Or can I just want him to be happy, even able to get married if he's lucky enough to find that kind of lasting love. I must admit, I'd be worried about him, having to face more challenges and dangers at the hands of hateful people, but I'd never deny the possibility that God could love him so much that he sent his son to die for him as well, and that my son would still be with me in heaven. After all, Jesus didn't hate anybody as far as I know....
2007-04-17 06:27:36 · 38 answers · asked by Matthew Star 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Jesus said nothing about hating homosexuals.
In fact, he preached tolerance and love for all of mankind.
According to the OT, homosexuality is a sin on the same level as eating lobster or wearing a poly-cotton blend. (Seriously, look it up.)
Worse crimes include: disobeying your parents, bestiality, and touching a menstruating woman's bed.
Besides, all evidence says that people are born attracted to their own gender (just as it occurs in other creatures, when populations become more than the habitat can sustain). I have friends who realized they were attracted to the same gender when they hit puberty - no "choice" made, it just was.
Do you think God would want you to hate someone for being made differently?
I think Jesus would want you to love your son unconditionally. Be supportive, and ask him why he feels the way he does. If you listen to him, you may learn something that many people would never bother to ask about.
2007-04-17 06:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by Johnny Sane 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am not your brother or sister in Christ, but I do consider myself your sister as part of this human race on this planet.
If my son were gay, I would wish him all the happiness in the world and even though it would distress me greatly the amount of hardship he will have to endure. But the fact that people will hate and discriminate against him will make me even more resolute to stand by him and love him for who he is. If he is gay, then let him be the best gay person he can be- successful, happy, spiritually fulfilled, with a love for life and family!
But then again, I am pagan not Christian and I do not believe that homosexuality is a sin. To me it is no different than having a left handed child or a child with an unusual gift.
The compassionate Christians will tell you to love the sinner and hate the sin. However since they consider being gay (something you cannot change and yet cannot express within that faith) a sin, so I don't know how exactly this works. Seems you will not be able to allow your son to live his life and have your love and a place at your table in your home at the same time if you are a Christian which I am sure will cause him endless heartache and isolation.
Since your gay son is not allowed to be gay, then I do not know how exactly you will resolve that one. My brother in law is gay and has been trying unsuccessfully to "change" his orientation in order to please his "hate the sin love the sinner" Christian family and friends. It is causing much heartache and distress in the family, especially for his wife who should have never been married to a supposedly ex-gay man in the first place.
So perhaps you may not want advice from an ole witch like me but I think when you have to choose between love, compassion and humanity & doctrine, you chose the former.
2007-04-17 06:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by pixie_pagan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a sister; in Christ.
No, absolutely NOT should u hate ur son.Ever.
You could hate what he does,his lifestyle choice, but NOT him.
1 Cor 6:9....most applicable,really.
Pr 6:15-19....7 hated things.
Eph 5:3,5....holy ppl; inheritance in the Kingdom of the Christ and of God
1 Cor 5:9-13....Fornication
As I read ur Q, I thought don't b worried about the challenges he'll face regarding man....but God. Don't worry,pray for him.
Will ur son, read & listen to the Word of God? If so, then take him to it,or it to him.
Yes, HE does love him.
And No, Jesus didn't hate ANYBODY.
In my own life a similiar exp., as far as my son had made a choice in his life,that went directly against the Word of God.My son knowing where I stood on the issue,on the side of God/HIS Word, b-4 he ever proceeded to follow thru on his actions, still did what he had decided to do. My 'Entire' family(about 50 ppl) even those that claim Christianity, said I have to support him etc...
No, I Don't.
Not only r we 2 different ppl., but I would/will not go against my God,Creator & heavenly Father. My son & I had an emotionally charged discussion (not argueing), & in the end I stood firm on the Word of God, It will NOT fail us.
As a result, of my Faith & holding true to it, less than 2 years later my son's life was saved.
I thank Jehovah God All the time,for sparing my son.
And thank HIM for giving me HIS Word.
2007-04-17 07:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because Hate is Sin and just wrong . What has hate ever
done but destroy . Hate is one of the big reasons this world
is the way it is. If you are truly a Christian , your love should
be overflowing as was Jesus . Never give up , always show
Love with the word of God . Never stop Praying for him and
alway stay on the side of God . There are many reference to
this activity in the Bible . Its hard I know and now where in the
Bible does it say that its going to be easy , but you must have
faith and then God will give you peace .
2007-04-17 06:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by S.O.T.C. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother in Christ, my opinion is that you should love your son under all conditions. It is not up to people to judge other people. After all, in the Bible it says "all have fallen short of the glory of God." All equals everybody. Sin is sin to God. People are the ones that add degrees from bad to worse. God loves all his creation -- in my opinion he only adament about one thing and that is that everyone accept his son, Jesus, as Lord and Savior. I have a 360 page that trys to bring ALL to Christ, if your son is not a Christian, please recommend that he read: http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-HptHqJk1cqc7T8z8WQtIFryr If he's already a Christian, then there is nothing you need to be but love your son. Love, your sister in Christ Diane Rebecca
2007-04-17 06:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by Diane H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hate your son, but love him. He may or may not have homosexual tendencies, but this is no different from "screwing around": both are condemned in the Bible, but God loves the world, and asks us to do the same. We live in an age of grace, and we have the duty to show such grace to everyone, be they homosexual, lesbian, promiscuous heterosexual or hetero having sex outside marriage. We have a duty to show them they're heaping up trouble for themselves with God, but also to show them God forgives all things through Christ, if they accept Him as God, Lord and Saviour.
May God bless you in your struggles, too.
2007-04-17 10:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by Already Saved 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. God does not "hate anyone" and neither should we. He hates the sin not the sinner. We are all sinners. And if our sin is not being gay than it is something else. We need to accept others where they are and just continue to be a witness for Christ. After that it is up to them.
2007-04-17 06:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate your son? No, of course not. We, all of us with children, worry about them and their search for happiness. You would, IMHO, be a very odd father if you ever stopped worrying about your son.
So, this is a task which you face, and is a challenge to your own faith: how to continue to love and appreciate your son even though he is, what you take to be, so different from yourself.
HTH
Charles
2007-04-17 06:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by Charles 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says that "a guy shouldn't lie with yet another guy as he could lie with a woman" which skill God curiously frowns upon gay intercourse even however he says no longer something approximately gay relationships, i.e, marriage. i used to be a Christian, and that i hated how a extensive form of them appeared to dislike gay human beings.
2016-12-10 04:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not only did Jesus not hate people. he hung out with the outcasts. the prostitutes, the lepers, the theives...and most likely, the "gays". Jesus NEVER mentioned homosexuality to our knowledge and it is not mentioned anywhere in the gospels. The passages that we are all most familiar with in the old testament have been taken out of context. I mean what sinner wears burlap sacks and eats locusts today? if we followed all that now, there would be very few who could manage it. lay off your boy. love him with your whole body and soul. he is your flesh and blood. and most of all he needs his dad now more than ever.
2007-04-17 06:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by Therese L 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋