i will want to be single and party. Ive already done that got tired of it then found him. How do i reassure him im not going to leave? And could these be reasons hes acting weird i would like a guys voice

Answer 1

I am a guy.
It sounds like money is an issue, in a way he feels like he is being used. What you should do is spoil him one week (or however long you can afford financialy and physically) just to remind him you are always there to support him. I went throught he same thing, it does get hard when you are the sole bread-winner.
Tips - massage every day before bed, a super nice weekend getaway to a nice resturaunt or somewhere you guys have dreamed of going to, buy good food and cook a nice dinner every day.

These are just a few tips I can give you, relationships are never easy but you have to put forth your all to make it work. If he feels like hes not being "used" everything will work out. Good luck and I hope I have helped.

Edit: Oh yeah also make sure you are keep track of how his days are going, when he gets home, help him get relaxed and give him 30min to himself to whind down, then ask him how his day went.

Answer 2

I'm just going to tell you the truth. Don't you dare have kids without a college degree. If all your job pays for is your car, you have no business having kids. If your boyfriend walks out on you, you need to be able to take care of yourself if you have kids. Don't ever rely on a boyfriend to take care of you because, he could walk out on you any time he wants. Wait until you have finished college and have started a career before you have kids. If your boyfriend makes good money already, then it is a different story, but still you need to be able to support yourself.

Answer 3

Well...he may be cheating on you.I have a friend and she is cheating on my friend.I have a boyfriend and i like him.I hope for the best...O and can you e-mail my if it go ok @ [e-mail]

BEST OF LUCK!!!I MEAN IT