I mean, they aren't being patronizing, they are just trying to be nice and proper, it isn't that men don't think that we can do it its that they don't want us to have to. Its out of respect, they aren't trying to demean women... everyone knows we can open our own doors.
I'm not being accusatory, it just doesn't make sense to me, so why doesn't some one enlighten me, because I think that those kind of gentlemanly things are cute and sweet, not degrading.
2007-04-17 10:06:01 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Because some women have been taught that they can be self-sufficient without a man, and that men doing this is not okay. I hate to use this word, but they are feminists in the whole regard of that word. They did not have the parent(s) that taught them that although they can be self- sufficient & reliant, that it is proper and considerate for men to open doors for woman.
I think that as a society, we are losing those gentle traditions of yesteryear, and that the parent(s) and society are the ones to blame for the deterioration of this. Unfortunately, there are ALOT of boys or guys that don't do this anymore, but I guess it is also because some women get offended. It may also be because we live in the computer age, and that manners and nicities aren't being taught, nor given a thought. Maybe this younger generation does not have the social skills that we once had, due to electronic gadgets.
2007-04-17 10:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Monica C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even men get pissy sometimes when a door is held for them or a chair pulled out. Society isn't what it used to be. We're not used to having others treat us chivalrously, and when it happens, we're taken aback. Most people these days aren't brought up correctly with manners or etiquette at all. When was the last time someone said "Bless you" when you sneezed in a public place. Or offered to take the door from you instead of using you like a doormat for the entire line of people.
Plus, everyone has different opinions. Some people just don't like others doing things for them. It's not really gender-specific.
2007-04-17 10:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by candykyss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing makes me feel more like a woman than to have a man open a door for me, hold my hand, help me up the stairs, anything respectful or thoughtful. Being a gentleman is not on the way out, I married a gentleman and I hope my girls can find one. This kind of behavior is in no way degrading to women.
2007-04-17 10:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by goodbye 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that some women get offended because they do feel it is condescending, an unfortunate consequence of the feminist movement.
Personally, I wouldn't be offended at all. I would find it quite charming.
When I go out with my male friend, he usually opens the outer door for me (when there are two doors in a restaurant) and I'll open the inner door for him. (We are just friends after all)
I think it is a shame that some of these courtesies are sometimes seen in a negative light. I think the loss of these niceties some how lessens us (if that is a word)
2007-04-17 10:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by meg3f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, I think it's more offending when you do act like a gentleman and open doors, give a you seat, etc., but yet they don't say THANK YOU. They just do it as if they were queens.
2016-05-17 10:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by rochelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have an answer to your question and it does confuse me as well when they seem offended. I do it out of respect and the fact that I was taught some manners when I was growing up.
I think holding a door open for anyone (male or female) is appropriate and a sign of respect.
2007-04-18 02:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, I don't find it degrading, and I don't believe for a moment any of my coworkers who open a door for me think I can't do it on my own. They're just being polite. Maybe the gesture is outmoded, but the intent of the doer is courtesy and I think it should be taken in that spirit.
2007-04-17 10:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by KC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I know that some woman feel offended if a man opens a door because they feel the man is treating them as inferior, when in reality, the man is being a gentleman and treating the woman with respect. I for one, appreciate it greatly when a man opens the door for me.
2007-04-17 10:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The women who get upset at things like that are very wrong AND rude. I have opened doors for other women, especially is they are much older or have their hands full. It is the same thing if men do it.
2007-04-17 11:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women just take things too far and are stupid. It's rare to find a man who is so polite these days, if a woman gets a man that sweet they should apprecitate the gesture and be courteous not rude.
2007-04-17 10:10:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋