I lost someone very dear to me in death. Now, my faith in god is at question.....How do I go about believing?

Answer 1

Let me tell you a short story. A poor girl who had nothing in life and had never been nice to, met a boy who thought she was the world. They were best friends and lovers and would spend countless hours just making eachother smile. He had taken her from a shy introvert into a very outgoing extrovert. They were so in love. He took her to her first prom. And had treated her like she was a queen. On her 21st birthday she called him to meet her and her friends a a kareoke bar and have a drink to celebrate. He said he was on the way and in the mist of the conversation she said hurry up slow poke if your not here soon I will stop loving you and she chuckled knowing in her mind she was Joking. So he took off towards the bar on his motorcycle and he was going fairly fast because he loved her and wanted to share her birthday. She stood outside most of the night wondering where he was. The night came and went and she was so mad at him she didn't even call. Two days passed and she was still mad as a hornet. She went to break at work and grabbed the paper to read. She sat down and opened up the paper right to his face in the obituary. He died that night trying to make it to her. A drunk driver pulled out infront of him and killed him 100 feet from the bar she was in. She was heartbroken and fell into depression because the light in her life had been extinguished far too soon. For years she hated God for taking the only thing she had ever loved and the only one who ever treated her like a princess. Everything had been taken away. Hopes for the future....Her best friend in all the world. After three years of mourning she looked to the sky and asked God why?? A ray of sunshine came through the clouds and a feeling of peace fell around her. Eventhough there were no words that were spoken that day she knew exactly why. We all have a purpose that God gave to us in this life we live. He expects us to love and cherish him and fulfill our purpose. The love of her life had fullfilled his purpose it was her. He had put light into her and filled her with love to show her that life and people where not all bad. And he showed her that life can go on even if you've been hurt or let down by others. I know how you feel because this girl was me. I lost him and he was my everything. But God has a purpose and we all have our time to go. He had fullfilled his purpose and his reward was heaven. Don't question your faith my dear because our faith is really all we have to ge through. God expects us to stumble weather it be a day or 3 years. It is so hard to loose someone so dear, but let me ask you this. Wouldn't you rather cling to God and know in the end you will be reunited? Or would you rather throw it all away and never see this person again and suffer for eternity. I am sure this person you lost wouldn't want you to loose faith. Be strong and cling to God he will lead you out of these trying times just pray and hold on tight. I will keep you in my prayers may God guide you out of despair. Hold on dear life is not easy but we are mean't to follow our path to God even when we stumble and fall.

Answer 2

Now is not a time to give up on your faith. It is what will bring comfort and healing to your soul. We all must die and how sad it would be if our death caused our loved ones to turn from God. That would kill me again. The best we can do when we lose a dear one is to trust God and try to live at peace and carry on. God Bless

Answer 3

First i am sorry you lost someone close that's hard, The Holy Bible says in about faith in Romans 10:17 So then faith [cometh] by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.
but believing is NOT enough you see James 2:19-20 says satan believes and trembles its not belief but BE-LIVING, as far as how to believe in God [not god] life sometimes dose not seam to be fair, to us but remember God is still in charge, we tend to travel in the direction in which we face, so QUIT looking away from The Second member of The Godhead [see Heb.13:8, John 8:58, John 1] quit looking at the sorrow until it makes you travel in a direction other than towards Jesus, i understand pain but if that person meant more to you then Jesus then the First command that says not to put ANYONE first ahead of Him was violated and God is a fair judge but if you are to see life [everyone dies in this world] then you must keep your attention towards the ONLY Exit you have, go to a near by Seventh Day Adventist Church, in Acts chapter 2 last verse Jesus added daily to the church as such as should be saved, so you get power from others find out more about the GOD you want to learn of free on line bible lessons www.amazingfacts.org talk to me also [e-mail] God bless

Answer 4

sorry if this doesn't sound sympathetic, but I'm trying.

Faith I guess. I suggest you cry it out if you have to, with the comfort of others course, and then ponder "why did that person die?".

your answer should eventually be "because it is appointed unto man once to live and once to die". People die, it is a fact of life. You may feel that your prayers were ignored, or that you've failed, or that God is cruel.... but none of that is true. God's Will is complex and not for us to try to comprehend. If His child was taken by Him, it would be in a humane and miraculous way. If a person is murdered, that is the fault of man, not God. God doesn't kill your free will, that would be manipulation: a sin.

so really, I think it just takes time. but don't give up. no one is guaranteed a perfect life

Answer 5

Terrie, first my condolences. Death is never easy. And God knows that we will have our moments in times of strife and trouble when we doubt Him or get angry at Him.
I had 2 still births, back to back. And I was SOOOOOOOO angry at God. I could not believe He would do this to me!!! I was a good girl, I did what I was taught, I had never harmed anyone, on and on........
Fortunately, while I was giving up on God, He was not giving up on me, and neither were my friends and family. I never quit believing in Him, but I was not on speaking terms. Yelling yes, speaking no! It was a long hard struggle, but I finally came back. I finally realized, through Him and everyone He had working on me, that even though it devasted me and my marriage almost fell apart, He had something else planned for me. When I finally came back, He was sitting there waiting for me, waiting for me to accept the love and the hug He had been giving me for the past 2 years.
Fast forward 15 years -
Do I still have moments of questioning? Yes
Do I still miss my 2 babies I never got to hold? Yes
Do I know that they are in Heaven with their Father? Yes
And, do I know that it was all for some great reason, beyond my comprehension? Yes
Some days I think I know why, others I still ask Him why.

So, again, my condolences. And a loving hug from me and from your heavenly Father. Just know that He'll still be there when you are ready. Keep talking to Him, whether it's yelling or crying or talking, just keep the lines open.

Answer 6

Been there. Now is the time to be stubborn in your faith--it's not about what we see or feel--God is still God. I made a conscious decision to keep the faith & to believe no matter what. Just keep doing what you know is right, honey. It's a day-by-day, sometimes minute-by-minute/step-by-step, sometimes half steps, sometimes baby steps kind of thing. Email me if you need a friend & don't forget God loves you, with Him you will get through this.

Answer 7

Just believe that the person who died is a better place if that is in Heaven with God or where ever place that would be. Don't lose your faith in God that isn't good just keep trusting and believing in God and He will bring you through this. God loves so much and He will never leave you.

Answer 8

I have been there and I have done this before. It is very hard to lose someone close to you and it does make you question God and why he took them from you, why you were close to someone to turn around lose them. You have to try to pull yourself closer to God to be able to understand the reasoning or to even get peace about the loss that you experienced. The bible says that we are to be happy and rejoice in death and mourn for the children brought into this world. We rejoice for bringing babies into a world of chaos and sin and we are sad when people leave this earth and leave us feeling lonely. We have to understand that there is a purpose for the people brought into our lives and there is a reason why they are taken. The person that was taken from you should be at rest and at peace and can no longer experience the pains and heartaches of this world. The person that was taken from you should be sitting in heaven with Jesus watching you and hoping that you are going to be ok and wishing that you would let God take control. I lost my best friend of 8 yrs to cancer. We were like sisters and I almost lost it when she finally left me. She was at peace with leaving and she tried to make me ok with it. I knew that from what she was going through that she was better off leaving but I didn't know how to let go or understand God's ways of what he was doing or why he was taking her. Don't let this question your faith, let this bring you closer to God so you can have peace and understanding for the reasoning of this happening.

Answer 9

We all have lost loved ones and will continue to lose loved ones until we ourselves die. You can't let this diminish your beliefs in God and Jesus. You need to pray... I am telling you in the hardest times when you pray, you can feel God encircle you with his arms and lift you up. I know from experience when I had a life changing event happen, I told God I am mad... I don't understand this... and everything in my heart I told him. For a week after I had the most spiritual high I have ever had. The Lord carried me until I could stand again on my 2 feet. Try it.. PROMISE IT WORKS!

Answer 10

You're mourning right now and only time heals your wounds. It would be good to get some Godly counselling either w/ your pastor or you can go to www.doersoftheword.org and the pastor there has a toll free # you can call. He can give you some good Godly advice & maybe help you with your grieving process.
Another site that has a 24hr service to help you & give Godly advice is http://www.jesus2u.org/

It is always good to talk to someone when times are really tough.

I pray the best!