My husband and I have different beliefs, and I'm really confused..?

Question

Okay, we're both Baptist, but I was raised to believe things differently than he was. His father and two of his uncles are preachers, so it's kind of hard to argue with their logic, BUT, I still believe the things I do, and it's difficult to sit through church and disagree with some of the things his uncle preaches..

They don't believe in the rapture, I do.
They believe we're living in the tribulation now, I believe that will happen after the rapture.
They believe that if you die after being saved, that you will go to Heaven, even if you've sinned. (Say you die while drunk driving.. I don't think you can get into heaven unless you were somehow able to repent before you died)
I get a lot of crap from my husband because I cuss sometimes. He says it's a sin, I believe it's a man-made sin, and not a hell-worthy trespass. Like, I know it's not a Christian way to act, but I dont' think it's really a sin..

Ayway, I'm so confused and would like to know which of us is right.. ?

Answer 1

How about a compromise - one week go to his church, the next week go to your church where they teach what you believe. Does he insist you sit and listen to his relatives and then won't listen to your religious leaders. Point out to him that a marriage is a give & take thing. He must not force you to always go to his church when it is not what you believe. Even though the bible says the woman is to submit to the man, it is not in his best interest to alienate you by forcing you to do something you detest. That's what causes divorce.

Answer 2

There is no right and wrong way. Almost every person thinks a different way. Its extremely hard to find a person that agrees 100% the way you do. All you can do is read your bible and believe what is given to you.

I suggest that you and your husband agree to disagree. Respect each others rights to believe what you want, and realize that you are bound by Christ and there is no stronger power.

... My personal beliefs (if it helps any) are a mid-tribulation rapture, which is the rapture in the middle of tribulation. I don't believe that you go straight to heaven or hell after you die, its in the bible, its kind of a limbo except on on side is the lake of fire and the other is paradise presumably in the middle of the earth. You wait there for judgment day.
The whole dying after being saved if your a sinner is complicated. I believe that if you can sin and not repent and you don't have it in your heart then your not a true Christian to begin with.
I don't believe its a very classy way for anyone to act, swearing and all, but i don't think it is a sin, although i do remember something in the bible talking about swearing so it could be a sin.

Answer 3

Memorize the following...
Romans 8:1
There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.

So don't feel condemned. Bone up on your scripture to debate them. Do not be aggressive about it, teach them in love. If they refuse to listen, then commend them to the Holy Spirit to deal with them. Do the same yourself. You are not correct in your doctrine either. You need to be corrected yourself, so do not resist the Spirit or His Word.

"They don't believe in the rapture. I do"
So does Paul in Thessalonians and Isaiah 26:19-21

"They believe we're living in the tribulation now, I believe that will happen after the rapture."
You are right, they are wrong. How long have they believed that we have been in the tribulation? Over 7 years? Gee, how long before we are in the millennium? Where's the temple in Israel? They only have a few more years to get it built.
http://www.schneblin.com/studies/pdfs/introduction_to_revelation.pdf
http://www.schneblin.com/studies/pdfs/seventieth_week_of_daniel.pdf

"They believe that if you die after being saved, that you will go to Heaven, even if you've sinned. (Say you die while drunk driving.. I don't think you can get into heaven unless you were somehow able to repent before you died)"
They are right. You are wrong. Jesus died for all your sins, past, present and future.
http://schnebin.blogspot.com/2006/05/can-you-lose-your-salvation.html

"I get a lot of crap from my husband because I cuss sometimes. He says it's a sin, I believe it's a man-made sin, and not a hell-worthy trespass."
Yes, it is sin. Do not try to candy-coat it. Call a spade a spade and do not excuse unrighteousness. God has called you to be holy and to be a witness. So deal with it rather than make excuses.

"I know it's not a Christian way to act, but I don't think it's really a sin."
The blood of Jesus removes ALL sin from our lives. We are not to feel condemned. But remember that there is also our fruit. Would you consider this a fruit of the spirit, or a workof the flesh? Galatians 5:16-26

Answer 4

Your husband, father in law and uncles are preaching the Calvinist viewpoint. During the reformation the protestant Church split into Calvinist and Wesleyan beliefs following the two Church reformers. Calvinists believe like your husband and father in law that "once saved, always saved". Wesleyans believe that you can fall from grace and need to repent of your sins to be saved again, (this is what I believe as well). If you wanted to dig into it deeper, the Calvinist belief has no basis in Biblical truth. If you follow Calvin to the letter, he believed that God predestined who would go to heaven and who would go to hell before we were ever born. If that is the case, why follow God at all? That is why I believe the Wesleyan theology and that we must continue to follow God and continue to pursue him and to become more and more like Jesus every day.

As far as sitting through Church listening to things being preached that you know are not true, you are just going to have to tell your husband that you are following your heart and what you feel Jesus is leading you to do and find a Church that preaches what you believe in your heart of hearts to be the truth. If he loves you and truly loves the Lord he will understand and maybe you can get through to him.

As far as cussing, I have to say I believe it is a sin and the closer you get in your walk with Jesus I believe you will get further and further away from the desire to cuss, (I know I did), I used to cuss like a sailor, (which I was) and as I grew in my faith the desire to cuss faded away. I'm now very offended by cussing and I will often give someone an alternative word or phrase to use. Read this www.cusscontrol.com/swearing.html
As far as who is right, I believe you are right and if you take the time to research the differences between John Calvin and John Wesley's teachings you will agree.

Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 5

Cussing is Slang it is when u take the Lords name in vein that is swearing. Personally I think rapture is something we ea face as individuals. Drunk driving is human law the bible only refers to using worship facilitys to drunkeness. Tribulation :: I think about often b/c so much goes on now like sickness and disease murder war and technology advances that will make you uptight & conservative?? If God did not want us in space he would not grant the brains success and devotion to such study. So the way I am I do not like to evangelize on what I believe. I was raised catholic. my dad remarried a Mormon so am familiar w/this deeply. Converted to Protestant in the army married into methodist. So if u broaden your horizions u are open minded to alot of things.So just b/c family are so called preachers does not probid you to inquire what other christians believe at other churches. If u think I am wrong go to a different church for awhile and see if u don't get opposition!!

Answer 6

We, as believers, must believe the same on the essentials of the faith, but beyond that there is great latitude. This latitude is what causes so many different flavors of Christianity. Diversity is a good thing, but disunity is not. This does not lift the responsibility Christians have to love one another (1 John 4:11-12) – and ultimately be united as one in Christ (John 17:21-22).

Answer 7

First. Do you believe that the Lord Jesus Christ went to the cross to clean you of your sins?
Do you believe that the Lord Jesus Christ is the Son of God?
Do you believe that Jesus Christ rose on the third day and went to heaven?

If you truly believe in these three things then you will meet Christ in Heaven.

Paul wrote that once in the hands of God no one can take you from him. So if you are truly saved then even if you sinned today you will get to heaven
The Rapture has not happened and we are not living in the Tribulation time.
Pray and ask the Holy Spirit to show you and comfort you.

Work on your cussing, even if you think it is a man sin it is not lady like.

Gory to God

Answer 8

In a Roman Catholic wedding ceremony ceremony, you need to promise to strengthen your children Catholic, and the couple maximum go via teaching stated as "Pre-Canna". Technically both are sorts of Christianity, so this heavily isn't a sturdy celebration of a pair with different beliefs- they in basic terms have different takes on the scriptures and doctrine. For any authentic set of differing religions, it relies upon fullyyt on the couple in touch. definite, there are quite some faiths that dictate how the children of a wedding ceremony must be raised, yet I doubt that it the form one element in any couple's determination on the matter. a wedding ceremony is a compromise, and those judgements are regularly made as such.

Answer 9

Firstly - just because they're preachers does not mean their word is the infallible word of God. You CAN argue with their logic. I don't know which of you is right (because I think you're both wrong), but what it comes down to is can you two respect one another's different beliefs enough to keep this from becoming a problem in your marriage? If yes - great. You can disagree - there's no law saying you have to share your husband's beliefs.

Answer 10

We don't get a free pass to do what we want once we decide to follow Christ. The notion of "once saved, always saved" is not Biblical. We are called to follow Christ and to keep our focus on Him--not to try to do "good works" on our own and hope God approves. Since we're saved by grace and not by works, the only way we can be considered righteous at all is through Christ. Bad habits will always be a struggle for us in this world, but what's important is that we keep persevering and growing in our faith in Christ so that we will become more like Him and our "rough edges" will become less and less.

Check out the first two links below. I hope they will encourage you and strengthen you in your walk with Christ. If I can help answer any other questions you may have, feel free to drop me a line at [e-mail]. Take care.

Answer 11

God bless you. Your heart is in the right place and I believe Jesus is in your heart guiding you. I wouldn't worry about your husband, his dad, and his uncles. Just because they don't believe in the rapture don't mean they won't be caught up with the rest of us as long as they preach Jesus and Him risen.
As far as going to heaven after sinning, only God can judge whether a person is really worthy of heaven.