I was a little tipsy and got upset after he told me he has a job offer furthur away and that he would'nt be able to see me as much,i said he was crap in bed,and he got really hurt by it and said in the car if thats how i feel then it's over,i made out after it was a joke but dont know whether he believed me as he does have sexual problems sometimes. i did apologise but i now cant stop thinking about what i said and how idiotic i must have sounded,how can i get over this?
2007-04-17 08:21:25 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Apologize to him. Tell him that you just said it because you were hurt and you wanted him to hurt. Let him know that you didn't mean it. Good luck.. He's a man and that's one way of brusing their ego.
2007-04-17 08:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. One of the worst things you can do to a guy is insult his performance in bed.
First, stop thinking about how stupid YOU sounded. Start thinking about how terrible he must feel. Then tell him the truth, that you were just being a b*tch and that you're sorry. That's not a very funny joke, so stop trying to make it out to be one. No one with half a brain would make a joke like that to someone they care about especially during an argument. Come on, now.
I dunno, though. He may feel insecure for a really long time, especially since he actually has some sexual problems. And if so, he may be less intimate with you and pretty distant. You really insulted him.
How was that seriously the logical thing to say when he's talking about moving a bit further, anyway? "I have a job offer three hours away." "Yeah, well you are crap in bed."
2007-04-17 08:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk when you've both cooled off a bit.
Tell him the situation (tipsy, upset about the job offer).
Apologize once more.
Forgive yourself. It's done.
After that, see what happens with the relationship, but forget about that incident!
2007-04-17 08:26:20 · answer #3 · answered by Peace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that cut him deep. My rule, don't drink and talk. Well actually it's don't drink and post. But I think the damage is done. Admit to him you were being mean and you wanted to hurt him because you felt hurt that his job seemed more important than you. And don't get tipsy if you get verbally agressive. Limit your alcohol intake. You'll definately make an *** out of yourself again if you don't. Trust me: been down that road.
2007-04-17 08:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by Lucy Burb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he shouldn't have told you something like that while you were tipsy, you can't always control yourself. Also never try to make something as serious as that in to a joke. Never. You just have to accept that it's over now and try to move on to the next guy. People make mistakes and they have to learn from them and move on. Next time you're with guy try to hold your liquor.
2007-04-17 08:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by guardgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good one Hon, just hit a guy between the eyes or where he "lives" that's always endearing to a loving relationship.
"Tipsy" ???? "Upset" ???? How about just plain dumb and immature, will that work for you?!
Making out like it was a "joke" was the icing on the cake - another asinine cover up.
Frankly, were I him, I'd dump you...anyone who kneejerks like that in a so-called loving relationship isn't good enough for the guy she's seeing, yet alone, mature to EVEN HAVE A WORTHY RELATIONSHIP.
Grace
2007-04-17 08:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you realy think that of him you shouldnt be with him. But if you just said to try to hurt his feelings because yours were hurt just tell him you didnt mean it and you said the most hurtful thing you could to bring him down. because you were upset and because you dont want him to go away. But that you thought about it later and that your sorry for saying that that you dont think that of him tell him that if that was to be true you wouldnt be with him he should believe you after you say that to him. good luck
2007-04-17 08:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by strwberydrop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By sitting him down and telling him to look in your eyes and tell him you were so upset by the fact that he will be even farther away from you, it made you say things that are not in your character and not true. we all say things when we are faced with situations that are negative and all we can do is say our apologies and try to learn from them. If he refuses to accept it, he is looking for a way out and you provided it.
2007-04-17 08:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by Frankee06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound kind of selfish. You were hurt so you lashed out and then your question is about how you can get over this. Perhaps you should concentrate on how you can help the person you hurt get over what you said.
2007-04-17 08:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, the damage has already been done and you can't take it back. Go to him and apologize, let him know that you know you were wrong to say it and it won't happen again. Then, quit drinking - that way you won't get in this kind of trouble again.
2007-04-17 08:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋