How do you discipline your kids spiritually?

Question

So they dont give into human vices like anger and hate and then shoot people like the guy in VTech.

I said discipline. That calls for some amount of pressure to make the kid see something they refuse to see.

What do you do if the kid showed disrespect to you as a parent and used swear words? All this goodness is cool but what do you do when theyre teenagers and have hormones running in their veins?

Answer 1

you woop their a$$es like they do in third world countries like throughout the caribbean. you ever heard of a kid in trinidad or the bahamas or jamaica or wherever going berzerk and shooting up his classmates? no. why? because when they do wrong they get their butts whipped. they ain't allowed to act out and do as they please... you think a kid in jamaica can yell at his parents and go "no i'm not gonna eat that" he better shut up, eat it, and like it. replace anger and hate with the fear of a firm butt whipping...it sounds cruel but it works..

Answer 2

Anger can be extremely beneficial if it is channelled properly. Kids need to be taught how to do this. Anger is an emotion that spurs people to action - the trick is to be able to identify the action that might actually fix the problem and right the wrong, rather than create more wrong.

The cure for hate is empathy. Kids need to be raised to think about how other people feel, how their actions affect them, and see themselves in relation to others. Even those we dislike, maybe we can learn to understand (and still dislike them but not hate them), and it takes some of the sting away.

The guy in VTech was unstable and did not have any healthy coping mechanisms.

Answer 3

The training and discipline of a child should start early and be done with love and understanding. If the child is introduced to the Bible early and is taught right from wrong, they have a better chance at a loving and understanding adulthood. Family life and a good set of loving parents is extremely important to rearing a child. Broken homes and dysfunctional families tend to "reap" what the "sow". The apple does not fall far from the tree.

"And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus." 2 Timothy 3:15

"And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord."
Ephesians 6:4

"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6

Answer 4

I teach mine compassion and kindness. I try to set an example. When they misbehave, we talk about how the other person might feel.

My daughters 5th grade teacher told me that she "set an example of compassion to all the other children."

She and I are Atheists.

(edit) You don't "pressure" people to behave morally. Otherwise they don't hold morality as a value and are just behaving in a certain way to get a reward. If they are disrespectful to someone, I would send them to their room. Our son used to be rude to guests so we gave him "etiquette lessons" every night for a few weeks. That cured things.

Answer 5

I pray for wisdom and continue teaching them God's word. Directing them to what HE says and how important He is.
I remind them of the gospel of Jesus Christ, and whenever a situation arises, I just remind them of what His word says. I explain to them that I love them too much to see them grow up to hate and behave that way--

Ephesians 6:4
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Also:Proverbs 22:6
Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

Answer 6

corners, grounding, a swat on the butt when necessary (believe me they hurt each other more when they're playing) I think the most important part is consistency though, my kids never question whether or not the rules apply, and I make sure they know why the rules apply, usually using the "how would you feel if somebody did that to you" method

Answer 7

I don't "spiritually discipline"
We do teach them right from wrong. And consequences for their decisions. We teach them personal responsibility, and love and kindness to others.

Answer 8

you have to have faith that the foundations you instilled them on are firm ,
you have only to love them ,to be firm but fair ,to let them know that you love them but that god loves them more,

that as a mother you cant ever hate them , nor will god, but you and god can be disappointed [or proud ] of the things the do well in or that they may fail in

fruit dosnt fall far from the tree ,meaning they are the best of you as well as well as the worst of you [and your partner /and thier peers] ,clearly they will have been taught to think for themselves
they know wrong from right ,god has a plan to refine thier learnings ,and others have plans to subvert them , but their house is near built ,they are getting thier own lives ,life is hard enough without our added fears and .or hopes

they must allways know they are loved ,there comes that time soon they must test life for them selves , hopefully spreading that love [gods love ,from thier lives into the many lives of others
but this time is of thier chosing ,all we can do is to prepare them for that time the wind blows knowing we gave to them all that god gave us to see to do

we must believe that god loves all ,in the worst case as with the vtech ,we know that god does that which men fail to do ,

many have come into and from life before us ,they are all with god ,if ,when the worst comes to worse they /we all will as well

god feels as your question suggests you to so feel , god feels
the same with each one of his children [who is not a child of god]
but this body [all bodies ] contain a living eternal spirit ,the flesh is weak ,but you /me /us all must know beleve and have faith in god to know that via god [love /life] god makes the spirit to know it is of grace and truth indestructable

the guy at vteq gave signs that people missed
to man from a point of vieuw of the flesh [mortal eyes] but to each of us was given a definate ammount of time here ,

those who ''died ' are not ''dead'' thier gone to higher being ,
thier spirits are as if chosen by fate but we know not just of fate that the departed all leave only to higher calling ,to higher reason and purpose

god is fair ,is full of grace ,he knows to the second who lives , for how long , who ''dies'' ,but in knowing this he also knows there is no death

really it seems like there are so many questions unanswered i will post to see if they are replied

Answer 9

Well, just talk with them. . . . . . .

But if they still misbehave make well sure they know that you can "Bring the hammer (of Thor) down on them"

^_^

Answer 10

With the compassion and forgiveness of Jesus. He didn't say "turn the other cheek" for nothing. . . . . .