i'm in love with my baby daddy's brother and we've been seeing each other for 5 months. I know i should end it but i love him too much and i don't want any one to get hurt
2007-04-17 05:00:03 · 25 answers · asked by sw1thugangel73 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are messin' with fire! End it now!!! Never never never mess with brothers. It will hurt you and him, but you have to do this.
Good luck. :)
2007-04-17 05:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by searching_please 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Although I dont think it's ideal, i dont think it's the worst thing ever. Obviously dickwad isn't going to be there. Unfortunately, the dad/uncle's side of the family is going to give you problems forever. If he's serious about her then he needs to be aware that he might lose his family. The real issue I think is whether or not your daughter is doing it out of spite or if this is her "rebound". if she doesnt love him or isnt 100% sure this is the love of her life and her future husband, then she shouldn't disturb the family in that way. As far as kids, it might be wise for them not to have anymore kids. She already has two, one of whch doesnt even live with her. She really shouldn't be adding anymore confusion to the whole thing. If they're really in love and definitely have a future together then why not? The kids will be stable, she will be a married woman, happily with a family a home...I dont think she should sacrifice all that because of someone's opinions. Good luck!
2016-05-17 08:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've gone too far for noone to get hurt. Whom does know about this? Five months is a long time, and your baby's dad probably does know about this. Do you have a mother-in-law. Is she involved with both her boys? She is your baby's grandmother, and before this goes further, make friends with her about your baby, and make sure your baby is loved and connected to its family.
Then comes the "me" part. Does his brother love you? How does he feel about taking over the role of the father in this?
Don't push both buttons at once. Tell him you're worried your baby will be ignored or left out of the grandmothers life because of this, and you want to build a family with at least her. You will have her, because you may lose either, or both of them. (and their sisters, my gosh, get their mother to like you and your baby)
You will have to cool it enough to try to see where you are going with the brother, and if he wants to go there too. Then, a shift can be made. This is very dangerous. and they may have done this earlier, and now it is real life, with family and children. Go slow, you aren't totally wrong, although probably young, you need to make some good connections, and make it the grandmother, and then one or the other brother
2007-04-17 05:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Love My Baby Daddy
2016-10-01 10:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by giannini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already hurt EVERYONE involved.
You've hurt the father of your child.
You've also hurt the brother, because now, thanks to YOU, his relationship with his brother will NEVER be the same when this all comes out. You should have thought about "not hurting" people before you made decisions to do this, Hon.
Anyway, all you can do now is come clean and face the music. Worst case scenario, you lose them both. But, don't you think for one minute that the truth won't come out. The truth ALWAYS comes out.
2007-04-17 05:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is hell fire not hot enough! Get thee to church and seek a counselor there! You must realize a crush-- does not mean you leave your husband ruin your childs family life, all the rest of the family would hate you to death and your repuation is shot to pieces. You are not ready for any marriage honey. But here you are---you can expect to get laid by this guy but hes not going be a skank that goes with his bros wife. Pray sweetheart pray not to lose your soul. Ask God for help with your lust problem, and you do have one. Its all in your head this lusty romance crap--start getting real--or lose what good you have.
2007-04-17 05:10:06 · answer #6 · answered by kim 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a sick person. What the heck are you thinking with? Do you really get that wet? Grow up! What do you want to tell your baby? This is your uncle Joe? Then go to bed with him? They should give people a test before they have kids. That way people like you won't make babies.
2007-04-17 05:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by ellasdaughter2004 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well ...ummm...who do u love more...your own baby's daddy or his brother...remember that you have to end it as soon as possible n try not to hurt your baby or antyhign liek that...and does the brother of ur babys daddy like u tooo....remember how much does he like comparing to ur own babys daddy
2007-04-17 05:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should stop seeing each other.it can be more hurtful not only to you but to everyone especially for your baby.if you just think about your baby you'll understand why.if you cant be a good wife just be a good mother.it remains forever.if you cant stop it just be honest to your husband.and think about this how can his brother keep on seeing you if he already know that your with his brother.don't you think maybe his up for something
2007-04-17 05:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by wa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a new soap on BET: As the Project Bullets Fly
2007-04-17 05:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Unless the father of your baby is dead....end things before it blows up in your face.
2007-04-17 05:03:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋