My husband is in the Army, currently at Fort Carson. I am pregnant and my due date is August 5th. Today he asked for his leave form and they told him that he can't take any leave because they are leaving to NTC on August 5th. Is there anything he can do to stay back home at least for a week???
2007-04-17 07:51:38 · 14 answers · asked by ? 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Perhaps he should speak with the Chaplain. He does not have to tell his chain of command why he is speaking with the Chaplain either. It supposed to be confidential. And yes I understand that babies are being born everyday while their fathers are over in Iraq and Afghan, but your husband is not there yet. They should not deprive him the opportunity of being with his wife during the birth of the baby. Personally, I would raise hell about it, but that is just me. I see no reason why he can't be with you for the birth and then after a day or two go back to his unit. It is a training center for goodness sakes not the actual combat zone!
I am not speaking from the side of my mouth either. I served in the Army and had to deal with situations like this for myself and other soldiers. So, I know how you are feeling.
By the way, has he spoken with the commander about it? A company commander has an open door policy. Maybe he should speak with he/she before the Chaplain just to give someone in his chain a chance to intervene. Just a thought.
No matter what, I wish you and your husband the very very best. I hope everything works out in your favor. It is so important for him as a daddy to be there for the birth of his child. Also, tell your husband THANK YOU for serving.
God bless.
2007-04-17 08:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by Goober W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had the EXACT same problem - hubby was supposed to leave for JRTC on my due date. I talked to his CO and 1SG about it, and they said that it was really up to the squadron/battalion level commander. They said they can put in a good word for him, but that ultimately it's not their decision. My husband put in for leave, and was told he could probably take it, but that he'd have to leave for JRTC a few days after the birth. Luckily he's being left on Rear D for other reasons, so it's going to work out. I'd have hubby talk to the CO if he hasn't already, or you talk to him if you're comfortable doing so. (My husband's command is really approachable, so I don't mind asking them questions, but he's had COs before that I never would have dared talk to, so I understand if that's not an option.)
Keep in mind that NTC dates can change, especially since it's so far in advance. They gave us a window for their JRTC rotation, and said that it can always change by a few days to a week.
Also, if the baby comes early or late, it may not be an issue. I had actually spoken to my OB at the military hospital and he told me that he would be willing to induce me ON my due date (not a day before) if it meant my husband could be there. Maybe between the command and your OB you can work out some sort of agreement to induce and have hubby leave for NTC just a few days late?
Good luck, I hope it works out for you guys!
2007-04-17 11:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sucks, but he has to go. Unless there are extenuating circumstances, like a complication, he has to go. If there are additional medical issues, your doctor will have to do the paperwork and forward that to his chain of command.
Buuuut if it is just a case that you are having a baby and you want him there, well, sorry. Gotta suck that one up. The mission has to go on. There will always be field exercises, schools, NTCs and deployments. But *we* gotta suck it up and hold it down while they are gone. You arent the only person in the world to have a baby while husband is gone. I see lots of pregnant women walking around here and there are only a few soldiers here on rear d. So they are having those babies all by theirselves too! Call your family in, friends...do what you need to do. But dont try to keep husband home. He has a job to do!
2007-04-17 09:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they told him no, I'm pretty sure the answer is no. It sucks, but when your husband is in the military, so are you by proxy. Needs of the Army will come first as long as he is in the Army. The only thing he may be able to do is request to talk to someone higher up his chain of command, but that is just an idea. The orders to pull leave chits for mission requirements usually come from those people higher in the chain of command.
2007-04-17 09:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly. I know my husband was supposed to leave 2 days before my last child was due. Its up to his unit if they will leave him behind to pick up the slack here. Or...another wife is in the same situation now. They are leaving him behind for delivery and then he will come with the next set of soldiers.
You can also talk to your dr. about a possible induction or get a statement from them that you are alone and need somebody to be with you.
2007-04-17 08:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I comprehend what you're dealing with yet contained in the comparable experience, i don't comprehend. Its such as you reported, you help him contained in the flaws he desires to do. Now its time for him to help you. Its no longer unreasonable so you might choose for him to be there around the due date. What if some thing does pass incorrect, you elect for somebody there to be your help. you do no longer might desire to be stressing your self out close on your due date questioning if each little thing would be ok. whilst my husband and that i had our 2d new child, i'm undecided what handed off however the toddler grow to be in misery and that they had to place me on oxygen and take a examine out to furnish the toddler. fortuitously it wasn't something enormous. yet i comprehend if I were on my own, i does no longer have been waiting to stay calm or something. I mean if he insists on going then a minimum of you have family members close to by using yet do tell him the way it makes you experience. enable him comprehend that it bothers you. That yeah he might desire to bounce on a airplane yet what if he would not make it on time. those are interestingly significant to you so as that they might desire to be significant on your husband too. Sorry thats in basic terms how i think approximately it although.
2016-10-03 03:24:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doubtful unless there are severe medical issues with your pregnancy. Mission always takes precedence over personal leave time.
I have a friend who literally dropped his wife off at the hospital when her water broke and went directly to the pier to get underway for 4 months.
2007-04-17 10:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on his level in the unit. He may be a valuable member of the unit, one they can't do without, but usually they give men in his position the opportunity to take leave. Have you considered having it a week sooner? I don't know how dangerous that is, but I've heard of women inducing labor early for various reasons.
2007-04-17 08:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by Curtis B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are going to have a c-section i guess your husband is going to miss it but if the doctor says that you would probably go into labor for that day the most probable thing is that you either have the baby before or after august 5th. believe me, the date the obgyn gives you is just for you to have an idea but never ends up happening when they told you
2007-04-17 08:01:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lili 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I remember right, NTC is a combat training center at ft Erwin?
If that is right, it is probably the best training he will recieve if he hasn't been already. That is still a dck move on his supperior's part.
Oh, and congrats!
2007-04-17 07:58:57 · answer #10 · answered by b s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋