I'm pregnant and my husband is deployed. He's scheduled to be back a week AFTER I have out baby. How can I get him home in time? Is there anything that I can do?
2007-04-17 05:16:54 · 30 answers · asked by AshReneeM 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I am sorry but no, there is no way. You could make it easier for him by not making him feel guilty for being there. He is doing his job, do yours by keep him informed on how things are going. Have someone video tape the birth for you so he can see it. Let him know you will do that for him. Be supportive of him, let him know he married a strong woman who can care for herself and their child while he is away. Just drop the guilt. Be strong and make it easier on all three of you.
2007-04-17 05:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by JAN 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Hey girl hang in there. Pray you will be overdue. Im in a pickle too. My husband is deployed also. Im 7 1/2 months pregnant and we also have a 9 1/2 month old and a 5 year old. I am having severe backpain due to carying our 9 1/2 month old. I need help and have no help. Im workin on sending a red cross but i find out tommorow how it will work out. Feel free to im me at armywife2ross or email me at armywife2ross@yahoo.com. And keep your head high. Dont listen to some of the heartless comments on here you need love and support not to be cut down. Yes this the life of an army wife but that dosnt make it easy. Hang in there and please contact me because I need someone to talk to also. We may not be in the same boat but we are in the same sea lol. Take care I know its tough.
2007-04-20 18:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by armywife2ross 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but there's not. Maybe you'll be lucky and the baby'll be a few days late and then your husband could be there for you guys. Good luck and congrats on your baby ;-)
I just want to say one other thing regarding some of the posters above me.....some of you people are being extremely cruel to this woman. If you have kids and you've had your husband away then you should be showing her some compassion instead of talking to her in such hateful ways. Military spouses should be kind to each other since we all know how hard it is to have our spouses miss important things. Just because you become a military spouse does NOT mean that you can shut off all other normal human emotions and her wanting her husband home for the birth of their child is something that we should all be able to understand. Jeez...some of you really showed your true colors when responding to this question.
2007-04-17 05:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by . 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Very hard question, I tend to agree with most of the others whom have answered. Unfortunatly that is military life.........although if he is scheduled to be home a week after the birth and this is already known then most likley their mission is already over and they are changing out with the next unit, he may be able to get home on the advanced party but I would not expect anything as everyone has a reason to be home early. GOOD LUCK
2007-04-17 15:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by mar036 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one to answer!
He could schedule his R & R during that time frame but would be difficult to do if he will be deploying home the following week. If you have any trouble during your pregnancy (high blood pressure, etc), you could send a Red Cross message if the doctor feels his presence is needed. I've had friends who have done this and their husband made it back in time for the delivery with about 2 weeks leave.
It depends on the branch of service and your husbands missions, but it can be done. Talk to your Family Readiness Leader and see what options you have.
Good Luck! Our prayers are with you and your husband!
2007-04-17 05:29:53 · answer #5 · answered by Older Sister 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You aren't a controlling spouse, if some thing you could have been means too accommodating for this further addition in your loved ones. While I comprehend traditions and customs, there is something that are supposed to translate throughout cultures! Married couples want privateness and in case your husband's buddy are not able to admire that then it is practically considering he is in no way been taught that he must admire your privateness. Its seen that he would possibly not produce other peers and accordingly reveals solace whilst he is placing out with you men. But you'll slowly start to ween this man out of your lives quite by way of declaring you 2 have plans to move out, or if he calls inform him that you will not be to be had till so and so time. But the backside line is that your husband must be in a position to speak to his buddy and inform him that he desires to spend first-rate time together with his spouse... so the ball must be in his courtroom, without reference to how complex he would possibly view it. It's both that or pull out the couch sofa considering you can each have a everlasting roommate!! Good good fortune!
2016-09-05 15:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but that is not the kind of emergency where they will just let him pack up and go a week early! If there is a true medical emergency the Red Cross might be able to get him shipped home but not for being preggers. Navy wives have babies every deployment and their husbands do not get to come home!
2007-04-17 05:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by Coasty 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel so bad, my husband is deploying May 9th to Iraq and we just found out that I'm pregnant with our first baby. So suck it up, when my husband comes home my baby's going to be anywhere from 4 to 6 months old. S/he won't even know who he is.
2007-04-17 16:25:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sherrie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey umm I understand that you want you man there by your side and that it is important and a blessing to have this baby. However, if he is in the military you have to know that there will be times, special times, in which you are going to be all alone and that HAS to be ok with you. He is fulfilling his duty and needs your support. Yes, you also need support but in this case the one that needs to understand is you. I suggest you ask for a web cam so that he gets to see the birth and you get to hear him and see him on the other side. Other than that I think there is no hope in making him come back for the birth. Good Luck and Congrats on the baby!
2007-04-17 05:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by EV 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not going to happen. Thousands of babies a year are born to military families when the father is deployed. He will be home when he is supposed to be home. If he has a cool chain of command he may get home sooner, but the military is not going to harbor the cost of flying your husband home ahead of schedule because of the birth of your baby. Yes it sucks, but it is part of the reality that you took on when you married a military man. Duty first. Sorry.
2007-04-17 05:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing you can do. Just be happy he's coming home then. I have two friends, one just had a baby and her husband deployed a week later. The other is due in July and her husband is deploying in August.
I see so many banners at the Main Gate here that say, "Welcome Home Daddy! I can't wait to meet you!"
Makes me sad for them.
I can't wait for my husband to come home.
2007-04-17 16:57:34 · answer #11 · answered by hollybear1280 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋