I'm really scared to admit it to my mother because she is so in love with my dad. My dad is always really annoyed of my mom, for the stupidest things. Then I found a few emails (when he was using my laptop) from a couple of women...and they were unrepeatable. My sister claims that the emails are probably spam, but I am not so sure. I never really trusted my dad because he is always away over the weekend while my mom is at work, and he makes me promise not to tell her. What should I do?
2007-04-17 09:22:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Speaking as a father of two grown kids and one teenager, it is wrong for your dad to make you promise to keep things about his activity secret from your mom. I agree that the emails sound very suspicious. I have never received spam of that nature. The most innocent scenario I can imagine is that he was involved online in some sexually explicit chat room and I share your suspicion that it may be something more. I think it is time you had a serious talk with your Dad and tell him you do not keep any secrets from your Mom. I also think your Mom needs to know the things you have talked about here. If there are innocent explanations for all of it your Dad should be able to provide them and no trouble will result. I am sorry you have to be in the middle of this. It must be very painful.
2007-04-17 09:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask your dad to stop expecting you to keep secrets about him from your mom. I'm specifically talking about the things you know to be true that he wants you to hide (i.e. being away over the weekend). It's not fair to you for him to expect you to be deceitful to your mom in order to hide any "indiscretions" he may or may not be into.
Beyond that, it's probably best you stay out of it. Things aren't always as they appear and it's not likely that you would be doing any good for the situation by making your mom aware of your "suspicions."
Factual information may be a different story, but even then, interfering can have tragic results. Especially if she knows but is only in denial.
2007-04-17 16:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but I'd recommend that you stay out of your parents' marriage. You may be totally misinterpreting things, and you could cause a lot of trouble. Let the grown-ups handle their own lives. If this continues to trouble you, you should try talking to a trusted teacher, or school counsellor, or your pastor if you have one. One of those adults can help you sort out your feelings of distrust, and steer you in the right direction.
2007-04-17 16:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your father and tell him you won't lie for him anymore on the weekends and that you suspect he is cheating on your mom. The ball will then be in his court - he can either clean his act up or deal with the fall out from your mom when she finds out - and she will.
2007-04-17 17:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be storng and tell ur dad to get his acts together. and be even stronger and tell ur mom that u think ur dad is doing things he's not supposed.if ur dad is cheating on ur mom and ur not letting her know,then its like ur helping ur dad get his way.let ur mom know,then she herself will make her own choice from there.it will break her hard even more if she later finds out that u knew all these all along and never get her attention to it.be the bigger person and do whats right.
2007-04-17 17:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by leen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find the girl u think is going out with your dad
2007-04-17 16:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by Cami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋